My marriage was ordained by God--but I hate it.

[GraceLoveHope]

I had many prophecies before I married, and after much thought, went through with it because I knew it was what God was calling me to do. I knew it would be a lot of work, but it was the right thing to do. I was so excited. We had a great relationship and thought long and hard before marrying.


I have been married for two months, and to my surprise, got pregnant shortly after the honeymoon.


Married life, well... it's about a joyful as kidney stones.


I haven't gotten a good night's sleep since my husband moved in, except the one night he slept on the couch. My husband wanted to have kids right away, but I wanted to get pregnant about as much as I wanted to get punched in the face. It's also a high-risk pregnancy and I'm scared that if I do miscarry, which is not unlikely, that I'm not going to know how to cope. I have so much guilt and all sorts of other mixed feelings surrounding my pregnancy that it's hard to make it through the day.

My husband has brought me little joy since we married. When he's not playing video games, he is complaining about his job. He is a lot more emotional than I am. Whenever something happens that stresses him out, he yells. Also, when he is stressed out, he is unable to help with anything, and he's very easily stressed. I work full time, and miss coming home to an empty, quiet, peaceful house, rather than one where I have to spend all my free time listening to someone who can't manage his emotions.

I feel like I'm nothing but an emotional dumping ground and a baby carrier.

It's stupid, but the biggest thing that's been bothering me is that my husband didn't do anything for my birthday. He put a down payment on a very expensive gift that we very obviously couldn't afford the day before my birthday while I ate dinner by myself. Then, he came home and complained about his job and how he couldn't afford this extremely costly gift for 3 hours. On my birthday, I ate leftovers for dinner by myself while he left to buy me a really generic card from the dollar store, and then came home and complained about his job and car the rest of the night. He did ask me if I wanted to go out to eat, but I'm pregnant, tired, and go to work early in the morning, and it's hard for me to wait until 10 o'clock at night to have dinner right now.

That was well over a week ago and I can't stop thinking about how he didn't celebrate my birthday. I don't want to say anything because I know how stupid it is.

I hate feeling like this. God has blessed me with a loving, faithful husband (and he is wonderfully loving and faithful, praise God) and now, a child. I try so hard to be thankful for it, but I can't get over how much I hate taking care of him and listening to him complain, and how much I don't want to take care of another human, nor listen to it cry and complain.

I know that God has called me to these things, and wants me to be content, not miserable. I am most thankful for my faith and how I know that things will work out with my family, because He has called me to it and will get me through it.

But I'm at a loss for how to get over these stupid, selfish feelings and start enjoying the life that God has called me to. All the dreams I gave up, this must be better for me than them, otherwise He wouldn't put me here. I try so hard not to think about how much better things were when I was alone. Instead, I try to remember the joyous years we spent together before we got married, and get excited about being a mother.

 

[BFine]

Could please explain what you mean about prophecies?
Are meaning about your marriage?

Did both of you do premarital counseling?

 

[Avniel]

Marriage isn't supposed to be fun it's like having a two person family.

You made the choice to marry him now make the choice to love him not inspite of but because of

 

[Amber Bird]

Need him because you love him.
Don't love him because you need him.

If you have a pastor seek guidance maybe from that direction. Or better yet, speak to the pastors wife.

There's no harm in being selfish. You bring you to any relationship. If you're not happy, how will you help anyone else to feel happiness when they share your life?

I once knew someone who said you don't get married because you love each other. You get married because it continues the community of God.
That scared me to think they actually lived their own married life like that. If God is love, how is love not part of the equation that he set before you when he sent the man or woman you're suppose to marry to you?

Pray about it. In the meantime, as I'm a big fan of journaling and lists, why not make a daily list as to what you love and adore about your husband?

All those things you can appreciate about him, knowing he's there for you.
And knowing you have a little dumpling growing right below your heart that feels every word. How you feel in your relationship transmits to that baby growing inside you. They absorb emotion and sounds, like joyful noise in a good home, just as readily as they absorb the nutrition you consume.

Make another list maybe. One that tells your baby what you love about the promise of them. Then you'll have two lists. And two reasons to maybe realize why sometimes life isn't easy, but it's the hurdles you overcome that make you appreciate the strength you had to make the leap.

(HUG) God Bless You All.

 

[HwtChirino]

God calls us to be selfless. It sounds like your husband is being very inconsiderate and unappreciative of you.

