I recently moved to a new city to start a new job, and here I met a wonderful Christian girl. From the day I saw her I just knew -- or wanted to believe -- that she was "the one".
We became friends, I started going to her church, and things were going wonderful. But, as fate would have it, about a month ago she quit work, stopped answering my calls, and stopped going to church.
I was worried out of my mind, and soon found out that she was pregnant, and that's why she was acting so weird. Her last boyfriend had gotten her pregnant before they broke up.
As the dust is starting to settle now, I have spoken to her a couple of times, and found out that she does have feelings for me, but she is considering marrying her baby's father, who is also a "Christian", even though she doesn't love him anymore (her own words).
Even though this might seems like a teenie bopper story, it is not. I am 33 and she is 27. We are grown and mature adults.
The advice I need is whether I should pursue this relationship. I am deeply in love with her, and it really hurts knowing that she also has feelings for me, but is considering marrying some other guy because "it's the right thing to do".
I know I should leave this in the hands of God, but after praying about this for countless hours, God has not given me a sign to stop pursuing her.
She went back to church Friday night for the first time in a while, and she ignored me. Maybe because she's embarrassed, or maybe because she doesn't want people to think that the child is mine. I don't know what's really going through her head, and that's really bothering me.
Ideally, I would like to continue our friendship, and if everything works out, after she has her baby and she is ready to start dating, I would like to date her so we can start a romantic relationship.
I do not have a problem with what happened because she got pregnant before we started getting emotionally involved. I am willing to be a father figure to her baby, and I understand that she might want the baby's biological father to play that role also.
I am very flexible in all of this. I just don't want to lose her (even though she was never mine to begin with). Does anybody have any experience dealing with these type of situations? Any advice you can provide me will be greatly appreciated.
We became friends, I started going to her church, and things were going wonderful. But, as fate would have it, about a month ago she quit work, stopped answering my calls, and stopped going to church.
I was worried out of my mind, and soon found out that she was pregnant, and that's why she was acting so weird. Her last boyfriend had gotten her pregnant before they broke up.
As the dust is starting to settle now, I have spoken to her a couple of times, and found out that she does have feelings for me, but she is considering marrying her baby's father, who is also a "Christian", even though she doesn't love him anymore (her own words).
Even though this might seems like a teenie bopper story, it is not. I am 33 and she is 27. We are grown and mature adults.
The advice I need is whether I should pursue this relationship. I am deeply in love with her, and it really hurts knowing that she also has feelings for me, but is considering marrying some other guy because "it's the right thing to do".
I know I should leave this in the hands of God, but after praying about this for countless hours, God has not given me a sign to stop pursuing her.
She went back to church Friday night for the first time in a while, and she ignored me. Maybe because she's embarrassed, or maybe because she doesn't want people to think that the child is mine. I don't know what's really going through her head, and that's really bothering me.
Ideally, I would like to continue our friendship, and if everything works out, after she has her baby and she is ready to start dating, I would like to date her so we can start a romantic relationship.
I do not have a problem with what happened because she got pregnant before we started getting emotionally involved. I am willing to be a father figure to her baby, and I understand that she might want the baby's biological father to play that role also.
I am very flexible in all of this. I just don't want to lose her (even though she was never mine to begin with). Does anybody have any experience dealing with these type of situations? Any advice you can provide me will be greatly appreciated.
