my past

[only4u]

I have had a very bad past. I won't go into detail, but I think my past is really blocking me from my future. I think I have so much built up anger. Why can't I just let it go?

 

[everlast]

Hi Only4u, dont feel alone, I know what your talking about, was their any closure to your past events or is it still open to conflict?, if you have anger building up, try releasing it in positive ways but dont let it take over, people say that time will heal but thats not always true because if you dont do anything in that time period to mend wounds or improve ways of thinking, what ever the case, its as if nothing has changed..if that makes any sense.

 

[Everlasting33]

we sometimes hold onto the things that hurt us to avoid being re-hurt.

have you sought counseling for some of the issues?

My past is certainly a bad one and I have to constantly remind myself:

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

I suggest going to coping.org...the site has wonderful advice to letting go of painful events and i actually have printed a lot of it off and read it daily.

 

[PrairieGurl]

I have had a very bad past. I won't go into detail, but I think my past is really blocking me from my future. I think I have so much built up anger. Why can't I just let it go?

Dearest Only4u ​

I agree with what Steeler and Everlast have posted.​

I know what it's like to have an ugly past. ​

Why can't you just let go??? There are probably many reasons for that Hon. Counseling is a good way to bring many hurts and the roots of anger to the surface.​

It does take time to learn to let go of our pasts and pent up anger. Even when dealt with (our pasts) some of the memories will remain...but they do not have the strangling hold on you as they once did.​

s & s,
Wendy​

 

[Bay]

You are God's child and pasts are nothing to Him,He wants you in His world.Forgive yourself. I know it's hard but do it and ask God to help ease the guilt.

 

[Superlawyerwoman]

I know you can't see it now, but your past is probably your testimony. Everything works out good for those who love God. The reason you can't get over it might be that your purpose in God has something to do with it. For instance, there are probably a lot of people going through the exact same things as you have. Who do you think they are more likely to listen to, someone that has been there or someone who hasn't? You are an important part of Gods' army. As for all the built up anger, forgive yourself as Jesus has forgiven you. God loves you very much. You were made in his image and have a beautiful soul he has given you. So don't be so hard on yourself! Remember you are in God's hands and he will NEVER let go. Also, don't forget that when you accept Jesus you start anew. So bear in mind your past struggles but look forward to the future as well. You are in my prayers.

 

[Taylor43]

My prayers are with you honey, I had a very bad childhood the way i am working through it is i have a good christian counsellor also i keep a journal. I pray to God and tell him what i feel and i do know i have become stronger but it is a healing process. My best advice is to seek counseling so that anger does not rob you of life that God really wants us all to have joy, but pain keeps us from experiencing joy. Do not give up hun if you need help to over come God will be there 24/7 for you no matter what and he will walk in the darkest times. One thing i have to remind myself is to not isolate seek support. Keep posting here and you can pm me if you need a listening ear
Love
Taylor