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I'll pray for you, girl! Hang in there! But think about this - God is joy. It's what you can hang onto when nothing else will serve...it's what makes me sing inside, no matter what's going on. I believe that God made all of us for a purpose - to praise and find joy in Him! May His peace go with you always...peace of mind, soul, and body. Sending a hug and all my best wishes over to the UK!
 
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I feel like the reason you feel like this now ios b/c you don't have God you do have someone to talk to and don't be scared the thing is that you need to hjave some faith that he will answer and than start thanking him. Question have you ever thought about writing out how ever you feel on a piece a paper and pray to God about it?Did you ever think about starting over with God like repenting and giving your life back to him. He is a God of second chances. Maybe you are going through so you can realize that you need God. Also sorry to say that you can either Love the devil and hate God or LOVE God and hate the devil you can only worship one and you have to worship somebody which I hope you pick God. You will be in my prayers remember that you wouln't have been the first and sadly not the last but you still have time to change remeber you are still breathing but don't wait to late b/c you don't know when God is coming back. I think you wrote you are scared of dying losts of peopl are I would say I wouln't want to espically by killing yourself b/c you would have no chance and go to hell which would be sad. I pray please make the right choice not for anybody but for you and God b/c noboy will be standing in judgement it's just you and you don't want to get caught with your work undone the meaning of our life here is to prepare us for Heaven, I feel that someone salvation is depend on us being right with God so he can use us to reach people there are people only youu will be able to reach.God bless you and may he keep you and spare you. Also it's like that at dark b/c you feel no one is but God is there even if you don't believe it or accept it. He is watching over us all, if he wasn't I don't think anybody will be living he has spared all of us. You are like that at night b/c darkness is when trouble comes and the devil darkness repents evil in some cases but joy comes in the morning. My future sister of Christ once again I can't wait for the testimony of you giving your life to him again God Bless you now and forever:)
 
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Just to say as a reminder.......(1) You'er not alone. (2) I beleive its demons putting these thoughts in your head.(3)Remember "footprints".(3)Keep praying....sometimes other things need to happen first before you get any answer....God is working in your favor....We are his childeren...he is our Father....Parents ....good parents do things to help us that many times ,us as kids don't see,or know about...God is the same....as kids we trust our parents....thats why God asks us to have Faith as childeren.....some people may not have good parents....but they search and gain great friends and in that kind of relationship gain what they need Love, Trust, Kindness and ther things as well......maybe you should keep in touch with some or all of us....i'm sure we all would love to be friends with you...then as time goes you'll end up finding friends that live closer to you also.....please....pm one of us.....we would love tobe friends with you....i'm sure most of us if not all of us know in some way how you feel. May God keep you and bless you endlessly....
 
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Greetings sister!!!

first off..no drugs!!! Please do not go to a doctor who gets paid by drug companys to shove pills down your throat that dont address the real issues...

That being said, you are a beautiful person. God gave you have the ability inside of you to find whats wrong. A dog can not! You know you! "Doctors" do not. Parents do not. You know whats making these things happen. Deep deep down. Environment you are in. The people you talk to. The values you have and everyone around you have. How you handel situations. How the people around you handle them. What your eyes are open to. The media that hits your eyes and brain on a dailey basis. Ex..

Yes, you do need a form of outside help to guide you on this path. Somtimes we need a completely trusting ear to just listen to us without judgment. Somtimes all we need is faith in somthing, and the deep understanding that you can be and act whoever and whatever you want to be! ..also that there really is no need to get so upset over things you can not control. And unfortunately we live in a society where its all to common to have things implanted subconsciusly into our minds by money making industries to control the way we feel about ourselves. Because there is a percentage of human beings that you can tell them the sky is purple and they will believe it! When in reality, you are just experiencing human emotions dicated by envirnment.

You said so yourself that it wasnt allways this way. You know what you have done in the past. You know the choices you made that lead you to this point. Analyze it and make changes. Slowly..take your time. Don't rush...and don't be afraid of anyting including the truth thats inside of you. Even hurtful things make us stronger for the future if they when used correctly. At the same time, they can hurt us if not. You have the answers you seek.. Yourself! No one can do these things for you but you ultimately!

Remember, Life is what happens when you are doing somthing else.
~John Lennon

I think that you should not give the advice not to take drugs. Would you tell this to a heart patient? Problems of this nature are as legitimate as any other illness.

I am a Christian. I take two different anti-depressants. I have a long term chronic illness and the greatest cause of death of people wth my condition is suicide. I have faced that one down in the past. I have gone off my medication for periods of time with no ill effects, but I continue to take them for my family's sake. It gives them peace of mind.

There is no shame in being a Christian and taking medication. We are subject to the same problems as anyone else. Unless you are a trained psychologist or doctor, I don't think that you should give advice on taking or not taking medication. Would you want it on your conscience if anything bad happened to her as a result of your advice?

