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Alex117

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My name Is Alex, I've been dating this girl named Rachel for 2 Years and almost 2 months long distance. Her mom has always been controlling, I mean screamin over the table being set wrong. But is nice at times.

Anyway, the night in question Rachel got off of school early, It was last thursday, We were so thrilled because of the winter strom she got off, we would have 4 days over the weekend together. Well, It started out great. We watched a movie together, I was a lil cranky with her. Then we were playing some Halo together on X-box live since we got into that habit about a month or so ago. And her mom came home from work, Screaming about something, im sure about the first thing. I think Rachel put the food in the oven wrong or something or another. Regardless after that passed, We went back to Playing Halo while we were on the phone. And her mom came in screaming for her to get ready to go to these Italian classes. Rachel said she didnt wanan go and then the fight began from there. They were screaming and yelling. Rachel was mostly yelling just leave my room for 5 minutes.

Well, I said we should just end this relationship to be easier on you. and she replied like "Please Alex, no no dont do this no" And the yelling and screaming came back and went away and she said "..Alex" and I hung up. Well she called back and her and her mom were still at it, of course by way before this Rachel was Crying really hard and still is. She said I gotta go or we wont be able to talk for the whole weekend. So we decided she should just go and she went. Later on she got back and Rang me, We kinda got into it because she was still crying and I told her I hated her and to pull her head out of her A** (yeah i know....I hate me too) anyway I told her it should be over, and her mom came in agian fighting and yelling about something, Who knows what about this time. And I was yelling at Rachel while her mom was yelling at her, and so on. Eventully the phone got hung up somehow, and I called back, And her mom answered, And said, "Rachel cant be on the phone till Monday" So i Sent 2 sets of flowers to her over the weekend that we couldnt talk, all while trying to call and leaving messages. One set was Roses, the Other was a Mix. Regardless, It was mixed up I left message after message, non angry though, just loving, and beggin her mom to let me tell her I love her. But I didnt get a reply.

Monday came, I was up early to call before she left for school, she usually calls me then or I call her, not everyday though at that time. I didnt get her then so I was a little worried, but not heaps. Then Lunch time for Rachel came at school. Her Lunch break is when she calls me from school on the pay phone, Either Collect calling or with a Phone Card. She didnt. (now this is Monday, the day were supposed to be allowed to talk) Then when she got home from school everyday 4:21 EST (3:21 Her Time) I rang, no answer. I kept trying and leaving messages. Of course this whole time since thursday, I've been balwing because I love her and if I had just said Go to begin with we would be talking, having a good time, playing halo, laughing, loving and having fun. Didnt get to talk to her at all, all Monday.

Now its Tuesday, No call in the morning, and no call on her lunch time, she will be getting home from school in about One and a Half hours. I dont know what to think if she doesnt answer then.

Ya know, we did everythign together, Ate, slept, even went to the bathroom on the phone! Yeah, even that. So you can iamgine everything we did. Theres so many memories of her in Halo, Having her guy run up to mine and say "Muah" like a kiss. Now I cant talk to her, I dont know if shes okay, I dont know if someone convinced her that me and her are better off apart, and I dont know if shes still grounded. I just dont know. I did give her a Pre-Engagment ring about 2-3 weeks ago. Yeah, I told her by accpeting the ring that she would promise to love me forever, never leave my side and always be here with me and always be true. And she Put the ring on and accepted.

But here I am today, Balwing, I wake up in the middle of the night, trying to talk to her thinking im on the phone going " Rachel, Rachel" but I never was on the phone, I cry, I havnt eaten in 4 Days. Its just so hard, I need my baby. I do, I love her so very much. Please Pray for us to get back together. Im sure its Gods will because im sure he meant for me and her to be together. We both beleived that.

Another thing is we were very God centered, Reading Max Lucado Books. Guideposts everyday. Everything. Every single thing you can imagine we did. We prayed everynight before we went to bed. Watched Joel Osteen at night on sundays. But we let that slip latley. And im ashamed of that. I am.

But here...here I am now, I need help....I cant stop crying I dont know what to do, noone is giving me any anwers, idont know whats going on, its killing me...please it hurts so bad. Were so in Love, please its not fair....:help: :cry:
 

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Alex,

Perhaps after you hung up the phone Rachel continued to argue with her mother and her grounding was extended. Perhaps your flowers and attempts to call her looked like rebelling against her mother's authority, and she's been prohibited from speaking to you.

Pray for peace for yourself. Pray for peace for Rachel. Pray for a better relationship between Rachel and her mother.

Ask God to show you what He wants you to do next.
 
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Heavenly Father, we ask that you walk beside our dear brother and mend his broken heart. We ask that you send him comfort and provide him with the answers he longs for. We ask that you guide him throughout each day, and bless and keep him always. We ask all things in Jesus' precious name, Amen.
 
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Thank you all so much, so very very much. It means the world to me, God bless you all. thank you, I just hope its Gods will that we are re united.

Thank you


I got another questions though, see me and her did everything together, movies books games...everything, what can I do to get my mind off of her? Im sorry im so hopeless its just, I havnt eaten in 5 days I, just cant eat. We even got midnight snacks together and I find it hurts to cry. Actully hurts.
 
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Obviously, you don't want to end this so keep trying until you get hold of her and ask forgiveness for anything you feel you failed at. Alex, I can see the pain... here's my prayer ... DAD, we lift this young man up to you.. we lift up Rachel and her mother... we ask You to take control of the situation and allow Alex and Rachel to learn from it all... for Rachel's mother that you change her heart and draw her to Your Son... give everyone comfort and get these two back in touch... thanks DAD
 
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Lord help this young man
Grant and give him your love
And that he will lean on you
No matter what occurs
In thy name and will
Also uplift Rachel
Let her lean on you
Amen
 
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Alex117 said:
I still havnt spoken with her. I dont know whats going on. Its killing me. I just keep breaking down.:(
Father, I speak peace over this young man right now in Jesus' name. I pray you will interceed where all else has failed. Lord, we don't know why people say and do hurtful things but we do know that you are always in control if we allow you to be. Help alex have some peace of mind and keep him physically strong, In Jesus' name, Amen.
 
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