Need Advice

[shastajade]

My fiancee and I are planning on getting married someday, we haven't picked out a date yet, but It will just kinda depend on his schooling and whatnot.

Anyhow, we have seen eachother almost every day for the past 5 months and now he has to move an hour and a half to go to school. He is building me a computer so that i can keep contact with him on instant messenger all the time, and he said we could talk on the phone which is great when he is avaliable.

I am definatly for him persuing his dreams and bettering himself. The school he is going to is the best in our state, its just that we are going from seeing eachother almost every day, to me being able to see him when he comes down which is like 2-3 times a month.

I know that he wants to marry me, and I am 100% sure I want to spend the rest of my life with him, i guess i am just getting really insecure about things.

Things such as...what if he finds a girl way better than me. There are supposibly over 13,000 girls where he's moving . (its a college town) I don't exactly have real high self esteem since i screwed my life up really bad in the past and now im 22 and starting all over again. He tells me i am everything he wants in a wife, i guess i am just afraid he is going to find some prettier, more successful, christian girl and start dating her since she lives closer . I know i probably sound completely stupid, but I really am in love with him. I know he would never cheat on me, so i'm not worried about that. I know that I would be a wonderful wife to him. I am 100% all about the Biblical marriage in every way. I guess I just worry. Am i stupid for feeling this way ? I have never met any guy that could ever compare to him. And i know that if anything were to happen to us, i would always have super high standards and always compare everyone to him. Things like "anthony would never have yelled at me like that" and whatnot. He is just amazing. We are compatible in every way. But im still insecure. Help please?

 

[Pennylanedaytripper]

You never know on these things. The human heart is quite deceiving. I've found that all you can do is trust God and pray about it and leave it in His hands, and when you leave it in His hands, mean it

 

[FaithfulServant]

Honey, do not have low self esteem about yourself. Some people don't get their life on track until they are much older than you. You are still a young beautiful woman of God. I understand your insecurity but don't put God in a box by thinking that there is no one out there as good as or better than Anthony. If you and Anthony WERE to break up, it would be because God wanted that to happen, and he could have someone much better out there for you.

If you act insecure ...that may lead to clingyness and not giving him space That makes men run away like children running away on the last day of school. If he tells you that he wants to spend his life with you, and you have that ring on your finger, the best you can do is trust in God. *hug*

God Bless,

Steffani

 

[shastajade]

Sterffani i would love to talk to you because you are god-sent in my life. Pm sometime cuz you are a wonderful blessing at a stressful time in life. Thank you so much.

Thanks to you also penny!

Bless you.

 

[silentpoet]

I think worries are a way of drawing us closer to God. Jesus and many other wise men have said not to worry. But we are only human and susceptable to worry among other weaknesses. God will take care of you, regardless of what happens with regards to that which you worry about.