Hi this is my first post. I have been a christian for a long time but off and on living it. I really need to know where i could go to get advice on low self esteem, fear of trusting it is draining me of my joy etc.. I know its stupid but I really need someone to talk to or some kind of seminar whatever because I dont want to bring ppl down around me or drain them. Otherwise I am happy I hide alot of my feelings in so many ppl wouldnt even know I am this way. Anyone else like this?
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BibleMinnie
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Hi Sharm I understand what you are going through I used to have the same problems with my feelings and it was hard to trust people. I actually had several counselors and was even on medication and it didnt help. Then when I came to the Lord he told me I was worth more than I though but I didnt believe it. I had to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself good things about me everyday, because of alot of the things that i had done before I felt like i was a terrible person, but the Lord Jesus christ saw past all of that. So after I saw myself as a good person I started doing good things for myself instead of bad things you know what I mean? You have to know that God thinks you are a wonderful person otherwise he would not have you on this earth. But you must like yourself and do things that are good for you before you can really feel good. Pray to God whenever you have feelings that are bad or whenever you have doubt about yourself give it to the Lord and as long as you put your heart into it and listen to him he will help you, but you must trust in him.
Well I hope that this helped you somehow. I will be praying for you every morning.
Well I hope that this helped you somehow. I will be praying for you every morning.
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I feel for you. You sound like you are in a tough spot but be sure that God can rescue you from where you are at. God has you there because he wants you to turn to him and give up everything, to drop to your kneesSharm said:
in powerlessness and give him the glory. A seminar or book might make you feel good for a period of time but those do not lead to salvation. Go to God and ask him to lead you, wait on God and though your suffering he will heal you. The Christian road is very narrow, but at times like this God is opening a window to a life which most reject. It is up to you to turn to him now more than you ever have before.
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HisFireFly
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I believe in the truth of GOD'S Word.. it is the only truth I can hold on to. Read as often as you can, and read it out LOUD!
So faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.
(Romans 10:17)
Declare the scriptures that talk about GOD'S love for you and you will begin to believe them. Cry out to HIM in worship, in praise and in prayer. Yell at HIM if you must (yes.. you can get angry with GOD and tell HIM so, just read all the Psalms that David wrote) Ask HIM to let you see yourself through HIS eyes, for in HIS eyes you are beautiful, lovely and a delight.
I shall keep you in my prayers,
HisFireFly
So faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.
(Romans 10:17)
Declare the scriptures that talk about GOD'S love for you and you will begin to believe them. Cry out to HIM in worship, in praise and in prayer. Yell at HIM if you must (yes.. you can get angry with GOD and tell HIM so, just read all the Psalms that David wrote) Ask HIM to let you see yourself through HIS eyes, for in HIS eyes you are beautiful, lovely and a delight.
I shall keep you in my prayers,
HisFireFly
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I don't have this problem myself but a friend of mine a few years ago did. She never (at least not while I knew her) got professional help..and it would have done her a world of good. She was such a sweet wonderful person, as I'm sure you are, but after awhile it got difficult to be around her because she was always degrading herself. We knew these things weren't true, but it's hard to be around someone that down all the time. Maybe you could go to a therapist? You shouldn't hide these feelings, you need to get them out. A therapist would be perfect because then you don't have to worry about your friends, but you are still getting to share your feelings with someone who can help you! And remember people DO love you..take it from me..I loved my friend. But I couldn't help her and it was frustrating. Your friends and family might feel the same way. Good luck and God bless!
CARMEN
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I used to be like this...and in all honesty I sometimes get that feeling breifly still...the most important thing is to know God for who He is in you. You also need to talk about this with someone...anyone...don't let this fester...also I would encourage you to read 2Corinthians 10...highlighting verse five...feel free to PM me or AIM me if you ever want to talk
Remember Christ came to mend the broken hearted
Remember Christ came to mend the broken hearted
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nhzname
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Sharm, God has done a mighty work in me and continues to work in me every single day. He knows I walk the same road as you and He tells me: 'Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2) We are new creations through our belief in Jesus Christ, and therefore there is no condemnation for those who are in Him. (Romans 8:1) There is nothing that Satan can bring against us that will make us ashamed to be in the presense of the Lord, if we repent of our sins and walk upright before Him.Sharm said:
Some of my favorite verses in Scripture are Philippians 4:6-8 ~ Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
Sharm, God has given me a song in my heart to remember His word, and when I think of these things, it gives Him reign over my life and my thoughts ... and this defeats the enemy. Please, allow God's truth to penetrate your heart that you may know Him more - that you may continue to grow more in the grace and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I pray for you ... n hz name.
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whatseekye
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I'm not sure where you can go to get good advice on low self esteem. I wonder if perhaps you could find a Christian counselor so that if you do get the counseling, it wouldn't be so cut off from your faith. I have my own issues with low self esteem. I didn't get saved until I was 29 and I had a rough life before that. If you need someone to talk with, feel free to PM me. TO give you a hint of what I think about self esteem...I don't think it's necessary to have perfect self esteem to be happy because God is my joy and my hope. I know that God blesses those who are incomplete and broken, and he alone can fulfill us and make us complete.Sharm said:
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IntimateFriend
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Sharm said:
Hi Friend! One thing I could say your worth is not found in who you are in the flesh; your worth is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. "Therefore if anyone is in Christ , he is a new creation: the old has gone, the new has come" ( II Cor 5:17). You are a new creation, created for greatness. You are special to God, did you know that? Psalm 139:14 says, "I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well." Do you believe this? It doesn't matter what people thinks about you what matters is that God loves you and that He came down from heaven to prove that "Yea, I have love thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee" (Jer. 31:3). The problem with us humans is that we seek so much to be approved by men while God says that you are accepted in the Beloved; what more could we ask? God has invited us to dwell in His presence. Do you think when everything is set and done man's opinion will matter? :o I used to have problem with low self-esteem myself. You see I grew up not really being appreciated; my childhood was hard. There are still scars that needs complete healing from the Lord. I also have a problem of the way I look, you know my face is full of scars and this really lower my self-esteem. Since I was kid I suffered from low self-esteem but now I find that my worth is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. He gave me beauty for ashes. He is the one that matters to me now. Let men say what they want towards me that don't matter because I know one day I'm going to see my Lord and Saviour and He will tell "Well, done my good and faithful servant. Enter now into the joy of your Lord."
Seek God my friend. Delight yourself in Him. There is no greater joy that being in His presence. Delight yourself in the Law of the Lord and you will become partaker of the divine nature of God (II Peter 1:3,4). Pour your heart to Him. He said that to cast all your cares upon Him because He cares for you (I Pet. 5:7). I don't know what else to say but to look at Lord Jesus Christ who for the joy (you) that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and set down at the right hand of the throne of God (Heb.12:2). When you find who you are in Christ, you are finding and knowing your true self. Well, hope you'll find that contentment, delight, and satisfaction in Christ Jesus. A million God bless you to your whole being!P.S. Read that book titled JOEL... I forgot the name of the author... the book is really powerful...you'll be greatly touched!
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