Have you voiced any of what you mentioned here to your husband? Communication is essential in any type of successful relationship. Also, I hope you understand that we aren't strong enough to make anything "good" without Jesus, and that goes for your marriage. It really sounds like God doesn't have a strong presence in your marriage. If marriage is founded on God, then seek guidance and wisdom from him regarding your situation.

As a wife, you are called to love and support your husband no matter what. I can understand how frustrating it must be to deal with your husband when he's constantly stressed out and emotional, not being the man you enjoy being around. But I'm sure there are things you can do to help him relieve some of his stress and put him in a better mood. I really think that he needs to quit the video games.. that's a waste of time, and that's time he could be using to improve his relationship with you.

The bottom line is, your relationship requires God. Take it to Him and he will mend it.

 

[forGod1]

this is just my opinion.. and it might be not right.

but if God put you with this man and you do get pregnant, even with what the doctors are saying, it doesn't mean anything to listen. You live for Christ, you'll be alright.

 

[Barricade24]

I'll voice my opinion here and say that marriage is no walk in the park. You will absolutely have some hard times with it. But if you feel you need some more support from your husband, then by all means tell him so. I know you are probably under a lot of stress right now and that's understandable. I would recommend talking to God about and ask Him to comfort you.

 

[Puptart]

Sounds like my ex-husband. Baaad flash-backs there. I could have written that back in '05.

The biggest thing you have to realize right now is that these are not "stupid, selfish feelings". They are REAL feelings and you need not dismiss them.

The only thing I'll say other than that is "marriage counseling". You need it if the relationship is going to survive. A baby does not IMPROVE a bad relationship or relationship problems.. it makes it a thousand times worse, a thousand times over.

Straight to marriage counseling, that's all there is to it.

 

[znr]

Pupart is right! Very good advice!

 

[Forealzchola]

If you are feeling like this, this early into a marriage...this might be a marriage that wont work out. Did you really really have confirmation from the Lord that this was the person you were trying to marry or was someone else trying to push their agenda through a prophecy? And it also sounds like you shouldnt have had children right now because you werent ready, you should of waited.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

I had many prophecies before I married, and after much thought, went through with it because I knew it was what God was calling me to do. I knew it would be a lot of work, but it was the right thing to do. I was so excited. We had a great relationship and thought long and hard before marrying.


I have been married for two months, and to my surprise, got pregnant shortly after the honeymoon.


Married life, well... it's about a joyful as kidney stones.


I haven't gotten a good night's sleep since my husband moved in, except the one night he slept on the couch. My husband wanted to have kids right away, but I wanted to get pregnant about as much as I wanted to get punched in the face. It's also a high-risk pregnancy and I'm scared that if I do miscarry, which is not unlikely, that I'm not going to know how to cope. I have so much guilt and all sorts of other mixed feelings surrounding my pregnancy that it's hard to make it through the day.

My husband has brought me little joy since we married. When he's not playing video games, he is complaining about his job. He is a lot more emotional than I am. Whenever something happens that stresses him out, he yells. Also, when he is stressed out, he is unable to help with anything, and he's very easily stressed. I work full time, and miss coming home to an empty, quiet, peaceful house, rather than one where I have to spend all my free time listening to someone who can't manage his emotions.

I feel like I'm nothing but an emotional dumping ground and a baby carrier.

It's stupid, but the biggest thing that's been bothering me is that my husband didn't do anything for my birthday. He put a down payment on a very expensive gift that we very obviously couldn't afford the day before my birthday while I ate dinner by myself. Then, he came home and complained about his job and how he couldn't afford this extremely costly gift for 3 hours. On my birthday, I ate leftovers for dinner by myself while he left to buy me a really generic card from the dollar store, and then came home and complained about his job and car the rest of the night. He did ask me if I wanted to go out to eat, but I'm pregnant, tired, and go to work early in the morning, and it's hard for me to wait until 10 o'clock at night to have dinner right now.

That was well over a week ago and I can't stop thinking about how he didn't celebrate my birthday. I don't want to say anything because I know how stupid it is.

I hate feeling like this. God has blessed me with a loving, faithful husband (and he is wonderfully loving and faithful, praise God) and now, a child. I try so hard to be thankful for it, but I can't get over how much I hate taking care of him and listening to him complain, and how much I don't want to take care of another human, nor listen to it cry and complain.

I know that God has called me to these things, and wants me to be content, not miserable. I am most thankful for my faith and how I know that things will work out with my family, because He has called me to it and will get me through it.

