Please help me. God is not the author of confusion and I need wise, Biblical advice (but, please, no harsh or unkind posts). My situation is very comically, but I will try to just hit the highlights. My family has been through a very tough couple of years including losing our home and suffering through possible hacking which makes my husband appear to be the source rather than an outside hacker. However, despite everyone telling me it is him, I also see evidence, among a lot of technical evidence that I have witnessed myself, that it could be a former coworker of my husband's who threatened to "ruin his life" because my husband discovered some criminal activities that we absolutely do not tolerate (again a long story). Sounds ridiculously dramatic but is unfortunately true. During this, my husband has refused to participate in getting to the bottom of this and simply gets angry, which makes him look even more guilty. I have tried very hard to not accuse him when something else happens, but it is very hard with the way it appears as well as his attitude. If nothing else, I have a problem with him acting like it isn't even worth bothering with. I feel it is because 1. If it is someone else doing this, they are a threat to his family (we have received threatening pictures through our email). & 2. It should not be OK to look like you are cheating / lying to your wife. He has a habit of crossing lines with females that make me uncomfortable.
It is to the point that I'm close to a nervous breakdown and my husband just ignores me or gets angry immediately. I just wanted to work together.
To make matters worse, my sister moved in with us (my 80 year old mother already lived with us and she has dementia) after she suffered for years with her abusive husband. She and my husband would roll their eyes at each other if I got upset or my husband would get angry at me. I was so upset one night after a family member actually hit me (another long story) that I needed to go to the hospital (severe chest pain plus extremely high blood sugar). Rather than my sister coming downstairs to check on me when the ambulance arrived, she ignored everything going on and I left alone in the ambulance. My husband refused to leave work or talk to me on the phone and after he finally finished his shift, he came to the hospital. As soon as I tried to tell him about me being punched in the face (which my sister did not defend me but rather yelled at me), he said he was not going to listen. I was so upset and told him to just go. I meant to the waiting room, but he actually went home and left me there alone. After talking to her and my son, my husband actually did his best, talking to at least two medical personnel at the hospital trying to get me held on a psychiatric hold for at least 48 hours. He was encouraged to do this to me knowing why I was so upset to begin with but willing to pretend that I was just upset for nothing. He only came back when I was discharged. This talking about me behind my back just causes more havoc and problems (especially my sister telling my husband that I could "control their phones" which was not true but could have really caused a lot of problems). I let it be known that I will not tolerate this type of talking behind my back and I thought it had stopped. I again got sick and had to call an ambulance because no one would take me (I was actually told to "call an ambulance or call the police") but I had to even cancel the ambulance because I was reminded that I wouldn't have a ride home. My sister saw the ambulance outside yet never came outside to check on me. I left trying to drive myself and while I was gone, she then came downstairs to discuss what they were "going to do". When I flat out asked her in a text (in which she was so nice about offering to take me to the hospital when she knew I had already left) if she spoke with anyone, which she promised never to do behind my back again because it just causes more problems, she just ignored my questions.
I have also endured things like her calling my husband "Mr. Wonderful" and defending him although she KNOWS he is extremely abusive to me. She has no where to go, but she has done this again. Please pray for my family and me.
I know I need to get my nerves under control and stop getting so upset. I need to know if I am overreacting or is this truly as bad as it feels. I have no one in my home that I can trust or talk to- I feel so alone. They treat me like I'm the one doing something to them but I try so hard to do things for them and love them. In fact, my sister is usually downstairs by now, but She is avoiding ME, as if I did something to her (I did send her text telling her how upset I an). I just want respect and peace in my home without my sister being homeless. U also don't want to be divorced. Sorry for the dramatic long post. Again, please don't be harsh. I want your true opinions, but please be kind. Thank you!
It is to the point that I'm close to a nervous breakdown and my husband just ignores me or gets angry immediately. I just wanted to work together.
To make matters worse, my sister moved in with us (my 80 year old mother already lived with us and she has dementia) after she suffered for years with her abusive husband. She and my husband would roll their eyes at each other if I got upset or my husband would get angry at me. I was so upset one night after a family member actually hit me (another long story) that I needed to go to the hospital (severe chest pain plus extremely high blood sugar). Rather than my sister coming downstairs to check on me when the ambulance arrived, she ignored everything going on and I left alone in the ambulance. My husband refused to leave work or talk to me on the phone and after he finally finished his shift, he came to the hospital. As soon as I tried to tell him about me being punched in the face (which my sister did not defend me but rather yelled at me), he said he was not going to listen. I was so upset and told him to just go. I meant to the waiting room, but he actually went home and left me there alone. After talking to her and my son, my husband actually did his best, talking to at least two medical personnel at the hospital trying to get me held on a psychiatric hold for at least 48 hours. He was encouraged to do this to me knowing why I was so upset to begin with but willing to pretend that I was just upset for nothing. He only came back when I was discharged. This talking about me behind my back just causes more havoc and problems (especially my sister telling my husband that I could "control their phones" which was not true but could have really caused a lot of problems). I let it be known that I will not tolerate this type of talking behind my back and I thought it had stopped. I again got sick and had to call an ambulance because no one would take me (I was actually told to "call an ambulance or call the police") but I had to even cancel the ambulance because I was reminded that I wouldn't have a ride home. My sister saw the ambulance outside yet never came outside to check on me. I left trying to drive myself and while I was gone, she then came downstairs to discuss what they were "going to do". When I flat out asked her in a text (in which she was so nice about offering to take me to the hospital when she knew I had already left) if she spoke with anyone, which she promised never to do behind my back again because it just causes more problems, she just ignored my questions.
I have also endured things like her calling my husband "Mr. Wonderful" and defending him although she KNOWS he is extremely abusive to me. She has no where to go, but she has done this again. Please pray for my family and me.
I know I need to get my nerves under control and stop getting so upset. I need to know if I am overreacting or is this truly as bad as it feels. I have no one in my home that I can trust or talk to- I feel so alone. They treat me like I'm the one doing something to them but I try so hard to do things for them and love them. In fact, my sister is usually downstairs by now, but She is avoiding ME, as if I did something to her (I did send her text telling her how upset I an). I just want respect and peace in my home without my sister being homeless. U also don't want to be divorced. Sorry for the dramatic long post. Again, please don't be harsh. I want your true opinions, but please be kind. Thank you!
