Needing space

[leothelioness]

Are you someone who needs a lot of space from other people, especially in a relationship? Do you value your time alone or do you have to be around other people all the time?

I need a lot of space and I really value my time alone. I don't fear being alone. It actually recharges me so-to-speak. If I was in a relationship, I don't think I could be with someone who wanted to see me all the time. I think I'd get tired of them.

 

[Somber]

I think I'm the type that needs space. I've never been in a relationship before, but I'm sure I would become very uncomfortable if someone was constantly wanting my time, or at least if I still didn't know that person very well. Some people I love being around and wish I could spend more time with. But I do need time and space sometimes.

 

[The Dreamer]

I think the person with the upper hand will want more space, and the person who "lucked out" will tend to be more clingy.

So it depends .

 

[Socktastic]

I need a lot of space, periods of complete shut down sometimes, much to the annoyance of others. I'd feel suffocated if people were demanding my attention on a daily basis.

 

[leothelioness]

I think the person with the upper hand will want more space, and the person who "lucked out" will tend to be more clingy.

So it depends .

This is so true. The person with more power in the relationship is always the one that isn't as invested in it.

 

[crishmael]

Alone time is very important to me. I need time to think and be away from other people. And besides, hell is other people.

 

[Sophrosyne]

I think the person with the upper hand will want more space, and the person who "lucked out" will tend to be more clingy.

So it depends .

I have seen the opposite, the person with the upper hand tends to assert more control over the other person and the other person ends up needing more space due to the stress of essentially having to deal with someone of a more controlling nature.

 

[The Dreamer]

This is so true.

Ty.

That's why the "lesser" (used loosely here) person sometimes needs to pull away to reign back in the head of the other. (to counter)

Personally, I think I play this move too much and too hard. Like, if I feel unappreciated, I'm like, "o.k., lets see how much fun you have without my glorious light in your life."

 

[The Dreamer]

I have seen the opposite, the person with the upper hand tends to assert more control over the other person and the other person ends up needing more space due to the stress of essentially having to deal with someone of a more controlling nature.

Nah, this is a weak person holding on to the only thing they think they can get. imo, maybe

Or possibly, but more rare (if a guy), a person who just knows what's up, is committed , but realizes they're going to have to drag their partner kicking and screaming along.

 

[Somber]

I have seen the opposite, the person with the upper hand tends to assert more control over the other person and the other person ends up needing more space due to the stress of essentially having to deal with someone of a more controlling nature.

This is how I have seen it too.

 

[MacFall]

Only rarely, honestly; which is odd because I'm not a very social person. But if I'm with someone who is close to me and whose company I enjoy, I can be around them pretty much all the time. Of course I've only experienced this with close friends up to this point, but I don't imagine it would be any different with a SO.

 

[Rhye]

Are you someone who needs a lot of space from other people, especially in a relationship? Do you value your time alone or do you have to be around other people all the time?

I need a lot of space and I really value my time alone. I don't fear being alone. It actually recharges me so-to-speak. If I was in a relationship, I don't think I could be with someone who wanted to see me all the time. I think I'd get tired of them.

Romantic relationships: In some ways yes and no. In my recent experience, I've never felt, I "need space" I just get it because we just happen to give/gave each other time.

In other kinds of relationships: Yes and no as well. But I have to say I love space. I love space when I'm working a lot or have so much to do, I want to be by myself. I tend to do that one day a week. I spend a few hours by myself, away from the house and everyone else. Its so therapeutic. It clears my head and I feel like when I get back and transition well enough to the rest of the week. This especially helps me if I have been in disequilibrium for a long while. I feel my body wanting to get away from everything, so a couple of hours really helps.

 

[anewday]

Considering I recently got back from an hour-long solo hike and absolutely loved it, yes I need space. I've actually been spending more time alone and haven't minded it as much as in the past. Lately I'll give myself one day or evening to hang with friends, Sundays for church, and the rest of the time I try to focus on work and finishing school. Its all give and take. Some people like/need space and others don't. Also, most of my relationships have differed regarding this, but most of the time I was the one needing/wanting space. Maybe that will change in the future.......

 

[Lissa <3]

 

[IamStefanie]

Space is good for me, but if the relationships I'm in are 'right,' then it won't be something I have to beg for.

 

[Niels]

Personal space is important to me, but so is together time.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Usually I need some space. I don't really like people, I'm am an extrovert, but a rather anti-social one at that. The majority of people just irritate me.

With the current bf, I don't really need "space" though. I don't get tired of him (and he's not super clingy, he CAN be, but I take that as a sign he needs attention and give it to him and enjoy it) and we can very easily be in a room together but still doing separate things. The best way I can describe it is that it's like having a dog around. Nobody gets tired or needs space from a dog...They're just the perfect companion.

 

[toastface_grillah]

It depends on the person/people I'm around. If I'm really enjoying their company, we just "click," and all is going well, I won't need much space aside from a little while to go for a walk later on and reflect on how awesome the evening was. But if it's the opposite and there's just no... rapport with the person/people, I'm going to tire out sooner. Usually, the more work I have to put into a relationship or an amount of time spent together, the more tiresome and the less pleasurable it's going to be.

 

[anewday]

Usually I need some space. I don't really like people, I'm am an extrovert, but a rather anti-social one at that. The majority of people just irritate me.

With the current bf, I don't really need "space" though. I don't get tired of him (and he's not super clingy, he CAN be, but I take that as a sign he needs attention and give it to him and enjoy it) and we can very easily be in a room together but still doing separate things. The best way I can describe it is that it's like having a dog around. Nobody gets tired or needs space from a dog...They're just the perfect companion.

Ok, did you just compare your boyfriend to a DOG ?? Actually, that makes sense... If I ever find a guy that I enjoy being around more than my cat, he will be a keeper .

 

[Niels]