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Need some help understanding breakup :P

Discussion in 'Mature Singles' started by pilot89P13R, Aug 29, 2017.

  1. pilot89P13R

    pilot89P13R New Member

    Costa Rica
    Last edited: Aug 29, 2017
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  2. quatona

    quatona "God"? What do you mean??

    Personally, I would be pretty annoyed by a partner who feels they have God on their side, who feel that they can judge me and my character, pray for me to become holier etc.etc. But maybe that´s just me - and I am not sure that I am not projecting my impressions on her. Anyway, that´s what sticked out to me in the way you described your part in it.

    I completely believe you that you want to tell the whole story - but you can´t, simply because it will always be your side of the story.
    I also believe you that you want to reveal everything you did that might have been contributing to the problem, but then again, you didn´t say much about what you did or didn´t (except for the above mentioned attitude towards her).

    The person who could explain the reasons for the split-up best to you (and to us): your ex-girlfriend. And she gave you her reasons. Thus, even though you may not accept those reasons, she explained them to you.

    On a more general note: In my experience, the attempt to "understand" the reasons for a split-up never helps reducing the pain.

    All the best to you!
  3. Left

    Left Well-Known Member Supporter

    United States
    Skimming the post I say this...

    Although the situation might be different if you were married to her, because marriage is like a Christian contract, you aren't... so I would leave while you still can.