My husband is a wonderful man. I couldn't ask for a better husband or father to our children. It's not perfect, but the big picture is very, very good. He is a believer (he believes there is a God), but not a follower (he doesn't think it affects his life very much). I do not presume to judge another's salvation, especially my husbands, but I worry. I pray. I love and submit and help him. I feel helpless, though. I want him to really know Jesus. Does anyone have any suggestions on what else I can do?
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It sounds like you're doing the right thing already. Show him Christ in your actions and your love for him. You can't force him to believe, but you can pray for him and be supportive. Good luck and God bless your family.
Love, Heather
Love, Heather
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I agree a lot with Heather.
My husband is a beliver also, but his approach is different than mine. I pray to God to put His finger on us and guide us on the path for which He intends. I ask Him to be the cornerstone of our marriage. Prayer has been helping. We no longer fight like mad. I am learning that if an argument is beginning to get ugly then it is time to exit stage left. It is hard for me to keep my temper in check, but God has helped me in leaps and bounds. I no longer fight a loosing fight. If insults are placed on the table I leave the room. Very rarely do I participate in a discussion if he resorts to being mean just to hurt my feelings. Sometimes he will resort to hurting my feelings b/c my point is unavoidable. I cannot submit to someone who is mean so I have virtually eliminated this possibility. Instead I say that I am not ready to talk about it yet, and will do so when I am calm. This has also helped us a lot. We have many things in common, but different ways in which we apply them. It is usually a good balance, but sometimes gets in the way. There is one thing that we are both sure. We are both absolutely in love with each other. He knows it and I know it. Consequently, we have both learned to forgive.
My husband is a beliver also, but his approach is different than mine. I pray to God to put His finger on us and guide us on the path for which He intends. I ask Him to be the cornerstone of our marriage. Prayer has been helping. We no longer fight like mad. I am learning that if an argument is beginning to get ugly then it is time to exit stage left. It is hard for me to keep my temper in check, but God has helped me in leaps and bounds. I no longer fight a loosing fight. If insults are placed on the table I leave the room. Very rarely do I participate in a discussion if he resorts to being mean just to hurt my feelings. Sometimes he will resort to hurting my feelings b/c my point is unavoidable. I cannot submit to someone who is mean so I have virtually eliminated this possibility. Instead I say that I am not ready to talk about it yet, and will do so when I am calm. This has also helped us a lot. We have many things in common, but different ways in which we apply them. It is usually a good balance, but sometimes gets in the way. There is one thing that we are both sure. We are both absolutely in love with each other. He knows it and I know it. Consequently, we have both learned to forgive.
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Christi, Hang in there and keep praying for you husband. If you keep your faith strong it may have a big impact on him. You show him the joy of a personal relationship with the Lord and he may come around. I know women who have attended church with their children and the husband didn't go. And they finally came too. God Bless You.
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I too will pray for you and your husband..
Can I ask.. do you guys go to church? If you do, maybe your husband can get into a mens group or be a part of a ministry in your church.. Meeting other christian men, or being friends with christians, just might make him open up a bit more, or be more comfortable in a better understanding, than just knowing more than Jesus..
Can I ask.. do you guys go to church? If you do, maybe your husband can get into a mens group or be a part of a ministry in your church.. Meeting other christian men, or being friends with christians, just might make him open up a bit more, or be more comfortable in a better understanding, than just knowing more than Jesus..
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Thank you all for your answers. I have trouble with "Being still and knowing He is God", I am so impatient. sigh. He doesn't go to church. He feel "uncomfortable around church people." Sigh again. I will continure to pray and wait and try to be a good model.
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My advice is to go to church and take the kids. Just because he is not going doesn't mean that us spouses are off the hook. Go for you and mainly also the children, your husband will soon see in time what the deal is all about. It could be a long time or short just something we all have to do for the sake of our Lord and what he died for.
Life is tough and you are a good tough person and can do it, anything.
In his name,
Take care,
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Hey Christi,
Here's an idea. You know your husband and the kind of people he would get along with. Why not find a couple or two...husbands that he would have a lot in common with (you know, football, fishing, cars, whatever he's into). Have a barbeque or something...just a non-church day to hang out and let him get to know some church people.
Lots of people have the misconception that all church people want to do is sit around and talk about Jesus and the Bible all the time. Maybe if you can show him that church people are real people who like to do normal fun things he'd be more comfortable.
I don't suppose you could just promise to take him for ice cream after church? It works with my 4 year old
Love, Heather
Here's an idea. You know your husband and the kind of people he would get along with. Why not find a couple or two...husbands that he would have a lot in common with (you know, football, fishing, cars, whatever he's into). Have a barbeque or something...just a non-church day to hang out and let him get to know some church people.
Lots of people have the misconception that all church people want to do is sit around and talk about Jesus and the Bible all the time. Maybe if you can show him that church people are real people who like to do normal fun things he'd be more comfortable.
I don't suppose you could just promise to take him for ice cream after church? It works with my 4 year old
Love, Heather
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Heather, It would probably work with my husband, too! He's a huge ice cream addict! Your barbeque idea sounds great....we do alot of those for work-related things. (Are you starting to see a common theme of food-related stuff with him? lol!) I think I need to start checking on that, trying to figure out which of his friends, aquaintances, and business associates are Christians and go from there. Hey, thanks! Now I have something pro-active to do! Love ya! Christi
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