I think that Kestrel should seek professional help. She does not have to take any advice that she does not want to. Yes, we are over medicated in general, but that does not mean that she isn't legitimately in need.

I also think that she should try to develop her faith. Jesus is the great physician. He can cure like no doctor can. He will heal her spiritually and physically. He will remove scars and barriers to her spiritual growth. She will experience love and forgiveness through him. If she only knew how many blessing he has in store for her, then she would come running to him.

I am not sure why she doesn't want her parents to know. We often make our fears bigger than they are and anticipate a reaction which is worse than would really happen. Sometimes guilt about hidden secrets can make a condition worse. If she is able to do it, I suggest that she levels with her parents for everyone's sake. If they do find out and they are likely to if her condition worsens, then they will be terribly hurt that she did not share this with them.
 
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I feel that's fine to take almost any kind of mediance. I feelthough before you go to the doctor's you need to pray to God rember God is the healing not the mediance not all the time mediance will work. Pray over the mediance it may seems werid but it's imporant pray that you won't get any side-effects and that God will keep you.Don't let the the problem or the mediance control you you conorol it. Don't tell God how big the problem is tell the problem how big God is also can you read my signature at the bottom I feel it applies to you you might already have read it. But , I am not sure of that.I am here to talk you you when you need me just make sure please go to God first he can help you more than me way more. God bless you We all are here for you and love you God bless now and forever:)
 
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Ask yourself this one question Kestrel:

Does the bible really say, "Therefore He is able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them." Hebrews 7:25 ?
Of course it is there, but what is the point? "Uttermost" must be left to mean uttermost. Uttermost must apply to your case or anyone else who is worse off than you, it doesn't matter in that He is willing to save any kind of desperate sinner as long as they are willing to receive His help on His terms. My advice is; If your past religious experience has not availed you then do not throw out the baby with the bath water. Go back and try again. This time ask yourself, "What might I have done wrong the first time I professed to be a Christian?" Jesus' terms have always been "Repentance and faith" and a so called faith that did not have the least speck of repentance in it should be suspected as a prime cause of overall failure. Do not try to improve on something that Christ and His Apostles mandated...Faith is the stuff that moves mountains but the old English Puritans would say that faith is a flower which grows only in the soil of repentance. Your problems will fall before the Lord if He will enter in and come to your aid, but you must encourage Him, as it were, by being the kind of person that God would want to help, and He will help if you are willing to be that kind of person.
"Whoever offers praise glorifies Me; And to him who orders his conduct aright I will show the salvation of God." Psalms 50:23
 
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Well,I see you are getting a lot of advice.I dont know you,nor the details of your situation,but I do know this.The devil is a liar,and he will surely lie to you.

Jesus said,I am the light of the world,he that follows me shall not walk in darkness,but shall have the light of life.

So,if you feel like you are in darkness,start turning your mind towards the Lord,and start looking to him and lifting up your voice to him for your answer.
Gods will is that you live in joy,and peace,and not be in turmiol,and depressed.
The wicked one is attacking you by way of your thoughts,and he is lieing to you.

You are greatly loved of God,and you are only a prayer away from a joyfull heart.You can recieve help from God,Because he is willing and able to handle your trouble,and he is faithfull to walk with you in your darkness.

Its a lie that you can not walk in victory,the devil knows you can.
When you sit in darkness,the Lord will be a light to you.

So,be of good cheer,and have faith in God,your faith is weak right now.
And the wicked one knows it,so he is picking on you.But God is able to keep you,and I know he will.It isnt in his caracture to forsake you precoius one,he is just to faithfulll to walk away from you now.

Ill keep you in my prayers.
 
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Hey, little sister, where are you?

I have not seen you post in a long time...I am worried about you...

I miss seeing you talk to us.

I am praying for you, do you know what that means? That means that all the power in heaven will be focussed upon you once again here in about 15 minutes when my knees hit the floor.


Blessings!
 
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[..I am literally in tears while i am typing this. This is the 5th or 6th time i've had a major panic attack recently and i am getting desperate now.

I was a Christian a while back, but something happened and i didn't believe anymore. I don't remember the exact reason why, but i tried and tried to carry on but i ended up drifting away and for the last year or so i haven't been near a church or bible or anything.]


You probably didn’t believe in God to begin with. There is a difference between “Christianity” and a relationship with God. It should be the same, but people had perverted it. I say this, because it's hard to not believe in God, after you've really believed in Him....you know, even the Devil believes in God, He knows the scriptures more than we do....But He cannot have salvation like we can.

