need some advice

[jgt46]

Hello,

My name is Jeff. I have been dating a lady for over 4 months now. She has so much to cope with, health problems, money problems. lost her house. Her name is Sandy. She is very depressed right now and I know for the second time since I have know her she has contemplated suicide. She has told me she is dead inside right now. I have treated her very, very good since I have been with her. I will continue to do that. I do love her and feel very helpless right now. I need some helpful advice to know if there is anything else I can do for her that I am not doing already. I will and have done anything for her. But with this I am at a loss. I of course pray for her. Any advice you can be given will be greatly helpful.

God bless you,
Jeff

 

[CFFosterAngel51]

Hi Jeff,

I'm sorry you and your girlfriend are going through this. It sounds like you are very kind to her.

I struggle with depression at times, and when I'm having a tough time it's hard for me to do anything. Some things that have been helpful for me at those difficult times are when my friends encourage me to get out of my house and to do something. They will usually invite me to dinner or to a movie or something that makes me get up and get going. They also have pushed me to get counseling. One time I was really in bad shape and they called my pastor and my friend, her husband, my pastor and his wife all confronted me with their concern and that I needed to get some help.

My responses varied - sometimes I was angry and avoided them - sometimes I knew they were right and I would push myself to get up, get out and get help.

If she's not in counseling and she's having suicidal thoughts, maybe you could encourage her to seek counseling and even go with her if necessary. If you think she's going to attempt suicide and she wont' talk with her physician or a therapist, then you could contact your local mental health agency about forcing her to get help. There are very strict limitations on that in my state, but if danger is imminent, it is a life saving option.

Listening is a big help many times and just loving her through this time will probably mean a lot to her.

I'll pray for the both of you.

In Him,
Kristen

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Hello,

My name is Jeff. I have been dating a lady for over 4 months now. She has so much to cope with, health problems, money problems. lost her house. Her name is Sandy. She is very depressed right now and I know for the second time since I have know her she has contemplated suicide. She has told me she is dead inside right now. I have treated her very, very good since I have been with her. I will continue to do that. I do love her and feel very helpless right now. I need some helpful advice to know if there is anything else I can do for her that I am not doing already. I will and have done anything for her. But with this I am at a loss. I of course pray for her. Any advice you can be given will be greatly helpful.

God bless you,
Jeff

If I where to guess, experienced so much failure that she forgotten how to pick herself back up. Now her sinful nature is getting the best of her.

She needs to learn how to pick herself back up. Tools like forgiveness and self affirmation will help her.

Also arm her with understanding of battle within. I will link you to prior comments.

http://www.christianforums.com/t5720277-had-a-breakthrough.html

She will need to pray and place her hope in our Lord. She has to realize that her life is far from over. She needs to grow strong in wisdom and in faith.

Depression is a dsyfunction, but only she can save herself. Be patient with her and nurture her with wisdom of God. You can not enable her, battle within she must learn how to fight.

I will pray for you both. =)

 

[x0xJesusIsLovex0x]

I'm really sorry she's in pain.

But it's so nice that you are on her side and will be forever. It's cute.

I am going to pray for her, and hopefully she will be better. <3