But I'm at a loss for how to get over these stupid, selfish feelings and start enjoying the life that God has called me to. All the dreams I gave up, this must be better for me than them, otherwise He wouldn't put me here. I try so hard not to think about how much better things were when I was alone. Instead, I try to remember the joyous years we spent together before we got married, and get excited about being a mother.

Marriage today is difficult for nearly ALL PEOPLE who get married. What you guys need is a TUNEUP ! There are some really great Marriage Retreat Seminars going on around the country and a good one is done thru www.newlife.com . Also, its time for you to sit down with a good counsellor like your Pastor or Marriage Counsellor...or at least a seasoned mature married Couple who are Christians to talk it all out...both together and individually. If you just let your marriage slide, its going to slide and fast ; you cant afford that with a new one coming along soon. Now is the time to bring your baby into a healthy marriage so please work on making it healthier. I hope your husband can see the unhappiness in you and isnt self absorbed as so many young men are when they get married. If he is, then you should at least pursue counselling on your own if he doesnt want to go.

What are going to be your plans to get this started ?

 

[HwtChirino]

OP, I really hope you don't take the non-christian advice posted here.

Your post really sounds like you're trying to vent rather than ask a question. In fact, you don't ask any questions. Some people have validated your feelings already. What's next? Obviously, it's not divorce like someone insinuated your situation leading to: "...this might be a marriage that wont work out." @ Forealzchola, please, don't say something like that, which directly violates the word of Jesus. The only time divorce is acceptable is when someone has committed adultery. Also, I don't mean to sound self-righteous, but the Bible says that God is sovereign in our lives, so I don't really think it's wise to say "it also sounds like you shouldnt have had children right now because you werent ready, you should of waited." I'm not trying to attack you, but it needs to be said because no one on earth is worthy enough to say that something as sacred as children aren't part of God's plans.

Mathew 5:31 - “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

I completely agree with everyone TheyCallMeDave has said. He hit the nail on the head.

 

[Forealzchola]

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[Angeldove97]

Some background-
I'm a bit older- in my late 20's, but I met my husband before we were even 21 years old. We dated for at least 5 years prior to getting engaged, had a one year engagement (with a lot of marriage prep required by the Catholic Church), and we too had prophecies and visions (and demons come attack us...) to show that we were meant to be married.

I had many prophecies before I married, and after much thought, went through with it because I knew it was what God was calling me to do. I knew it would be a lot of work, but it was the right thing to do. I was so excited. We had a great relationship and thought long and hard before marrying.

I'm very happy to hear that YOU thought long and hard before marrying- that's a great start. But what type of thinking, talking, and planning did you do with your husband prior to getting married? It's never too late to start getting better about communicating- but it can be difficult if your husband isn't the type to either take discussions seriously or can handle having serious discussions.

By the time my husband and I were heading towards our wedding date, we talked about everything possible (honestly). The Catholic Church in the US requires that you take this "fill in the bubble" test with about 100 questions about your views on everything from money, to sex, to marriage roles, and children. Our priest would then review our answers (we answer separately- so we don't know what the other said) and our priest was blown away with how alike or in agreeance we were with our responses. He told us that we got 100% alike in areas he has never seen couples get (and he's an older priest). Doesn't mean we have a perfect marriage- but it does mean we clearly had taken the time to talk and plan together.

I have been married for two months, and to my surprise, got pregnant shortly after the honeymoon.

This is tough- as wonderful as children can be in a family- they can put strain on a couple. I hope that you and your husband have parents or other friends and relatives that provide a good support system for you two. Not to help out/baby-sit but to also provide some wisdom during the tough times and emotional support when you two are stressed out. You may even want to seek marriage counseling from friends/relatives on how to adjust to your new role as parent, while remembering your first role is to be a good spouse.

Married life, well... it's about a joyful as kidney stones.

Welcome to being a married adult Even with all the preparation we had, there are still times where I am blown away with things my husband is done and I can be angry and hurt. The times of constant blissful fun while dating are over, for the most part. Marriage is a do-it-every-day, get to know the REAL person you married, and tackle issues together as a team. I really don't think many young couples- who lack preparation or truly knowing the other person- get this about marriage: we do not marry the other person because it's the fun thing to do- we marry the person because we want to stand by that person through the good times and the bad times. It's not something that one can easily just walk away from and it means we have to give ourselves up completely for the other person. (Aside from any form of abuse and adultery in some cases, of course)

I haven't gotten a good night's sleep since my husband moved in, except the one night he slept on the couch.

