need advice

[Blank123]

I put this on the courting couples board, but I thought I'd post this here too, cuz I really want everyone's advice.

Anyway, there is this guy I go to church with, we're don't know eachother well, in fact I think the only thing he knows about me is my name. Anyway a few months ago, we both seemed to really start to notice eachother, and we keep meeting eyes and staring at eachother, smiling at eachother from across the room, etc... but it looks like we're both too shy to make the first move to get to know eachother. And to make things a little more interesting, shortly after this started, my mom caught him checking me out at church, and she's seen me looking at him, so she knows we're interested in eachother. but like I said this has been going on for months, and it's driving me crazy, I really want to get to know him, but it's hard to approach someone you barely know, and we don't have any mutual friends. Sometimes I think I should just call him up and ask him out, but my mom keeps telling me that we should become friends first and then decide if we're right for eachother, which I agree with, but that brings me back to my dilemma.

So what do you guys think? would it be wierd if I managed to work up the courage to call him and just ask him out?

any advice would be appreciated

 

[Buskanaka]

So what do you guys think? would it be wierd if I managed to work up the courage to call him and just ask him out?

yes, that would be weird. furthermore, I think that would a whole lot harder to do than just going up and saying hi at church. How do you know you even like this guy? Checking each other out probably means physical attraction, but what happens if you go talk to him and find him really boring or something?

Ok, here's my ideas:

1) Make sure you're carrying some stuff, walk around near where he is, then bump into something and drop all the stuff at his feet!

2) Get a friend to go talk to him, then go up on the pretense of talking to your friend and get your friend to introduce you.

3) Go sit next to him so he HAS to talk to you.

4) Follow him around without saying anything until he talks to you.

5) Go say hi!

 

[mattkimsey]

^ do that.....dont be so shy like me

 

[Bks Finest]

i agree with matt
get the courage
ask him out
what have you got to lose
dont let the oppurtunity pass trust me i know

 

[ZUnit]

just talk to the guy.

 

[Out of the Flames]

just talk to the guy.

Amen!

If you're going to go so far as to work up the courage to call him, then you may as well talk to him in person.

 

[klewlis]

Initiate a small group activity and make sure that he and one of his friends are invited. Do you know any of his friends?

Failing that, just do as the others said above... go talk to him!!

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

Go get him Tigress! Where is the raawr? NM don't listen to me, ever, I don't even take my own advice.

 

[Quiet Storm]

1) Make sure you're carrying some stuff, walk around near where he is, then bump into something and drop all the stuff at his feet!

I don't know if you were kidding or not, but that doesn't seem like such a bad idea to me!! I personally know that if that were to happen around me then I would at least go up to help....and probably twice as fast if I were a secret admirer of hers.

 

[fishstix]

Your mom sounds very wise. Definitely start by being friends. Go say hello to him, have a conversation, and start building a friendship from there. Things may get more serious eventually, but don't rush into a romantic relationship with someone you barely know. Get to know each other as friends first.

 

[Blank123]

thanks for your advice evry one

I don't know what I'm going to do though, still praying about it. I have gotten up the courage to talk to him a few times before but every time somebody was already talking to him before I got the chance. I am thinking of maybe getting a group of people together to hang out sometime next week and maybe asking him to join us, but I don't know.

 

[fishstix]

I am thinking of maybe getting a group of people together to hang out sometime next week and maybe asking him to join us, but I don't know.

That sounds like an excellent idea