Never date/marry?

[Kol]

OH GOOD LORD, teardrop, what did you do to your face?!

 

[koban4max]

I think I would like to get married someday. However, the thought of never being married has crossed my mind before and I do think it is a possibility. I've never had a girlfriend and don't see that changing anytime in the near future. However, if God really does have plans for me to marry, I'm sure I will meet someone eventually.

As for someone never marrying there is nothing wrong with that. In his first letter to the Corinthians, Paul writes, "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain unmarried as I am. But if they are not practicing self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion." (1 Corinthians 7:8-9)

That's fine, but don't go back to God later and ask him for one. HAHAHAHAH.

 

[Kol]

It seems easier, but down the road I don't want to be one of those guys that is 40, single, and not happy with it. I definitely don't want to get the the point where I commit some sort of sexual deviancy out of desperation.

Ooh..! I saw some show about that on HBO a long, long time ago. It involved frogs and potatoes, and a doctor asking, "do you want me to take it out or just change the batteries?"

Goodness, man, leave the traffic cones alone!

 

[Kol]

That's fine, but don't go back to God later and ask him for one. HAHAHAHAH.

Yeah. Ha, ha.

::is not smiling::

 

[koban4max]

That's fine, but don't go back to God later and ask him for one. HAHAHAHAH.

Yeah. Ha, ha.

::is not smiling::

 

[thenewageriseth]

Hi,

Just wondering: Has anyone had the thought cross their minds that it might just be easier to not even consider getting married or dating or anything of the sort? I've only asked a couple girls out before, and yea i know I have time because i'm young blah blah blah. I'm a pretty private person and I don't attend a lot of events where I meet new people since I'm rather introverted and uncomfortable in big groups.

Yes, it has crossed my mind in one way or another, because human relationships are the darndest and very, VERY complicated, because of human nature (the flesh) and sometimes people are funny or sometimey,etc. I'm in the middle of being introverted and extroverted (mostly introverted, as a daydreamer and an observant) writer, and I'm pretty private in most ways myself. And from time to time I have heard of bad relationships and horror stories so sick, it made me want to withdraw all the way!!

Do I want a relationship: To some extent, yes.
Do I feel prepared for one: Same answer.

Do I want one? First of all, I have a ba-zillion issues I have to conquer and deal with (mentally and spiritually) before I can even ENTER a relationship, and God knows how LONG that will actually take. It could take days, or weeks, or even years (hopefully, not the latter).

Am I willing to be rejected again or be accepted but rejected later down the road?: No, not really.

Another issue I hate being or feeling rejected. I would hate that to happen to me again (once had a crush on someone). [/quote]

 

[uiucollegeguy]

Thanks for all of your honesty. It is always nice to hear others' side of the story.

 

[moerunamida]

OH GOOD LORD, teardrop, what did you do to your face?!

This is my natural skin color I glow in the dark!

 

[DoubleK]

That's fine, but don't go back to God later and ask him for one. HAHAHAHAH.

Don't misunderstand my post, I am not saying that I don't want to marry (I actually would like to). However, at times it seems like I'll never meet anyone I'd want to marry, so this is why the thought of not marrying has entered my mind.

 

[Kol]

This is my natural skin color I glow in the dark!

Oh...I thought you were doing kabuki.

However, at times it seems like I'll never meet anyone I'd want to marry, so this is why the thought of not marrying has entered my mind.

Yeah, that's how a lot of us feel at times...

I've only really been interested in 3 or 4 girls in my life. That's why I hardly ever date, and probably why I'm not married by now. (well, that, and the fact that I only seem to be attracted to messy romances!)

I'd say, just take it cool but always keep an eye open. Some people don't ever marry, and others don't marry until their early 30's.

 

[AquaFox]

I know I'm still considered young, but I feel that I'm not one meant for relationships. I've never had a boyfriend, never dated, never really had an official homecoming date. It's a bit hard having never dated because my mom puts pressure on me to date, but I really don't want to.

I feel that God doesn't want me to be in a relationship of that sort with anyone. He has definitely helped me from being desperate and just going out with a random guy. He may have plans for me later on in life, but I don't know.

Right now, I don't ever want to date, don't ever want to get married. I still need to get into a good relationship with Christ. I don't want to deal with a guy while trying to be right with God. That could be the reason why I don't want to date, but I'll find out once my relationship with God is good again.

 

[moerunamida]

I know I'm still considered young, but I feel that I'm not one meant for relationships. I've never had a boyfriend, never dated, never really had an official homecoming date. It's a bit hard having never dated because my mom puts pressure on me to date, but I really don't want to.

I feel that God doesn't want me to be in a relationship of that sort with anyone. He has definitely helped me from being desperate and just going out with a random guy. He may have plans for me later on in life, but I don't know.

Right now, I don't ever want to date, don't ever want to get married. I still need to get into a good relationship with Christ. I don't want to deal with a guy while trying to be right with God. That could be the reason why I don't want to date, but I'll find out once my relationship with God is good again.

Amen!

 

[moerunamida]

This is my natural skin color I glow in the dark!

Oh...I thought you were doing kabuki.

However, at times it seems like I'll never meet anyone I'd want to marry, so this is why the thought of not marrying has entered my mind.

Yeah, that's how a lot of us feel at times...

I've only really been interested in 3 or 4 girls in my life. That's why I hardly ever date, and probably why I'm not married by now. (well, that, and the fact that I only seem to be attracted to messy romances!)

I'd say, just take it cool but always keep an eye open. Some people don't ever marry, and others don't marry until their early 30's.