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[But i kept on questioning the meaning of life and i've been really depressed a lot.
The thing is i have no one to talk to because now i've left school i don't see my friends anymore. And I can't talk to my family because they're agnostic too. If they get the wrong idea, they might blame God or religions in general for it. I really don't want to push them further away, because of MY problems.
So i've had to keep this to myself for the past year and now i can't handle it anymore.]


Stop questioning the meaning of life without God! That road always leads to suicide….don’t even do it! You can always talk to us, or pm me….talk to another person who knows God….



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[I would have prayed, but i am too afraid to. I am afraid that if i don't get an answer, or at least one that i'd recognise, it'll make me doubt even more.]


How do you know if you don’t ask….and besides God is not a wishing machine….if you read the Word of God, you would know that praying to God is not all about fulfilling our wants, but His Will….He knows what we need and He provides them for us….



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[I can't even enjoy my hobbies because i keep feeling as though i am not allowed to. Like it's a punishment for doubting or for not going to church.
Music isn't helping, tv isn't helping, nothing is making me feel any better.]


You are putting this on yourself, stop it! It’s okay to have questions about God, just never give up searching…….if you are punishing yourself for not going to church, then why don’t you just go…..problem solved!...:)



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[I also have a fear of the night. Not really because of the dark, but because during the day there are other people around and i don't feel alone. But all my family have gone to bed and i am down here on my own. I can't feel anything. I used to feel as though i wasn't alone, but now i feel completely on my own. I look outside and i can't see God in the natural world anymore. I can't see his hand behind anything anymore.

I am afraid to go to bed myself, because i won't sleep. I've had problems with sleeping and i just end up tossing and turning and in tears.

I have thought of suicide many times, but i know that i'd never have the guts to actually go through with it because i worry about my family and i am also a coward who's absolutely terrified of dying.

I would go and see someone, but my family would find out and like i said, i don't want them to know. My dad has an annoying habit of putting the blame on the first thing he thinks of. If he feels i am in pain because of religion, he'll never want anything to do with it. I don't want that to happen.]


You know even though I know God is with me, sometimes for short periods I am scared….because I know that God is the Almighty, I’m not bothered by it….I simply sing a praise to God, read my bible, or listen to a sermon…pretty soon, that evil feeling disappears…. I know how your dad is….he is like my husband…he will blame anything on religion, for some reason I’m not sure…..I guess everyone just want to blame God, because they can’t have it their way….

I used to be scared of the evil spirits/demons….and I used to think the most scariest thing….dying and then going to hell to be with the Devil for all eternity….that is the one place I do not want to be….chances are, if you commit suicide, you’re probably not going to be forgiven, and thus go to hell…..I don’t mean to sound rude, I’m just telling you how terrifying it would be to be there in that evil place without God…so suicide to me was never an option…….it shouldn’t be for anyone….

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[I don't know what i can do, i am afraid of the panic attacks. They come randomly whenever i feel completely alone. And they are really painful.
I am just lucky that so far they haven't happened when my family are around.]


Kestrel, what kind of panic attacks do you have…I wish you were with me, so I could give you a hug and tell you that life is okay…..it’s not that bad….everything is still beautiful no matter how bad your day….if you are having demonic attacks you need to repent yours sins and pray asap! Resist the Devil and He will flee from you....Ask Jesus to be your Savior and He will shield you...pray that you will be able to pray more and more....pray that God will give you courage and strength to overcome all evil with the name of Jesus Christ, and believe in Jesus....

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[So i am stuck and i really need some help. At least typing this has made me feel a bit better because i am actually telling someone else. But i don't know what else to do. So please help if you can, or if you have some advice i'd be really grateful. ]

Kestrel, I’m glad that you typed this…..and glad that you feel better…just be your old self…why are you all depressed in the first place?.....Sometimes Satan gives us NOTHING to be depressed about, ….meaning sometimes we are depressed, but there is no reason , we’re just depressed…….Kestrel, life will go on…you’ve got to know about God, and how great He is…..and accept Jesus as your Savior, so you can be with Him in Heaven when you die…..and you know, you can change your dad by showing Him the Christian in you….and then hopefully you can help bring your family to God……

Kestrel, how I want to share the joy God with you...this is only a little part of my joy that you see....there's a whole lot out there waiting for you...when you deep in your heart, accept Jesus as your Savior, He promised to give you the Holy Spirit, and believe me, you will have so much JOy......
 
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Some of your problems could be attributed to chemicals (or the lack of) in your brain (from what you've described). A lot of depressed people are not making it up and are actually having a serious physical condition happening to them that medication will help.

God has given us many gifted doctors who work through their vocations to help God's children heal while here on earth. We can't ignore them and tell people to stay away from them. God has provided doctors with knowledge and talent to help us.

I'd really recommend you opening up to your family and let them know what's been going on. If you do start on some medications, the first ones you take might not work for you or might have side effects. It might be that you will need to find the right meds that work for you.
 
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