Need Christian Friends

[jssceckert]

I am going through some serious life problems and need frieds who have the same moral outlook who can be supportive. I would even settle for online friends(lol). I have never had problems making friends but I am an introvert so I have always taken a long time to make friends and do not like large groups of people. I am from a family of non-believers who are very unsupporive. Their solution to every problem is to drink or do drugs. I really need support in hard times and a real friend who cares. My husband is the only person I can rely on but I feel he gets tired of my complaining and he really needs christian friends also. I have tried joining local churches but I am introverted and also many of the churches are elderly and not many people my age. I hope to hear from some friends. if not it is worth a try to reach out. (I do feel slightly silly for being so open with strangers becasue this is not something I normally do.)

 

[ripple the car]

You're not alone. In real life, I don't talk much. On-line is different and I probably talk too much. Plenty of introverts on CF.

What's cool about the internet is it gives some freedom to open up and be vocal. So be vocal! And if you have questions or difficulties, you can talk about 'em here.

 

[Mel2020]

Always here to support and pray for you dear sister

 

[GodsGrace101]

Hi J,
We all have problems -- it's nothing new.

I have friends but it's not easy to talk to them either; people don't really understand what you're going through unless they've had the same experience.

One thing I know for sure is that alcohol and drugs only make matters worse.

God gives us strength one day at a time. Take life one day at a time; everything becomes settled in one way or another.

Be thankful you know God.

 

[discipler7]

I am going through some serious life problems and need frieds who have the same moral outlook who can be supportive.

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For a start, here's my summary of the Bible or Word of God.

0. God is Omnipotent, Omnipresent and Omniscient. God has His throne in heaven.(EZE.1, REV.4) Satan and his demons rebelled against God.(ISA.14:12, EZE.28:17, REV.12:4-9)
....... God-in-heaven desired to replace the spiritual rebels with S'piritual humans. Earth is like a test-bed for this purpose.

1. On earth, all humans are born sinful/evil/satanic because of Adam's Original Sin = unclean/dirty/unholy = bound for hell when they die.(ROM.5:12)

2. No humans on earth can see the true face of God and live.(EXO.33:20, JOHN.1:18 & 5:37)

3. To save fallen humans, God-in-heaven endeavoured to come down to earth in lesser forms as the invisible Spirit or as the visible human(= Angel of God or Jesus Christ). (JOHN.8:58/EXO.3:14, JOHN.1:1 & 14, 1TIM.3:16, 2COR.3:17, ISA.9:6)
....... As the Spirit, God-in-heaven gave His Law to Moses and the Jews, in order to curb humans' inborn tendency to commit sins/evil-deeds/satanic-deeds.(DEUT.28)
....... As Jesus Christ, God-in-heaven gave the apostles and Christians the sacrificial Lamb of God on the Cross(JOHN.1:29), in order to save them from hell when they die = the free gift of salvation or the kingdom of heaven through faith.(JOHN.3:16, MATT.4:17, GAL.2:16)
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A good analogy of our One and Only God is our one and only sun.
... God-the-Father-in-heaven sends His invisible Spirit and His visible Son-Jesus to earth to sustain immortal life = the sun-in-outer-space sends her invisible warmth/heat and her visible light to earth to sustain mortal life.
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The Bible or Word of God can be broken down into 2 parts, the Old and New Testaments/Covenants, ie,

(i) if you wanna have a good n long life on earth, you need to keep the Law/Word of God.(DEUT.28, MATT.19:21, ACTS.15:24-29, cf; 1COR.5:1-5 & 11:30, 1JOHN.5:16-19),

(ii) if you wanna go to heaven when you die, you need to be saved from hell by Jesus the Christ/Messiah/Savior.(MATT.5:27-30, ROM.5:12, LEV.17:11, HEB.9:22, JOHN.3:16, 1COR.6:9-11, REV.22:12-15)

