my situation

[Ramona]

The original post is kind of old now, and I'm not sure if you still read or post here, but I'll go ahead and add my $0.02 anyway.

My situation is almost exactly the same as yours. My father sexually abused me, and I haven't seen him for about 12 years now. I've forgiven him - not because Jesus told me to or anything, but rather because the pain and the anger would have destroyed me completely by now - but I want nothing to do with him. Lately the PTSD's been getting really bad, and if he tried to contact me, it would shake my world to the core.

Honestly, you really should speak to a therapist about this situation. I think it goes without saying that ANY victim of rape or sexual abuse should seek professional (NOT pastoral) help if he or she hasn't already. That's not an insult - it's one of the best pieces of advice I've ever been given, actually.

s all around. As an atheist I won't offer any prayers, but I come equipped with a shoulder to lean on if need be.

 

[Mipaji]

I too am a survivor. I've had many people tell me I'm amazing and powerful after hearing my testimony. And to them I have said "do not give me praise of any kind for it is not I that was strong enough to overcome". Give praise to God and our Savior Jesus Christ for they are the strength and glory, the love and compassion, the truth and the guidance that helped me through such terrible times. As sure as I was raped by my biological father I was raised up and given the understanding of forgiveness by our heavenly Father and Christ. I want to ask you something very important if I may. Have you ever confronted him directly for what he did to you? It can be in person, through a phone call or by email. You know, you have every right in the world to do so and he is obligated by his own conscience to reply. If you are interested in taking this approach and would like a true survivor to help you with it I tell you now...I am here to help. Do not assume for one second that this will be easy. It takes courage and commitment that comes as promised from above. Don't try to calculate the outcome. What you must do is for You! He must deal with his own demons. You have the right to make him face it. Ahhh...there I go...rambling as I do so often. It is such a deep and loving desire that I reach out to those who share these atrocities...these evils that have been visited upon us. Please make sure you protect yourself by not trying to exact revenge. That is the right of the Most Holy. I am here for you and I love you as we are all of the family of God. I promise to help in whatever way I possibly can. I pray God brings you peace and comfort in the name of our brother, The Only Begotten Son of God...Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.