Need advice on a delicate matter

[NightEternal]

Okay, I have an awkward, delicate problem that needs to be handled with tact, a trait that I have already confessed I do not possess in abundance. Need some input.

I feel like I'm writing to 'Dear Abby' or Ann Landers here...

Anyhow, here it is:

The couple in the studio apartment next door to us are.....shall we say, very, very loud. Especially the woman.

Now, let me state that the walls are not that thick at all, so they might just as well be right in our place doing this for all the volume that is generated. I have a home office, and thier bedroom is right next to it. Now, I don't know anyone else here, but I find it very, very hard to concentrate on work when my ears are bombarded by the jackhammer sound of a headboard ramming through my wall and the wails and moans of a full-blown porno movie production assaulting my senses. :o

And when I meet this woman as we pass each other in the halls, I'm supposed to somehow make eye contact and say hello without being completely embarassed?

And it's ALL THE TIME night and day. I honestly wonder if these people work.

My wife and I cannot get any sleep at all, because every night like clockwork, they decide to get it on. And we're talking from 2:00-4:00 in the morning! We're just wrecked for the day.

It was funny at first, but now it's just getting ridiculous. Are we supposed to just endure these animal sounds of fornication (no, they are not married) and not make a scene? Or should we ask them to tone it down? And how does one do that without creating the most awkward, embarrasing scenario ever?

Needless to say, we are terrified to have company anymore, much less anyone from church!! Can you imagine trying to have a Sabbath conversation and dinner with all that going on for all to hear?

Yeah, not so much feeling that folks.

I could complain to the landlord, but how on earth would that work? Not to mention the strained relations it would cause with our neighbors. I don't know if anyone else on our floor has this issue or even cares.

So, what should I do and how should I do it?

 

[StormyOne]

knock on their door, introduce yourself, tell them you are glad you are neighbors and if they dont have a problem with you hearing every word they say or moan in every one of their ummmm sessions, its okay with you.....

 

[TrustAndObey]

The couple beside me are not real attractive, so once I move in, if I have to hear that, I'm calling the police.

LOL

All kidding aside, this is an easy one.....

Play a radio station from your computer in your office and let them hear how much sound travels through that wall. Maybe they're just not aware.

If that doesn't work, yell something to Mrs. Eternal one night like "HONEY....they're doing it agaaaaain. Cripes...do these people have jobs?!"

That's tactful. I think.

 

[thecountrydoc]

I've learned over the years it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Ever heard that one before? Since I tend to be rather direct and not waste too many words or too much time when someone is invading my privacy here's what I would do.

First I would figure out when the fellow would be available. Then after carefully planing what I was going to say, and after takng a few deep breaths before starting out, I would plan to catch him outside as he was returning home if possible so the young woman wouldn't be present, and if that is not possible I'd pick a time to knock on the front door and speak to him even if he had a family reunion going on.

If you don't already know him I would start by introdicing myelf. I would then start by being somewhat appolgitic and saying; "I really hate to bother you but there is somthing that I really need to talk to you about. Please don't be offended but it's rather personal in nature." I would then proceed, using my most dipolimatic wording, to request a cease and desist of the excessive nightime/daytime activities and noise. If you don't explain exactly what is bothering you he will never understand the problem or the reason you are unhappy. If you use an indirect approach, ie. bangng on the walls ect., it will most lkely be ignored or worse yet cause a riff between you and your neighbor that may lead to greater problems.

Try that on for size and if it doesn't work there is always step #2. Let your wife speak to the young woman.

Respectfully,
Doc

 

[tall73]

Simple. Just get it on really loudly in your office and they will realize how thin the walls are.

 

[NightEternal]

Bwahahahaha!!!

As much as I think Tall's advice was the best, I am not sure the missus would go for it!

Maybe I will try Doc's advice. No, I don't know the guy very well, so it will be an interesting exchange.

Actually, what I was thinking of doing was tape recording the action and then leaving the cassete in thier mailbox with 'from your neighbors' written on the envelope.

Then I realized they might think it was us on the tape!

