I hope this is not too long-
I need some input on something that happened to me a year ago that I am trying so desperately to let go of. But, there just has not been any kind of closure. A year ago I was engaged to a man whom I thought was a kind christian man. We were actually friends for 2 years before becoming engaged. After we were engaged 1 month my fiance broke our engagement due to his daughter not wanting him to marry anyone. After a week he realized he was wrong letting her control his life so he wanted again to marry me. I took him back and we were engaged again. After 3 weeks he said he had a temper and feared I would leave him. This guy has no history of a temper and I have to this day never seen it. He would not listen to anything and was very adamant about breaking the engagement saying he wanted the best for me.
While we were engaged 3 of my closest friends were emailing my fiance long emails and constantly wanting to know about our relationship. My closest friend told my fiance negative things about me that were completely untrue. My fiance did not take up for me when she said these things. After the breakup these girlfriends and my fiance continued to be friends and to this day they are all friends. The only thing I know I did in all this is fall in love with this man. Then I lost 3 friends and a fiance. After 6 months my ex fiance wanted to be good friends. It is like nothing happened and I should be a good christian person and forget the whole thing. I just feel like I was wronged and no one feels they should acknowledge or take any kind of responsibility for hurting me. No one has truly said they were sorry. My ex fiance did once in an e-mail but it is just not the same as in person and it didn't sound sincere. I never have any problems other than this with any of my friendships. I have lots of friends. This has just put me in the twilight zone. It just does not make any sense. I am very picky about who I date and when I finally thought I had found someone it just totally floored me. Can anyone make any sense out of this whole thing. Am I wrong to feel christians should be responsible for their actions toward others as much as nonchristians instead of using the "you should forgive me and forget what I did or you aren't a christian" attitude, without a sincere apology. Please help..I really need to bring closure and forget all this.
I need some input on something that happened to me a year ago that I am trying so desperately to let go of. But, there just has not been any kind of closure. A year ago I was engaged to a man whom I thought was a kind christian man. We were actually friends for 2 years before becoming engaged. After we were engaged 1 month my fiance broke our engagement due to his daughter not wanting him to marry anyone. After a week he realized he was wrong letting her control his life so he wanted again to marry me. I took him back and we were engaged again. After 3 weeks he said he had a temper and feared I would leave him. This guy has no history of a temper and I have to this day never seen it. He would not listen to anything and was very adamant about breaking the engagement saying he wanted the best for me.
While we were engaged 3 of my closest friends were emailing my fiance long emails and constantly wanting to know about our relationship. My closest friend told my fiance negative things about me that were completely untrue. My fiance did not take up for me when she said these things. After the breakup these girlfriends and my fiance continued to be friends and to this day they are all friends. The only thing I know I did in all this is fall in love with this man. Then I lost 3 friends and a fiance. After 6 months my ex fiance wanted to be good friends. It is like nothing happened and I should be a good christian person and forget the whole thing. I just feel like I was wronged and no one feels they should acknowledge or take any kind of responsibility for hurting me. No one has truly said they were sorry. My ex fiance did once in an e-mail but it is just not the same as in person and it didn't sound sincere. I never have any problems other than this with any of my friendships. I have lots of friends. This has just put me in the twilight zone. It just does not make any sense. I am very picky about who I date and when I finally thought I had found someone it just totally floored me. Can anyone make any sense out of this whole thing. Am I wrong to feel christians should be responsible for their actions toward others as much as nonchristians instead of using the "you should forgive me and forget what I did or you aren't a christian" attitude, without a sincere apology. Please help..I really need to bring closure and forget all this.