Needing solid Christian advice...

[Dawn Langehennig]

My boyfriend of one year cheated on me; I found out about it, he asked for my forgiveness and promised to implement change in his life. It has been 6 months now and he has with God's help, changed into the man He wants him to be. A man of integrity, faithfulness, and humility.
I love him and have forgiven him; the problem is that I struggle with trusting him again.
He wants to get married and I am not sure.
My fears regarding relapse, a lifetime of always wondering, "what if", plague me.
Any good advice out there would be much appreciated.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi Dawn,
Welcome to CF.
I think it shows real character in both of you, 1. that you forgave him and 2. that he had made this change.
Trust as you know is built over time as he remains trust worth. So I don't think you will find a magic pullet that will create it next week.

Something for you to consider - is your fear of him cheating again going to push him to be silent of future temptations so his motivation to not hurt you
might turn against him giving the temptation a stronger hold on him? You might consider a place of open communication with this topic where you are supportive
and accepting of this part of his life in a way that allows him to always come to you and talk with you about it. This I think will give both of you a place of love to
deal with this issue and not a place of fear.

 

[Dawn Langehennig]

@dayhiker:
Thank you for your well thought out and reasoned response. I will pray about your suggestion...