Welcome to my life There's worse things in life and most likely you will learn to adjust. Find a routine in the evening that helps you to get sleepy (I had a shower, take some melatonin, and my husband will read out loud (yeah I'm not kidding- we love doing this) for about 30 minutes) and make sure the room and bed are comfy for you- we have a memory foam pad, fan, AC unit, and the radio on throughout the night to help me sleep. Hubby snores and I've learned to sleep through it, but it has taken time to adjust.

If it really is impossible, talk about perhaps getting separate twin beds. Some couples just have to sleep in different beds to get enough rest. My parents do and it probably helped the marriage a bit instead of getting no rest and kicking each other because they snore.

My husband wanted to have kids right away, but I wanted to get pregnant about as much as I wanted to get punched in the face. It's also a high-risk pregnancy and I'm scared that if I do miscarry, which is not unlikely, that I'm not going to know how to cope. I have so much guilt and all sorts of other mixed feelings surrounding my pregnancy that it's hard to make it through the day.

Hubby is the one who wants to wait, but I've wanted to get pregnant for awhile now. It's a shame that you two couldn't come into this pregnancy in agreeance on this, but please make sure that you take care of your body and the needs of the baby. Many women have successful high-risk pregnancies as long as they take care of their bodies and go to the doctor as needed. I'm sure you can find some wonderful online support groups for your particular needs and talk to other moms who have gone through your type of high-risk pregnancy. Pregnancy causes a lot of emotions- it's an emotional time: your life is so different and your body is producing a lot of different hormones than can cause different emotions.

I highly recommend that you find a good support group- either in real life or online to help you through these emotions. Husbands are there to comfort us, but- in my opinion- there's only so much we should put on our husband's shoulders and this is something that other women would probably be better suited to help you through. I'd be more inclined to talk to my Mom or my MIL about pregnancy worries since they both had 3 pregnancies each.

Remain in prayer to our Lord about these worries and your baby. He knows exactly what we need to be the best person possible. We might not always understand why we struggle, but He always has a reason.

My husband has brought me little joy since we married. When he's not playing video games, he is complaining about his job. He is a lot more emotional than I am. Whenever something happens that stresses him out, he yells. Also, when he is stressed out, he is unable to help with anything, and he's very easily stressed. I work full time, and miss coming home to an empty, quiet, peaceful house, rather than one where I have to spend all my free time listening to someone who can't manage his emotions.

My hubby loves playing video games and strategy games with his friends. This brought a lot of strife between us- I wanted him to spend the time with me. I realized it was jealous that in my heart and I had to get rid of it. The true concern was that he was not being responsible about his time: he had school work to take care of and chores around the house too.

He and I talked about the true concerns and I admitted to my jealousy. He shared with me that he needed to play these games with his friends because it was his way of de-stressing after a long day (or week) at work. As his wife, I had to learn to respect that need. And we've compromised: he is welcome to invite friends over, but needs to double check with me first (most of the time I have no problem with it- unless I'm sick or we have something already planned). During the time that his friends are over, I won't ask him to do school work, of course, but if I need him to do a quick chore (throw out the garbage, load the dishwasher, move the laundry into the dryer) he'll take a break from playing and do that chore.

My hubby can yell too when he's stressed out. It's not that they're angry at us, but that they have a lot of anguish and pain built up inside of them and they need to release it some how. I'm not condoning my husband yelling, but we do try to find better ways to relax: watch a TV show together, have some alone time away from each other, go out some place, go for a walk, read a book- whatever. This is why I respect my husband bringing friends over to play games together- if it means he is more relaxed, that's wonderful.

But make sure you take care of yourself: what would make a calm, peaceful spot for you? When I need peace and quiet, I'll go to our bedroom and close the door (hubby can be anxious about this but I just tell him I need some alone time and he understands), turn on some music, light a candle, some incense, and just relax, pray, read, stretch, whatever it may be. If there's not a spot inside, perhaps there's a spot outside that you'd enjoy some peaceful time to yourself. You're definitely allowed to have a niche in your home that will be your peaceful spot. Take the initiative to set this up- it doesn't have to be expensive: a comfy chair, blanket, and pillow, a book to read, and a candle. Allow yourself to relax when your husband is stressing out- and encourage him to find healthy ways to release his stress too.

I feel like I'm nothing but an emotional dumping ground and a baby carrier.

