Need help before I can't take anymore

[pantingdeer]

Whoever reads this do not laugh or judge me. Please help me, I'm in a very bad state.

Until about 6 months ago I would be very into girls until one day all attraction towards women and the desire to be with one suddenly disappeared unexplained. I thought it was a phase and would maybe come back but my attraction towards girls never returned.

This has been a very hard time for me and due to this I've become very very sad. Living as a heterosexual male in the future with a wife a I love was the dream but this is a distant reality. And because of the loss of attraction to females I was scared I was asexual or worse gay (no offence to gay people but I would not want to be homosexual sorry). I would begin questionning my sexuality all day every day and I can't take it anymore. I want to be a normal guy like my friends who are comfortable talking to women and so on. Now if I try, I feel like I'm lying to myself and trying to make something work that will never work. This aswell leads to the anxiety and I can't take it anymore. I plead to God all the time to fix me but nothing ever happens to me.

Also, embarrassingly (don't laugh), I'm only 17 and this anxiety and no sexual desire has resulted in the fact that I cannot even get an erection.

This makes me very scared because if this even fixes itself which I dont expect it to, I will never even be able to make my wife happy and multiply.

This all has made me very depressed and I need encouragement or prayer please.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Hi Andrew,

Have you thought about contacting your physician? Sometimes men and women have some sexual issues that are physically related, though only a physician can determine that. Do you have anyone in your support system such as a pastor or someone in leadership that is male who you can talk with about what's going on? If I were in your shoes I would find the need for support and encouragement. You have that here, but also I'd want that in person support.

I'm glad you're here and sharing. I hope others will join in with you and support. I know I can relate to little or no sex drive. It happens sometimes.

 

[pantingdeer]

This has been going on for too long. I want God to fix me and come into my life and save me for time and eternity. Please God. Help me.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Sorting things out can take time. For God to come into your life and save you is a prayer of asking him to do so. @Chaplain David
God will help you - hang on to the fact that time can be discouraging but there are avenues not yet explored. I know it's been a while now, but hang in there. What are your thoughts at what I asked about in the previous post?

 

[dysert]

This has been going on for too long. I want God to fix me and come into my life and save me for time and eternity. Please God. Help me.

Didn't you post your plight elsewhere not too long ago? I remember advising someone to go see their doctor. Your problem might simply be physical and easily correctable. Don't just sit around waiting for God to fix you; do something yourself -- go to the doctor.

 

[pantingdeer]

I don't want to go to a physician. God is the true physician and I believe that he could heal me but that's if he decides to.

God is all powerful and I hope he does heal me as this has made me very depressed and I want to get back to normal. Feelings of sexual immorality are frightening even though I know I'm not saved.

 

[pantingdeer]

If God can heal cancer, make the paralysed walk, make the blind see, I'm sure he could fix me mentally and physically.

 

[pantingdeer]

Didn't you post your plight elsewhere not too long ago? I remember advising someone to go see their doctor. Your problem might simply be physical and easily correctable. Don't just sit around waiting for God to fix you; do something yourself -- go to the doctor.

It's mental. I just don't loses attraction to girls in a day.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Are you sure you aren't depressed?

Depression can kill many things from libido ,drive and interest( hobbies and just a general decline in pursuing the opposite sex)

 

[Balugon]

I can imagine that is very frustrating, trying to figure out what is going on with the desire and not getting any loud answers from God.

While I know you said you don't want to go to a doctor, God puts His Spirit on people and gives them special wisdom. We see this in the story of Moses getting the Tent of Meeting put together: "Yahweh spoke to Moses, saying, 2 'Behold, I have called by name Bezalel the son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah: 3 and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, in wisdom, and in understanding, and in knowledge, and in all kinds of workmanship, 4 to devise skillful works, to work in gold, and in silver, and in brass, 5 and in cutting of stones for setting, and in carving of wood, to work in all kinds of workmanship.' " Exodus 31:1-5 (WEB). God gives special wisdom to doctors as well. We even see Paul giving medical advice to Timothy: "Be no longer a drinker of water only, but use a little wine for your stomach’s sake and your frequent infirmities." 1 Timothy 5:23 (WEB). Back in Bible days, it wasn't always safe to drink the water around, because of the bacteria and parasites that could be in it. Wine, on the other hand, has some anti-bacterial properties (you can see this just by searching "wine antibacterial"). Since Paul knew this, he gave his doctorly advice to Timothy because he believed it would help. The same way that God uses some people to help others learn how to read and write, and how God uses some people to teach others how to plant crops so they can farm, God also teaches some people about how the body works and what can help to fix the body when it is broken. Luke, who wrote the book of Luke in the Bible, was a doctor (Colossians 4:14). While you might be afraid that you are going outside the will of God by visiting a doctor, I would say that doctors are in the will of God, and that you can thank God for the wisdom He has given His servants when you go to the doctor. A doctor might be able to test you and figure out what is going on in your body, and he might be able to give you something that fixes it.

Also, I'd suggest that you don't let your problem swallow you whole. It is just one piece of who you are. There is a lot you can do for God and in the world with who you are right now. Taking time to appreciate what is going right in your life will help you enjoy happiness and will help you to remember God's light and love. If you make your problem a giant, instead of the ant God might see it as, you could live in depression and constantly be in despair, when God might prefer that you be laughing and enjoying life. Perhaps talk to a few people who have been in wheelchairs their whole lives and ask them how they stay happy. It wouldn't surprise me if God reveals secrets to you through them.

 

[Chaplain David]

If God can heal cancer, make the paralysed walk, make the blind see, I'm sure he could fix me mentally and physically.

God can absolutely heal you. However, He often works through people and their professions. So, asking for help or seeking healing from say a mental health provider, is not circumventing God. It is truly opening oneself open to God's faithful and those attempting to minister through their professions. I bet you have been a blessing to others during your life. Does this resonate with you?