need a little help here

[vidgamerjon]

Ok, I've been going out with this girl I met in my church for just a little over two months now. I knew going into it that she wasn't that strong of faith. And I had insights that she's holding things against God. Well, about a month and a half into our relationship, she sorta admitted that she doesn't even consider herself a Christian. She won't go to Prayer Meeting with me, she doesn't want to have Bible study with me, and she plugs her fingers in her ears when I play Christian music in the car when we go somewhere. I'm not exactly sure what to do here.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I think you know what to do. I think you guys should be friends, help her in her faith, but don't missionary date ok? You need to have someone who will help you grow in your faith and that you won't have to pull along when she isn't really committed to it. Do you want to marry someone who isn't committed to their faith?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

She's plugs her ears when you play Christian music in the car?! Sounds like she is a bit immature too. If you are still encouraging her (encouraging, not pushing) and she still doesn't want to participate then you are going to have pray and ask God to tell you what to do. No one here can tell what the next step should be. But really think if this is the type of relationship that you want to be in.

 

[pegatha]

She's being honest with you. She's already told you who she is. But are you being honest with yourself? Are you hoping she'll change? She's probably hoping you'll be the one to change. As a rule of thumb, you should be dating people for who they are, not for who you hope they would be if they made a 180-degree turnaround.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

You can't change a person. Only she can change herself. If she is going to make this change, it has to be for herself, not because of you.

 

[Weasel7711]

Leave her

 

[vidgamerjon]

I know I can't change her. That's not what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to communicate God's love to her, but I know it'll take effort on her end. I feel like I'm not as close to God since I've been with her. And I feel like I'm gonna be drawn to missionairy/ministry someday. And if she is this way now, I can't imagine how she'd behave then. My two problems: 1)I don't know how to tell her this without it hurting her. 2)I'm afraid of what it might do to her if the Church we go to finds out why I can't be with her.

 

[Weasel7711]

Theres many ways to communicate God's love to her without being in a serious relationship with her. You dont have to stop talking to her altogether but take the "we're dating" aspect out of it, which may even help you help her better.

 

[vidgamerjon]

But wouldn't the post break up weirdness make it harder to communicate God's love?

 

[California Dreamin']

She's plugs her ears when you play Christian music in the car?! Sounds like she is a bit immature too. If you are still encouraging her (encouraging, not pushing) and she still doesn't want to participate then you are going to have pray and ask God to tell you what to do. No one here can tell what the next step should be. But really think if this is the type of relationship that you want to be in.

I have non-Christians I know who have even commented on my Christian music, and said they liked it! That sounds so rude and immature to plug your ears to someone's music!

I would express your concerns and feelings to her and just really talk with her and explain what you would like to do in the future, etc.