Never date/marry?

[uiucollegeguy]

Hi,

Just wondering: Has anyone had the thought cross their minds that it might just be easier to not even consider getting married or dating or anything of the sort? I've only asked a couple girls out before, and yea i know I have time because i'm young blah blah blah. I'm a pretty private person and I don't attend a lot of events where I meet new people since I'm rather introverted and uncomfortable in big groups.

Do I want a relationship: To some extent, yes.
Do I feel prepared for one: Same answer.

Am I willing to be rejected again or be accepted but rejected later down the road?: No, not really.

(Sorry if this is wrong forum, I was thinking this one or the singles one but I wanted to gear the thread more towards people my age).

 

[seehimcoming]

i know a few people who took a vow in thier early 20's never to get married and at this moment they are in thier 50's still unmarried and they dont date. They're christians too. They are happy being single and having a gaziillion friends.

 

[MrsJoy]

not everyone is called to be married.
but, it should be something you consider with much prayer.

But again, God did not intend everyone to marry

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Definitely. I don't want a relationship or want to get married so it would seem pointless to me to date and maybe get somebody's hopes up.
Although I don't think a guy could ever be interested in me.

 

[Kol]

TLB, I think you mixed up the order of your post. It should have better followed your logic:

I don't think a guy could ever be interested in me.

And then:

I don't want a relationship or want to get married so it would seem pointless to me to date...

I think the only reason you don't want a "relationship" is that you have low self-opinion.

I think enjoying life with another person is the greatest gift there is on earth. And I'm 27 and don't have a girlfriend. But really, just don't sell yourself short and then regret.

Not getting married is for people who are on a strict spiritual journey, who must have complete mastery over their physical, mortal selves. It's like someone training. I hate to think that you might pass up the chance to *ever* have another person in your arms, to ever look into your eyes and say 'i love you.'

Love comes to all stages to life, and remember: seek, and you will find.

 

[Superchiick]

Sometimes i do think i shouldn't marry anyone and easily stay on my own and do something with spreading the evangelion. I guess thats because i'm not in love or something. Maybe it will change, maybe not. When you desire someone it's better to marry, when you don't you better stay on ur own with God.

 

[seehimcoming]

It is God's plan in the end taht we will fulfill if thats the case to get married or not. I for one has never had the thought of not getting married ever cross my mind , as i find the bond of marriage to be amazing.

 

[Shyguyelite]

Don't force it.

Don't not let it happen though.

 

[moerunamida]

I do not want to get married or ever be in a relationship again.

 

[uiucollegeguy]

Thanks for the responses everyone.

 

[Sketcher]

It seems easier, but down the road I don't want to be one of those guys that is 40, single, and not happy with it. I definitely don't want to get the the point where I commit some sort of sexual deviancy out of desperation.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

I'm willing to take whatever heartache comes my way if it results in a lifelong partner.

 

[Kol]

I do not want to get married or ever be in a relationship again.

Aw...

 

[moerunamida]

I do not want to get married or ever be in a relationship again.

Aw...

Maybe someday I will...but I think it will take a long time to get over my last relationship.

 

[MrsJoy]

Don't force it.

Don't not let it happen though.

very very well put

 

[Kol]

Mine was really painful too...she went to college and never called...man, I loved her! But you have to move on and remember that your heart was made for love!

Here, watch this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdQj2ohqCBk

 

[moerunamida]

Mine was really painful too...she went to college and never called...man, I loved her! But you have to move on and remember that your heart was made for love!

Here, watch this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdQj2ohqCBk

LOL, that was so cute. Thanks, it made me smile!

Aw, I am sorry to hear that. I'd be heartbroken too

 

[CroCop]

Unless you plan on dedication in the priesthood, nobody should ever wish not to get married in their lifetime. End of story.

 

[Kol]

I know a priest who got kicked out for having sex with a nun. He made a very crass statement which I won't repeat, but will paraphrase as, 'you're human, so you have to have sex, that's you're nature'.

 

[MrsJoy]

Unless you plan on dedication in the priesthood, nobody should ever wish not to get married in their lifetime. End of story.

Paul was not a priest.
for some this is simply not God's plan.
it is not something to be done lightly, and I know that there are always seasons when we all feel (or have felt) that we will never marry, or have a desire towards such.

but, there in deff some who are called to live in this way, and that's fine.

i'de take care before making such swift statements.