Christians should aim to achieve both, ie to gain both blessings from God, eg MATT.19:23.
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Bc of our inherited Adam's Original Sin, we have the dual problems of INVOLUNTARY satanic/evil/sinful thoughts, eg immoral lust, hate, anger, greed, selfishness, jealousy, fear/worries, doubts, etc, ...and VOLUNTARY satanic/evil/sinful deeds, eg blasphemy, idolatry, murder, adultery/fornication/rape, stealing, lying/cheating/defrauding, etc.
....... The former resulted in being cursed/sent to hell when we die(GEN.3:14-16) and the latter resulted in being cursed by God with a sad and short life on earth. God's Law solved the latter and God's Son solved the former.
....... Usually, before someone committed murder, he/she had originally harbored hate or greed or lust or jealousy or etc in his/her heart and mind.(source is spiritually from Satan - JOHN.8:44, MATT.16:23 & 23:27, MARK.7:21, 1JOHN.3:8)) IOW, all humans are born satanic/evil/sinful/unclean, from their hearts to their feet.
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At ACTS.15:24-29, God/Jesus requires Gentile Christians to begin their born-again lives of the Spirit by keeping 4 easy or non-burdensome laws of Moses, ie avoid eating blood, strangled animals, foods sacrificed to idols and sexual immorality = minimum legal requirement. They r then given time to learn to gradually keep the other laws of Moses which are not a burden, esp morality laws, eg the Ten Commandments at EXODUS.20, LEVITICUS.10:9, DEUTERONOMY.18:9-14, etc.
....... In comparison, Jewish Christians are required by God/Jesus to continue to keep Moses Law, as many as possible, because it is not a burden to them.
....... Eg, Gentile Christians should still avoid homosexuality and continue to eat non-kosher foods because the former is not a burden but the latter is a burden(ie it's a burden for them to keep the food laws).
... Faith in God's Son, Jesus = faith in God's Word/Law/commandments because JOHN.1:1 says the Son is the Word and is also God.

We need to properly differentiate between involuntary satanic/evil/sinful thoughts and voluntary sins/evil deeds, and between involuntary or inborn Gentile and Jewish Christians.

Analogy about involuntary evil/satanic thoughts and voluntary evil-deeds/sins - black crows often squawks noisily over our heads but we should not let them build their dirty nests on our heads.

 

[Brotherly Spirit]

Hello jsscheckert, you're not alone offline or online as many of have the same struggles. Often the problem about being social is expecting too much. We worry about what should be said to the point of saying nothing, or say something and worry it wasn't enough. It helps to just accept you're a quiet person who usually has little to say, but when you have something to say not let yourself shy away (i.e. doubts, fears, reasons, excuses etc.) It is much easier online to open yourself to others, in someways it helps and transfers offline as well.

This is the place to come if you're looking for friends who share your beliefs. Personally I've not yet been in a position to look for a church, and I don't know people closely who're openly seeking fellowship. But for now the forums full of Christians has been very helpful. People are openly seeking fellowship and it's as much a church in it's own right. Talks about scriptures, theology, discipleship, prayers, blessings etc.

 

[tdidymas]

I am going through some serious life problems and need frieds who have the same moral outlook who can be supportive. I would even settle for online friends(lol). I have never had problems making friends but I am an introvert so I have always taken a long time to make friends and do not like large groups of people. I am from a family of non-believers who are very unsupporive. Their solution to every problem is to drink or do drugs. I really need support in hard times and a real friend who cares. My husband is the only person I can rely on but I feel he gets tired of my complaining and he really needs christian friends also. I have tried joining local churches but I am introverted and also many of the churches are elderly and not many people my age. I hope to hear from some friends. if not it is worth a try to reach out. (I do feel slightly silly for being so open with strangers becasue this is not something I normally do.)

Many people make close friends by going to a share group where you meet people with the same kind of issues, and able to encourage each other. I recommend something like:
Celebrate Recovery Homepage
TD

 

[1watchman]

Keep in mind that when one knows the Lord Jesus as Savior and Lord of one's life, we can walk and talk with Him daily. He enjoys that and will act by God's Spirit to help you find peace and the good pathway each day. Write me anytime in private if you wish to chat

 

[jssceckert]

Keep in mind that when one knows the Lord Jesus as Savior and Lord of one's life, we can walk and talk with Him daily. He enjoys that and will act by God's Spirit to help you find peace and the good pathway each day. Write me anytime in private if you wish to chat

thank you! I talk to God daily but it would be nice to have other relationships to. Support is need here.