Need some advice....

[cled]

Hi everyone! I'm new here and looking forward for your advices.
well i don't know if i'm in the right section of this forum but i see most people here are dating or courting right? i guess you guys can help me out.

here is the story:
I've been liking a girl for a year right now. Why i don't make a move?
well... because she already have a boyfriend... T_T take a note that I barely know her at all. there are probably only 6 or 7 interaction (talking, say hi, ...that kind of thing) i had with her.
for about 4-5 months I pray for her (not so she breaks up with her boyfriend)
I pray so she can get closer to the LORD, so the LORD bless her relationship with her boyfriend, and other positive things that makes me want to cry.
at one time, I ask GOD "is she the one?" and ask GOD for signs.
well through this one year there are various events that reminds me of her.
I often dreamt about her when I almost let her go, moving with my life.
some tv host has the same name as hers.
i just found out that my cousin is training choir at my university (she is in the choir, and quite active).
some radio show says "(her name), i like you" as an example of love confession
are those things signs or am I over reacting?
at some point I even think that she's a wall between me and GOD, in my prayer i mostly talk about her, forgetting other things that I need to pray for, GOD could be jelous of her...(I hope HE isn't)
well what should I do?
recently i've been thinking to make a move when I have a chance. just giving it a try.
however there are somethings that makes me think that she is not the one.
she is academicly better than I am.
she is probably more mature than I am.
she is a perfectionist.
she is very diligent.
conclusion : she is better than I am, in my eyes though.
one more thing: she's a Catholic, I'm a Christian (Protestant)
one thing for sure, i kinda tired liking her, I want to know what part of her that makes me dream of her, thinking of her. I wan't to put an end to this.

well that's the story... what should I do?
hope GOD use you guys to help me.

Thanks! GOD bless!

 

[beehoney]

Since she already has a boyfriend, she is off bounds and it's best for you not to interfere. You are quite infatuated with this girl at the moment, but that's all there is to it I'm afraid. Try not to spend too much of your time and energy thinking about her. Instead, I think you should spend time developing the friendships you already have.

Those feelings will subside eventually and you will be fine.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

these are probably not signs. if it were God's will for u to be together then she would be with you. if for some reason she breaks up with her boyfriend and decides to date you then maybe you can start thinking "hmm is she the one?" But since she already has a boyfriend she is obviously not the one. at least not right now. try not to think about her so much and focus on God. and don't interfere with their relationship. just focus on God and everything will turn out the way He wants it to.

 

[Inperfected]

HOw old are you firstly?


The pain of it all hurts, but it does get less and less... Focus on other things more, hang out with some others where you will not see her.

 

[Leanna]

She has a boyfriend. You should not make a move nor tell her you like her.

It is likely she won't always have a boyfriend..... in the meantime, try to focus on something else.

 

[cled]

Wooow.... I was kinda hoping for "go get her" advice.

You are quite infatuated with this girl at the moment, but that's all there is to it I'm afraid.

well I guess it's true that I'm quite infatuated, you got me there

HOw old are you firstly?

ummm.... I'm 21 years old.

well I guess I'll have to keep my distance from her
(although she keeps appearing at a time where I don't want her to appear)

however some of my friends told me "Express your feelings! or you'll regret it!" kinda thing... I almost make a move there.... thank GOD I didn't.

I'll focus on other things that I'll need to focus.. especialy GOD!

Thank You very much for the advices! I'll still be waiting for others inputs!

GOD BLESS!

 

[MN John]

Yes. Focus on God. Prepare yourself to be a good husband to the woman that God has for you. Pray for your future wife even though you don't know who she is yet. God will bring the right woman into your life at the right time.