It is clear from your post that you really want to get on the right path, but at the same time you are allowing yourself to be overwhelmed with matters that are outside your own immediate concerns. Since you want to avoid been tricked, duped, deceived, or misled, your first priority is to know what God has revealed in His written Word about salvation through Christ.
I would recommend that you purchase an "old" King James Bible (not the NKJV) and immerse yourself in the Gospel of John. That will address most of your questions. Once you know without the shadow of a doubt that you have been born again, God will show you what you need to do and to learn. Going to church, being baptized, or doing good works will not save you, but will be evidence that you are genuinely saved (which means Christ within you).
As to all the other issues, just leave them with God.
Patt, I agree with Job8; you should read the book of John, the Gospel of John.
May I share my testimony with you of how I found Christ through reading that book.
Jesus is not hiding from anyone. He can be found in the same place I found him many years ago when I wasn't sure if he was real, if the Bible was true, or if God existed. I grew up in church where I heard about sin, hell, how Jesus saves, etc. but I wasn't sure if it was true or just a made up story. As a young adult I became concerned that if the bible is true then I needed to find out what being “saved” really means. I came to the place in my life where I wanted to believe in Jesus, but I did not know how to believe. I talked to a lot of people about this matter and read many tracts/books, but could not find anything that could convince me of the truth of it all. No one could explain to me how to believe or what it meant to believe. I thought I would never know the truth about God, the Bible, or about believing in Jesus. I was living a life of misery & fear. I was looking for evidence that would prove to me that the bible is true, that God exists, and that Jesus does really forgive sinners, but there was something missing, a missing link, and I did not know what it was. I needed something to convince me that it was all true.
One night, out of a sense of desperation, I decided to do something I had never done outside of church. I said a prayer to the God I wasn't sure existed, and then I found the big family bible and opened it. My prayer was, “God will you show me the truth about believing in Jesus?” Then I opened that Bible to the Book of John, the Gospel of John, and started to read John 1:1. I did not know what I would find there but I was ready to accept whatever it was if it convinced me that it was real & the truth. As I started to read the Gospel of John I had no idea that my life was about to change forever and that I would soon have a peace that is impossible to explain to anyone who has never experienced this peace for themselves.
Yes, I was desperate to know Jesus as my Savior. I thought I would never know, for sure, that I had found Him or that I had enough faith in Him, or that I had really believed in Him. I was confused about what it all meant, and just wasn't sure about any of it being real. But, the moment I began to read John 1:1 for some reason I was seeing the words of the bible in a different way. I remembered reading the Book of John in Sunday School as a kid where our teacher told us to memorize the first chapter, but it really meant nothing to me back then. But, that night, as I sat at my kitchen table reading that big family bible, the words came to life and something was telling me that I was reading the truth about Jesus. I realized that the missing link I referred earlier was the Holy Spirit showing me the truth that I so desperately needed.
The Holy Spirit opened my blind spiritual eyes so that I could see & understand spiritual truth. That night I found the evidence, the proof, that completely convinced me that the bible is the Truth, that God is real, and that Jesus does really forgive anyone who earnestly comes to Him for forgiveness. God Himself showed me that He is real. Atheists call that experience “circular reasoning,” and it is. But, the difference in the atheists' “circular reasoning” and the Holy Spirit “circular reasoning” is that the latter leads to forgiveness of sin a new life in Christ.
God saw that I was seeking Him in the way described in the following scripture. When He sees our attitude; an attitude that turns from “self” to Him then the Holy Spirit moves in and give us the ability to understand spiritual truth.
Jeremiah 29:13, “And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.”
The Holy Spirit used the following scriptures and several other scriptures to convince me that Jesus was waiting for me to come to Him.
John 5:39-40, Jesus said to the Pharisees “Search the scriptures, for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me. And ye will not come to me, that ye might have life.
John 6:37,”All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.”
44 No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
45 It is written in the prophets, And they shall be all taught of God. Every man therefore that hath heard, and hath learned of the Father, cometh unto me.
Patt, the Book of John has 21 chapters. If you read 1 chapter a day you can read the entire book in 3 weeks. When you read God's Word He can then teach you the truth about Jesus and draw you to Him. I read only 6 chapters before the Holy Spirit turned on the light for me and “I got it.” Finally I was convinced; I knew without a doubt that Jesus was waiting for me to come to Him, and I did. I had just enough faith to call out to Him. It wasn't great faith, it wasn't blind faith, it wasn't experimental faith, but it was saving faith. The moment the Holy Spirit convinced me & I “got it” was the moment I believed in Jesus. God gave me “saving” faith which is “believing in Jesus.” I found myself talking to Jesus as though He was right there in the room with me. I was thanking Him for saving me and asking Him to change me His way, and that He did. That was almost 40 years ago and today I still have that same peace and assurance that He gave me then. The whole experience is explained in John 6:44-45, “see above.”
You might need to read all 21 chapters or you might have to read them more than one time. Read & re-read that book until you see the truth. Don't give up on God. When God sees that you are earnestly searching for Him He will show you the truth. On the other hand if you read His Word, not expecting to find the truth, well, you probably won't find it.
Hope my story helps you.
John