New Christian Struggling to find right answers

[DawnTillery]

I have a lot of questions as most new christians usually do.
I have asked for forgiveness in many different ways, I have been given this 7 step procedure to make sure I have repented of every sin I possibly could of made - I have been reading the book of Matthew From Chapter 5 through Chapter 7, where jesus speaks of murders, salt and light, fullfillment of the law, adultry, divorce, oats etc.
My question is about Divorce. I am divorced, My ex husband just wasn't the man for me and I didnt find out till later, I know he messed around on me before we were married, but I married him anyways, I am not sure if he did afterwards, but I did him. I seperated from him and ended up living with another guy prior to my divorce and marriage to him. I was reading about the adultry and Divorce. Can these sins be repented?
I have been told 1. I would have to divorce my husband for the sin to go away, I have been told Adultry can not be repented. this is very confusing for me, because other passages of the bible says repent and you will be saved, but in Matthew (as far as I got) it is not so plain, it goes into great detail. I will tell you I have not read the entire bible, I am working it in the read the bible in a year and i am reading things that people send me to help me work on my faith. I really need to know what exactly Jesus was saying here and how do I repent for these things if possible?
Thank you
Dawn

 

[Jun_Canada]

Im not really a bible expert myself but Jesus loves you! He doesnt want any of his children going to hell.

Isaiah 43:25
"I, even I, am he who blots out
your transgressions, for my own sake,
and remembers your sins no more.

If you ask for forgivness and truly feel repentance in your heart, God will forgive you.

 

[The_White]

BAH. remember, everything was written in the context of that time, at that point in time a husband could get a divorce for just about any reason (she uses to much salt in the cooking, her sister looks better, I think she might possibly have a sorta friendship with another guy)

The minister at the Baptist church I used to go to is divorced and re-married if that counts for anything.

And you don't need 7 steps to repent (If it helps you though there is no reason not to) simply something along these lines

Father, I have sinned.
I may not remember everything I have done wrong, but for all of it I repent.
Please forgive me and work in my life according to your will

would be more that sufficient if you truly mean it

 

[ShaunJ]

I have been told Adultry can not be repented. this is very confusing for me, because other passages of the bible says repent and you will be saved, but in Matthew (as far as I got) it is not so plain, it goes into great detail.

I have the best advice that you can get for this situation. NEVER go by what someone says about something. Always look to your bible for the answers. I don't know who told you that God won't forgive you for adultry but they were wrong.

Jesus forgives all sins and the more you read the more you will learn about his love for you. Just stay in your bible and don't take everything people tell you and think its absolute truth. Always make sure it goes with what Gods word says.

I haven't been a Christian for long myself and its the best advice I can give.

 

[God_follower]

I wouldnt say never go by what someone says, just make sure they know what they are talking about. Every sin is able to be repented of, just say Lord I repent of this or that. God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. Just seek Him and trust Him to provide, I know thats hard, but thats what it takes.

 

[brinley45cal]

Well the bible say not to be unequly yoked with an unbeliver,hence married or partnership things like that.There are a few reasons in the bible that make it ok to divorce and i can give you those scriptures if you would like them just let me know.One reason is adultry,if this happens you are free to divorce.Also If you are married and you become a beliver after you are married and your spouse does not accept you for becomming a beliver you are free to divorce,but if he accepts you even though hes not a beliver then it would not be ok to divorce.
I dont have my bible near me at the moment but its all biblical and if you would like those scriptures i would be more than happy to find them and send them to you.

 

[Endure2]

the whole divorce issue, and how that works is something im not so sure on.
id find a good marraige counselor or pastor that i know i could trust to know the truth, im glad that i personally have those in my life, not everyone is so fortunate.

regardless of how divorce works, youve done what youve done, and there is absolutely no sin that cannot be forgiven.
there is only one sin that cannot be forgiven and it isnt even a real action that you can take, it is a state of heart that refuses to be forgiven by God and completely pushes God away at all costs, im sure you probly dont want me to go into all the details on that.

the bible says we can come boldly before the thrown of grace, hell forgive all you ever did, today is a new day.