Then make changes in your life that include healthy changes for yourself and your husband. And realize that you are so much more than this to your husband- even if he can't put it into words. To your baby, you are soooooo much more than a "baby carrier" you are your baby's mother and main caretaker.

It's stupid, but the biggest thing that's been bothering me is that my husband didn't do anything for my birthday. He put a down payment on a very expensive gift that we very obviously couldn't afford the day before my birthday while I ate dinner by myself. Then, he came home and complained about his job and how he couldn't afford this extremely costly gift for 3 hours. On my birthday, I ate leftovers for dinner by myself while he left to buy me a really generic card from the dollar store, and then came home and complained about his job and car the rest of the night. He did ask me if I wanted to go out to eat, but I'm pregnant, tired, and go to work early in the morning, and it's hard for me to wait until 10 o'clock at night to have dinner right now.

Choose right now if you want to admit this to your husband (for only the sake of him knowing what's on your heart) or that you will just let this go. It's too much negative energy to be spending on one day in your life. I know I would be hurt too, but really- there's more important things to be concerned about than how did you celebrate your birthday. If you don't want the gift, then tell him but allow him to have the option to purchase it for you or not- ask him though that if he does purchase it to not complain about it's cost.

God has blessed me with a loving, faithful husband (and he is wonderfully loving and faithful, praise God) and now, a child. I try so hard to be thankful for it, but I can't get over how much I hate taking care of him and listening to him complain, and how much I don't want to take care of another human, nor listen to it cry and complain.

Think of the alternative: no loving, faithful husband by your side, no child to take care of, nothing in your life that you love so much. It really is a mindset that you have to work on having to not be so negative. It takes time to develop- a lifetime and I still have to do a lot of prayer to be positive and loving about things. Admit you feel this way, share what you think you should share with your husband, and then let the rest of the negativity leave you. You made a vow to your husband and to the Lord, do what you can to make your life happy- only YOU can make your life happy- not your husband and God never made that promise to us.

I know that God has called me to these things, and wants me to be content, not miserable. I am most thankful for my faith and how I know that things will work out with my family, because He has called me to it and will get me through it.

But I'm at a loss for how to get over these stupid, selfish feelings and start enjoying the life that God has called me to. All the dreams I gave up, this must be better for me than them, otherwise He wouldn't put me here. I try so hard not to think about how much better things were when I was alone. Instead, I try to remember the joyous years we spent together before we got married, and get excited about being a mother.

I highly recommend that you get a copy of this book: Amazon.com: The Power of Prayer(TM) to Change Your Marriage (9780736925150): Stormie Omartian: Books When I'm feeling lost, I read the chapter on whatever issue I'm having and I pray. I love the book so much that if you can't afford it, I would (seriously) be more than happy to order you a copy and have it shipping to your house (I'd pay for it). If you're interested, send me a pm with your info and it'll be on its way.

Give yourself time to grow into being a good wife. It's hard, it means giving up a part of yourself and giving up some of your wants. But a year into my marriage, I've grown a lot and I can't imagine my life without my husband by my side- even though there are times where it is hard.

 

[znr]

How would you like to be in her position? pregnant and at-risk and married to a man who isn't being an adult? very scary stuff. Have some compassion.

OP, I really hope you don't take the non-christian advice posted here.

Your post really sounds like you're trying to vent rather than ask a question. In fact, you don't ask any questions. Some people have validated your feelings already. What's next? Obviously, it's not divorce like someone insinuated your situation leading to: "...this might be a marriage that wont work out." @ Forealzchola, please, don't say something like that, which directly violates the word of Jesus. The only time divorce is acceptable is when someone has committed adultery. Also, I don't mean to sound self-righteous, but the Bible says that God is sovereign in our lives, so I don't really think it's wise to say "it also sounds like you shouldnt have had children right now because you werent ready, you should of waited." I'm not trying to attack you, but it needs to be said because no one on earth is worthy enough to say that something as sacred as children aren't part of God's plans.

Mathew 5:31 - “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

I completely agree with everyone TheyCallMeDave has said. He hit the nail on the head.

 

[HwtChirino]

Zeener,

I don't know what you're referring to here. Your comments directed at me are unfounded, so I don't understand. Please reread my reply so that you may understand that it was directed towards Forealzchola because she had suggested that the OP's "marriage might not work out". I didn't consider that Christian advice by any means.