Nah, it is actually a mime mask lol

 

[QuantaCura]

Hi,

Just wondering: Has anyone had the thought cross their minds that it might just be easier to not even consider getting married or dating or anything of the sort? I've only asked a couple girls out before, and yea i know I have time because i'm young blah blah blah. I'm a pretty private person and I don't attend a lot of events where I meet new people since I'm rather introverted and uncomfortable in big groups.

Do I want a relationship: To some extent, yes.
Do I feel prepared for one: Same answer.

Am I willing to be rejected again or be accepted but rejected later down the road?: No, not really.

(Sorry if this is wrong forum, I was thinking this one or the singles one but I wanted to gear the thread more towards people my age).

The choice not to marry is a very admirable one, one praised highly by both Our Lord (Matt. 19:10-12) and St. Paul (1 Cor. 7:27-34, 38). However, it is not for everyone and it must be chosen for the right reason. It's not something that is chosen because it is too hard to find a mate or for fear of rejection. It is chosen so as to live one's life completely as a living sacrifice to God and for His service for the sake of the Kingdom (it is because marriage is such a good and esteemed institution that abstaining from it is such a great sacrifice of love.)

The calling to the marriage life is the natural calling of us all. But some have a supernatural natural call to celibacy for the Kingdom, as Our Lord said. In Heaven, none marry, nor are given in marriage (Luke 20:34-35). In a way, those who choose the celibate state live that way now on earth.

It is for these reasons that we should choose celibacy. In your post, it seems to me that you are called to the married life (a very holy calling itself.) Remember, loving someone involves making yourself vulnerable--but don't be afraid--abandon yourself to the will of Our Heavenly Father, take the ups and downs, joys and heartaches as they come, having faith that they are always for the best. Things will work out right

 

[ImperialPhantom]

The first thing God ever commanded us to do was to "be fruitful and multiply" and said that a man will "leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh". Paul said what he said, but he himself said that it was not a command from God, but advice from him. Unless you are asexual, and thus you legitimately would be called to singlehood, you are made for marriage.

 

[Kol]

The choice not to marry is a very admirable one, one praised highly by both Our Lord (Matt. 19:10-12) and St. Paul (1 Cor. 7:27-34, 38). However, it is not for everyone and it must be chosen for the right reason. It's not something that is chosen because it is too hard to find a mate or for fear of rejection. It is chosen so as to live one's life completely as a living sacrifice to God and for His service for the sake of the Kingdom (it is because marriage is such a good and esteemed institution that abstaining from it is such a great sacrifice of love.)

Amen!

The calling to the marriage life is the natural calling of us all. But some have a supernatural natural call to celibacy for the Kingdom, as Our Lord said. In Heaven, none marry, nor are given in marriage (Luke 20:34-35). In a way, those who choose the celibate state live that way now on earth.

As for the latter part, I disagree in a way...just because there is no marriage doesn't mean there is no type of relationship or intimacy...I think such things would only be closer in heaven. Plus, there is such a thing as 'spiritual sex', tho the only ones I've ever heard discuss it were myself and UFO nuts.

It is for these reasons that we should choose celibacy. In your post, it seems to me that you are called to the married life (a very holy calling itself.) Remember, loving someone involves making yourself vulnerable--but don't be afraid--abandon yourself to the will of Our Heavenly Father, take the ups and downs, joys and heartaches as they come, having faith that they are always for the best. Things will work out right

I think John Eldrige is right when he said we have to be ourselves before we can cling to someone else.

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[white dove]

As for the rest of us, I think that short gasps of breath, a lover you can always hold near you, and a little girl that looks up to you with joy in her eyes and says, 'daddy, let's play' are a God-given blessing.

For me, it's faint images of my future son looking over at me across the dinner table asking, "Mom? You wanna thumb wrestle for that last chicken leg? Otherwise, I think dad'll eat it as soon as he gets back from the kitchen."

*melts*

 

[twiststheoak]

I think relationships should be thought about to some extent. I believe some people spend to much time thinking about it, to the point of being crazy sometimes. As for relationships with just other people it's good to be aware of unhealthy relationships and stuff like that, and do what you can to either mend them or end them. As for marriage I agree with a lot of people, I believe we should just let it happen, people focus so much of their time looking for someone, and they put these sub-conscience standards up. I think letting someone come into your life as a friend and let feeling raise just as natural as they can. If intimate feelings never accur than maybe God is saying 'not this one'. Pray about such things, He has given us so many things, I believe if He wants any of us to have a partner He will send us one. God bless. I hope my comments help.


Jon

 

[Ivan916]

Hi,

Just wondering: Has anyone had the thought cross their minds that it might just be easier to not even consider getting married or dating or anything of the sort? I've only asked a couple girls out before, and yea i know I have time because i'm young blah blah blah. I'm a pretty private person and I don't attend a lot of events where I meet new people since I'm rather introverted and uncomfortable in big groups.

Do I want a relationship: To some extent, yes.
Do I feel prepared for one: Same answer.

Am I willing to be rejected again or be accepted but rejected later down the road?: No, not really.

(Sorry if this is wrong forum, I was thinking this one or the singles one but I wanted to gear the thread more towards people my age).

I believe that God wants us to step out of our comfort zone, into the realm of the unknown where Jesus is (I hear a song coming). I myself am an introvert, so much that I was anti-social back in the days. 24 years later I am a lot more social now. I can mingle into parties and events with no problem. Its amazing how He works. And I really praise Him for that. He molded me to a different person through many many many hurts and depressions.

Now on the issue of marriage and relationships. I say do not not marry just because you are afraid of rejection. These uncomfortable even painful events is God telling you to grow up and learn.

 

[koban4max]

Don't misunderstand my post, I am not saying that I don't want to marry (I actually would like to). However, at times it seems like I'll never meet anyone I'd want to marry, so this is why the thought of not marrying has entered my mind.

oh ok.