 

[artybloke]

Watch out for those Christians who mix their faith with legalism. God loves you as what you are, and saves you as what you are.

 

[DawnTillery]

Yes I have read them - thats whats bringing all these questions up.
thank you

Well the bible say not to be unequly yoked with an unbeliver,hence married or partnership things like that.There are a few reasons in the bible that make it ok to divorce and i can give you those scriptures if you would like them just let me know.One reason is adultry,if this happens you are free to divorce.Also If you are married and you become a beliver after you are married and your spouse does not accept you for becomming a beliver you are free to divorce,but if he accepts you even though hes not a beliver then it would not be ok to divorce.
I dont have my bible near me at the moment but its all biblical and if you would like those scriptures i would be more than happy to find them and send them to you.

 

[Iosias]

I have been told Adultry can not be repented.

I do not know where they got this from...all sins can be repented and forgiven so ask Him!

 

[john14_20]

Hi Dawn.

Always be aware of legalism in disguised as Christianity.

You have been forgiven for your sins - even adultery and divorce.

You do not even have to ask God to forgive you in order to be forgiven.

It is always the right thing to do to confess your sins, yes - but not to merit or appropriate forgiveness.

We should humbly confess our sins and thank God for the forgiveness already given in Jesus Christ.

And by the true nature of Grace, that forgiveness is given to us even if we don't confess.

Conditions, contracts and legalities - these things have no place in Christianity.

Always be on the lookout for them.

Blessings to you, Pete

 

[mlmum]

Hi,

So you are in your second marriage now? Is your current husband a believer?

My thoughts are that your actions before you were a believer are treated differently to after you are a believer. I am engaged and already have a child. But I know that God has forgiven me. However, now that I am a believer I have repented - turned away from the old ways. This is what the bible talks about. Not just telling God you did it and asking for forgiveness, but actively turning away from your sins.

My fiancee and I are due to be married in November , and we have been together 4 and a half years. Even though our relationship has always been sexual, since I have become a believer (April) we stopped doing that. Because I was truly repentant and wanted to follow God's way even if "we've always done it".

If you have repented (and from what you have said you have) then you will not have adulterous relationships in the future. And if you did stumble into your old ways you repent again (not blanket permission to do what you like). The point is to learn from your mistakes and do everything in your power to not repeat them. God will always give you a way out.

God bless and Good luck

Maria

 

[DawnTillery]

First and foremost thank you all.

What I was told prior is I could be saved if my current husband and I divorced, because the sin was prior to us getting married and marriage didnt make the adultry go away.
I was told I could be saved, but I had to turn away from the adultry, because I was still in sin. Which meant divorcing my current husband, which to me didnt make much since. The preacher said divorce then be saved, basically. I never questioned him, I just quit going to church, because I didnt want to divorce my husband.
He did a sermon on if he stold a watch, and repented and kept the watch, he wasnt really sorry..
so in the same sense for me to stay married, stay in adultry, i wasnt really sorry..

 

[john14_20]

First and foremost thank you all.

What I was told prior is I could be saved if my current husband and I divorced, because the sin was prior to us getting married and marriage didnt make the adultry go away.
I was told I could be saved, but I had to turn away from the adultry, because I was still in sin. Which meant divorcing my current husband, which to me didnt make much since. The preacher said divorce then be saved, basically. I never questioned him, I just quit going to church, because I didnt want to divorce my husband.
He did a sermon on if he stold a watch, and repented and kept the watch, he wasnt really sorry..
so in the same sense for me to stay married, stay in adultry, i wasnt really sorry..

That is the worst advice I have ever heard.

That preacher has not understood the Gospel

He does not even know the first thing about Grace

It was ood for you to quit that church, but don't think every church is like that

You will find one that will accept you

Blessings, Pete

 

[mlmum]

1 Corinthians 7:17-2117 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. 18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.