What I did direct to the OP was good advice in my first post:

"God calls us to be selfless. It sounds like your husband is being very inconsiderate and unappreciative of you.

Have you voiced any of what you mentioned here to your husband? Communication is essential in any type of successful relationship. Also, I hope you understand that we aren't strong enough to make anything "good" without Jesus, and that goes for your marriage. It really sounds like God doesn't have a strong presence in your marriage. If marriage is founded on God, then seek guidance and wisdom from him regarding your situation.

As a wife, you are called to love and support your husband no matter what. I can understand how frustrating it must be to deal with your husband when he's constantly stressed out and emotional, not being the man you enjoy being around. But I'm sure there are things you can do to help him relieve some of his stress and put him in a better mood. I really think that he needs to quit the video games.. that's a waste of time, and that's time he could be using to improve his relationship with you.

The bottom line is, your relationship requires God. Take it to Him and he will mend it."

Then, I followed up with a good question: "What's next?"

So, Zeener, please do some actual reading and comprehension before targeting me or falsely defending anyone. Thanks.

 

[znr]

Hi hwtchirino,

You're right. I did what you said I did. I was wrong. Please accept my apologies ...

Zeener,

I don't know what you're referring to here. Your comments directed at me are unfounded, so I don't understand. Please reread my reply so that you may understand that it was directed towards Forealzchola because she had suggested that the OP's "marriage might not work out". I didn't consider that Christian advice by any means.

What I did direct to the OP was good advice in my first post:

"God calls us to be selfless. It sounds like your husband is being very inconsiderate and unappreciative of you.

Have you voiced any of what you mentioned here to your husband? Communication is essential in any type of successful relationship. Also, I hope you understand that we aren't strong enough to make anything "good" without Jesus, and that goes for your marriage. It really sounds like God doesn't have a strong presence in your marriage. If marriage is founded on God, then seek guidance and wisdom from him regarding your situation.

As a wife, you are called to love and support your husband no matter what. I can understand how frustrating it must be to deal with your husband when he's constantly stressed out and emotional, not being the man you enjoy being around. But I'm sure there are things you can do to help him relieve some of his stress and put him in a better mood. I really think that he needs to quit the video games.. that's a waste of time, and that's time he could be using to improve his relationship with you.

The bottom line is, your relationship requires God. Take it to Him and he will mend it."

Then, I followed up with a good question: "What's next?"

So, Zeener, please do some actual reading and comprehension before targeting me or falsely defending anyone. Thanks.

 

[Pal Handy]

Be patient and do not lose hope.
A pegnancy can wreak havoc on your hormones and state of mind.

Try to see the good and pray and ask God to get you through the rough times.

Marriage is what you make of it in that the more you bring in Christ
as the center of your marriage and seek to serve each other as
Christ has served you by giving up His life for you both, the greater
your blessing will be in marriage.

Pray together and go to church and hear God's word and talk about
your concerns in love and never in anger and trust that with Christ as
the third person in your marriage, it will work out.

Father, in the name of Jesus I ask that you would comfort
your daughter and give her hope to see that You have a plan for her
life and that You love her and want her to come closer to You in this
time of her difficulty and need.

Father I ask that You bless this marriage and this child that is the fruit
of this holy union between these two who have become one flesh
before you in the communion of Holy marriage that You have ordained.

Father I ask that the enemy be cast down and out of this marriage and
I ask that You would send Your Holy Spirit of love, peace, joy, comfort,
wisdom and power into this husband, wife and child and fill them with
all of your goodness, blessings and strength so that they may grow
together in love and fellowship in this marriage that is blessed now
in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
In Jesus name I pray

 

[vortigen84]

I had many prophecies

Explain, and be specific.

I knew it was what God was calling me to do.

How? Be specific.

 

[jen98754]

I wonder if maybe you both are just having a very difficult time of it. I remember when I first got married a zillion years ago and we went through something similar. If you've only been married 2 months, you've got some ironing out to do (in the relationship I mean). Married life is a series of bumpy roads and uphill climbs and once in a while, you get to a beautiful meadow where the flowers wave in the breeze Pray, pray, pray and pray some more for both yourself and your husband. But don't pray that the Lord changes your husband...pray that the Lord sustain you and that He helps you to work out the problems together. I also suggest a gentle talk with your husband telling him how much you need his support right now. It sounds like he may be going through some adjustments with the new marriage as well. ALso, sounds like he's unhappy in his job. Ask him if he wants to find something new. I do hope things smooth out soon.