Wrong forum, I'm sure. Oh well. Anyway I need advice ASAP, so I was hoping I could talk to somebody via PM. First one to volunteer is my hero for the day.
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AutumnDreamer
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I would really like to give you advice, but as I am a woman, I will not Pm a man. So if you would like to share here in the public forum, I would like to try to help.
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AutumnDreamer said:
What..?
Maybe it's something here, I'm new to these boards, but why not PM him?
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decaf said:
B/c I don't believe in speaking with men in private, in any situation. Too much trouble can come form it, even the appearance of evil.
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Hmm....I think it depends on why you are pming the other person for. If you are interested in them...or become interested..then yeah, smart. However, the guy is only 14 years old. What could happen....?
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AutumnDreamer
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Starling2003 said:
It is a conviction of mine regardless of whether then male is 14 or 140.
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JesusWasn'tWhite
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Let's not beat this person up for her convictions.
In fact, Rev. Billy Graham had a similar one. Once he got married, he never met a woman alone. ... ever. Like, if he were to need to counsel some woman or have a meeting with her, even in public, he would have someone with him. Not because of temptation but because of a conviction.
In fact, Rev. Billy Graham had a similar one. Once he got married, he never met a woman alone. ... ever. Like, if he were to need to counsel some woman or have a meeting with her, even in public, he would have someone with him. Not because of temptation but because of a conviction.
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inchristalone221
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As long as you do not enforce that conviction on others, I admire you for it.
I believe I will be doing the same day when/if I get married.
As for the original post, do you still need help? I'm always glad to help, and I try to make my advice as scriptural as possible.
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AutumnDreamer
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inchristalone221 said:
What would constitute forcing that conviction on others? Some would say my even telling people my convictions is forcing them on others b/c they are convicted by the same thing yet won't acknowledge it.
I would ask that you reevaluate that before you get married. Married men say they will not speak privately with a woman they are ministering to, why? B/c they do not want to give people the wrong idea, a single man is also subject to that same wrong idea. As is the woman you would be ministering to.
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Don't worry, I'm not a relativist and I'm not politically correct. I do not think your expression of your very pious and admirable conviction is in any way wrong.
I will consider this, but what about courtship. Would you not meet privately with the man you were courting? Merely a matter of curiosity.
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inchristalone221 said:
Well being as I am married courtship is out LOL but I have three children, 2 girls and 1 boy all of whom I will raise to this standard. I do not feel there is any good from couples that are courting to be alone with each other. I was by the grace of God a virgin when I got married, barely. My husband and I dated for three years (until I was 18 and old enough to marry) and we got into plenty of trouble that I wish I could erase. I am very old fashioned in my view of courting, I think back to old english days of courting, with chaperones. I see nothing wrong with a courting couple sitting along in the backyard within plain view of a window, but alone out somewhere that allows temptation to creep in, nope.
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Oh well in that case I agree with you (I'm quite old fashioned for as young as I am, I even plan to ask her father before I court her).
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AutumnDreamer
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inchristalone221 said:Oh well in that case I agree with you (I'm quite old fashioned for as young as I am, I even plan to ask her father before I court her).
That is awesome! That is the type of guy I want for my girls, and what I hope to raise my son to be.
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I personally don't believe that the old views of courtship have any merit simply from being old. I just see a lot of them as making a lot of sense. For example, asking her father makes sense to me. After all, she is his responsibility, and he cares very much about her. I think I should have the decency to speak with him about something like this.
Could you give me your views of courtship in brief, so I can just have a look at them and evaluate them. I'm always looking to learn, because being in love tends to cloud one's judgement unless you take a step back and think for a few moments.
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AutumnDreamer
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inchristalone221 said:
I am going to start a new thread on this as to not hijack this one anymore.
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Yeah. I was about to say something about that, though I do think you are very wise for doing what you are.
Anyways. What's up, New_Found_Faith? I haven't talked to you in a while. You've helped me out with a few problems before. Maybe I can help you out with this one.
Anyways. What's up, New_Found_Faith? I haven't talked to you in a while. You've helped me out with a few problems before. Maybe I can help you out with this one.
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