I need some advice...(please only respond if you are a Christian who takes the Biblical stance on no pre-maritial sex.)
Recently my best friend (she's Christian) confessed to me that her and her boyfriend of over a year have started having sex. Before she told me this she had told me she planned to stay a virgin until marriage. Now she has suddenly changed her mind!
I simply didn't know what to say after she told me that they did it for the first time. She told me that she had changed her view and that she now thought pre-maritial sex was okay because in the Old Testament marriage ceremonies didn't exist and having sex was the sign of a married couple. (She told me she got this from a conversation at a Bible study.) To me this just sounds like an excuse to condone her actions. I told her that the New Testament CLEARLY stated that fornication was wrong but she didn't say anything. She said that her boyfriend and her had decided to continue having sex only about once a month and that if it started distracting them from other things then they would stop.
I am just completely shocked. I never expected her to do this! She even had a purity ring (which, ironically, she lost the day before they started having sex). It seems to me that she is making excuse after to excuse to try and condone her having pre-maritial sex. It's like she's looking for loop holes in The Bible to weasel her way around the truth.
Her and I are very close, she is like a sister to me. We tell each other everything and anything...but what do I say to her now?!
*sigh*
I just don't know what to tell her. I told her that it was her decision, but she knows my views.
~Brooke
Recently my best friend (she's Christian) confessed to me that her and her boyfriend of over a year have started having sex. Before she told me this she had told me she planned to stay a virgin until marriage. Now she has suddenly changed her mind!
I simply didn't know what to say after she told me that they did it for the first time. She told me that she had changed her view and that she now thought pre-maritial sex was okay because in the Old Testament marriage ceremonies didn't exist and having sex was the sign of a married couple. (She told me she got this from a conversation at a Bible study.) To me this just sounds like an excuse to condone her actions. I told her that the New Testament CLEARLY stated that fornication was wrong but she didn't say anything. She said that her boyfriend and her had decided to continue having sex only about once a month and that if it started distracting them from other things then they would stop.
I am just completely shocked. I never expected her to do this! She even had a purity ring (which, ironically, she lost the day before they started having sex). It seems to me that she is making excuse after to excuse to try and condone her having pre-maritial sex. It's like she's looking for loop holes in The Bible to weasel her way around the truth.
Her and I are very close, she is like a sister to me. We tell each other everything and anything...but what do I say to her now?!
*sigh*
I just don't know what to tell her. I told her that it was her decision, but she knows my views.
~Brooke