Hoping for some words of advice. I am a divorced (10 years) working mom of 2 teens. I’ve been dating a man for 2 years who is flawed but I love him. He’s essentially a functioning alcoholic and is not super responsible but he’s got a good heart and loves the Lord. I have worked hard to get my life back after my divorce. I have a good paying job and own my own home now. I love being with this man but can’t bring myself to marry him due to his issues. I’ve tried to talk to him about them but it seems he’s incapable of changing. I truly believe he is on the spectrum and I’m not just making excuses. My son is autistic and I know a lot about it. Anyhow - I’ve fallen into a comfortable place of just dating but not marrying. He stays over a few nights a week but sleeps in another room one pullout couch. He lives in my town and I’d prefer he go home at night but he drinks and doesn’t want to drive home even after 1 drink due to an earlier DUI. I have parents and a sibling that live very close and are shaming me for dating him In the first place and allowing him to stay at my home When we’re not married. I am so unhappy I could die. I really do want marriage but I’m so afraid. I know he’s not suitable for this but I love him. I’ve tried to break things off a few times but I’m miserable without him. I don’t know what to do. I live in an area where it seems there aren’t any men who share my Christian conservative values. I fear that if I lose him I will face a lifetime of loneliness. Please help.