Probably not the way to go...

 

[TrustAndObey]

Bwahahahaha!!!

As much as I think Tall's advice was the best, I am not sure the missus would go for it!

Maybe I will try Doc's advice. No, I don't know the guy very well, so it will be an interesting exchange.

Actually, what I was thinking of doing was tape recording the action and then leaving the cassete in thier mailbox with 'from your neighbors' written on the envelope.

Then I realized they might think it was us on the tape!

Probably not the way to go...

Tall's advice was about coffee. Yeah. That's exactly what he meant by get it on....get it on to BREW. Uh huh. Yep.

I wouldn't do the cassette thing at all. They'd probably think you were trying to blackmail them!

 

[freeindeed2]

Bwahahahaha!!!

As much as I think Tall's advice was the best, I am not sure the missus would go for it!

Maybe I will try Doc's advice. No, I don't know the guy very well, so it will be an interesting exchange.

Actually, what I was thinking of doing was tape recording the action and then leaving the cassete in thier mailbox with 'from your neighbors' written on the envelope.

Then I realized they might think it was us on the tape!

Probably not the way to go...

LOL! Now that's funny! I don't care who you are.

Hey, why don't you hit the wall with your hand or rubber mallet inbetween every time the headboard hits the wall. Maybe try some off rythms and try to throw them off a bit. Practice the trumpet, or talk to them through the walls during the 'event'. Maybe talk some sports or just introduce yourself through the wall. "Hi, this is Night Eternal, and I feel like I know you two already..."

 

[Adventist Dissident]

Bwahahahaha!!!

As much as I think Tall's advice was the best, I am not sure the missus would go for it!

Maybe I will try Doc's advice. No, I don't know the guy very well, so it will be an interesting exchange.

Actually, what I was thinking of doing was tape recording the action and then leaving the cassete in thier mailbox with 'from your neighbors' written on the envelope.

Then I realized they might think it was us on the tape!

Probably not the way to go...

how about you just pretend to get it on, you and your wife bounce up and down on the bed while sitting and wail and moan really loud they they might get the point? it would be really funny.

 

[tall73]

how about you just pretend to get it on, you and your wife bounce up and down on the bed while sitting and wail and moan really loud they they might get the point? it would be really funny.

Or they would take it as a challenge and be louder the next time.

 

[mva1985]

Night,

That really has to suck. I think so far Doc's advice is best by approaching the guy.

The tape idea has some merit, maybe, just put on the note "this is how you sound on tape - is it live or is it Memorex?"

 

[Jimlarmore]

Wow, what a situation. My thoughts were what about the kids in that apartment complex? What must they be thinking? The young ones probably wouldn't get the real idea of what was going on but what about those approaching puberty?

I don't know my friend, I think there are a host of good ideas in the post's above but in the end to get some peace , you are going to have to do something. Pray that the Lord will lead you to do the right thing.

God Bless
Jim Larmore

 

[tall73]

but what about those approaching puberty?

Probably tune in on the hour.

 

[Jimlarmore]

Probably tune in on the hour.

Most boys are hormone driven after puberty and something like this would be very tough on them to endure without fantacizing what is going on at that time. The mental images would be ever present to go with what they were listening to for sure.

God Bless
Jim Larmore

 

[moicherie]

Tall's advice is good - lol, you could try a running commentary, that is if they can hear you in their throes of non martial excess......

 

[NightEternal]

Well, I guess I should update on this one. We moved out of that highrise apartment complex last year and bought our very first home. I do miss sitting out on the balcony and watching the city lights of downtown Toronto as the sun sets, but oh well. We still have a good view from the house.

As far as that couple goes, I never did get around to approaching them about it. We moved out just as I was ready to snap, thankfully.

As far as I know they still live there and are probably still 'entertaining' thier new neighbors.

 

[Sophia7]

I'm glad you don't have to worry about being "entertained" by them anymore.

 

[freeindeed2]

I had forgotten about this 'delicate' matter...

...glad it's been resolved.

In CHRIST alone...