my story (in short)

[SDW]

before i asked God into my life, id had sex with 7 different guys, and not all while i was in a bf/gf relationship, all in the space of 3 to 4 years.

i asked God into my life while i was in a sexual relationship, and realised what i was doing wasnt right, because i knew he wasnt ''the one'' because i was still purving on other guys, so i told him i didnt want to do it anymore.
as much as he said it was fine, he eventually guilted me into having sex with him (which was the begining of the end of our at the time 9 month relationship, and it was also during one of those times i became pregnant).

i prayed to God, asking him to help me with my problem, and he answered by not presenting me with any opportunities to do anything, as well as not letting me get into ''the mood'' to want to do anything to myself either.

after my daughter was born, i started talking to one of my good male friends id had for 10 years, we'd always had a flirty relationship, but other than primary school ''relationships'' nothing more than friendship had happened. he left school after yr 10, we tried to keep intouch, but it didnt work too well. after my daughter was born, he got intouch with me so he could come and see her, and then the friendship came back, and came back strong.

3 months later, alot of prayer and deep long talks about where we stood with our faith, and what we wanted out of life, we decided to become an official couple. when people found out, they were like, finally, took your time, cos they were all expecting it to have happened years ago.

i know that you shouldnt have sex outside of marriage, and i know that God has forgiven me for my past sexual relations.

the thing is that i am having a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, and if its Gods will, when we're financially able too, we're wanting to get married.
to ask to be forgiven, you've got to be sorry for something. and im not sorry for sleeping with my partner.
i know God sees it as wrong because we arent married, but in our eyes are, its just its not legally seen as that.

 

[ewindsor]

I know what you mean when you cut it down to the nitty gritty, technically you are married... but the thing is though it looks and sounds and performs like a marriage, you still are not marrie,d and you're right that God see's it as wrong as He does any kind of adultery/sexual immorality. I know that when I was in a relationship I would reason things out - "oral sex isn't really sex as it's defined in the bible", "we're just touching and nothing wrong with a nice touch here and there"... but in reality, it was all wrong.

Ask the Holy Spirit to convict you if it's wrong. Also, it seems that you have some sexual wounds... did you have a bad childhood in this area, maybe being molested or raped that you can recollect? Only God through Christ can heal you. Only. Don't settle for anything less, even if it seems to settle the wounds for a while (if there are wounds, that is.)

God bless you and thank you for posting this. It takes some courage to and good thing you did! God bless you

--Elijah--

 

[KTskater]

You have to read the Bible and emerse yourself in the Spirit in order to get God's thinking to be your thinking...if you stop doing this, you will begin to think like the world. I know from personal experiance.

 

[vossler]

So you're openly mocking God? When you know something is wrong and against God, yet decide to continue doing it, you're mocking Him. You're saying I know the rules but my needs come first and I know that in the end you'll understand and forgive me.

God will forgive you, if you repent. However, don't be mistaken there will be a price that you will have to pay.

 

[ewindsor]

There is a much greater price to pay if you don't repent. So repenting to God is the way to go God loves you and wants you to come into His arms and He will show you the way, and give you peace beyond understanding! :-D

--Elijah--

 

[Mebby01]

your in the same situation as me right now I'm having sex a lot l have sex with a lot of guys. Some were relationships some are not l have a boyfriend right now we are having sex all the time. He is a great boyfriend and I have a good feeling even through he doesn't want to get married I still like him. He is a great guy when the time is right for me I'm going to talk to God and ask him to forgive me right now l'm not ready for that. Cause I know I will just do it again some point in time.

 

[Hope_0004]

Good luck, sweetie.

 

[Vilnius]

Why not marry? How expensive could it be?

 

[kingzjewel]

better to marry than to burn with lust... thats from the bible hun. my wedding costed less than 300$ and we had hardly any money at that time. if it is God's will for you to marry this guy He will make a way. otherwise you really need to chill on the sex and let God speak to your heart.

 

[thatgirl123]

Hey there everyone,

Well, you know what, I found myself in your exact situation just a couple of months ago. Me and my boyfriend had been sleeping together for a while, and whilst away in another country, I realised that I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit.

At the beginning, I wasn't really sorry. I refused to repent for something I wasn't sorry for doing, because I didn't want to be a hypocrite, I respected God too much to lie to Him. But every time I heard from someone else that sex before marriage was wrong, I felt bad, I prayed to God that whatever happened, He would give me a way out from the guilt in some way. I didn't know how or when, but someone at church said that if you prayed enough for God's help, He would provide a way to get out of the situation.

So eventually, I got to the point where it was eating me up inside, and I had to tell my boyfriend how I felt. He wasn't a Christian, and didn't understand at all, and there was a hellish month where I had to decide whether it was truly what I wanted or not. I finally decided it was. We tried to make it work, but we realised we were just too different. We broke up a week ago.

It hurts, it's hard, but it feels right with God, and I came to realise that that was the only way I would feel any peace about this. I posted threads on here all the time, trying to find ways around sex before marriage, but couldn't reconcile it in my mind. Now, I feel calmer, more at peace.

I guess the reason I'm telling my story is so that you can take heart from it. I am not trying to condemn, rather let you know that your relationship with the Lord is a loving one, that you can always turn to Him, even when it seems impossible. Pray that he would help you to find some peace about this, and He will. He will provide you with ways to get out of this dilemma, and help you in whatever way He knows is best. If you get to the point where you want to repent for it or you feel convicted, then He will always forgive.

But the main way that I have made it through this tough, tough time is through other Christians not judging me, but being honest and telling me what they think, whilst praying loads and loads. Just trust!!! And believe!! God wants you to lay your burdens at the cross, and let Him deal with it. You just have to be open to His voice, and listen to it.

Hope some of this is helpful. I would really like to know how this all goes for you, feel free to PM/email.

May God bless you, and may you be filled with the desire to seek His face.

x x x

 

[Nathan585]

your in the same situation as me right now I'm having sex a lot l have sex with a lot of guys. Some were relationships some are not l have a boyfriend right now we are having sex all the time. He is a great boyfriend and I have a good feeling even through he doesn't want to get married I still like him. He is a great guy when the time is right for me I'm going to talk to God and ask him to forgive me right now l'm not ready for that. Cause I know I will just do it again some point in time.

I'm telling you from much experience that the attitude of "I'll go ahead and sin 'cos I know God will forgive me later" is nothing short of a dangerous trap of the enemy that will start a deadly cycle that will spiral further and further from God.
That attitude is called contempt. A defiant lack of respect or reverence. The opposite of the fear of God. If you show that attitude to a human judge, you go to jail for contempt of court. It would not be tolerated.
Yes, it's your life; but that's why you should care much more than I do. And I do!
God is Loving, but He is also Just!
God is Good, but He is also Severe!
We have been called to holiness, not complacency. We've been called to good works, not whatever floats our boat at any given moment.
The virgins with the empty lamps waited until they felt like it, till the time they chose.
Do not show contempt toward the kindness of God that leads you toward repentance.

 

[Jacobboy]

i'll be praying for you.. who knows.. maybe i will be sharing my story here one day too. take care

 

[Saucy]

Sorry, but it doesn't really matter what you or your boyfriend believe. God says it's wrong and it's a sin. Just because you may believe otherwise, doesn't make it less of a sin. Repentance doesn't work unless you realize your sin, understand you're sinning, feel convicted by the Holy Spirit (this should come first actually) and willingly change your ways knowing what you're doing is wrong. Saying, "Oh, it's okay to do it because God will forgive me" is a cop-out.