My In Laws hate me...

[BjBarnett]

You shouldn't be choosing a boyfrined at 18, you shouod be choosing your parents. Parents are so important, and maybe this is me being Mexican, btu I think the loyalities need to be with the parents.

im her husband

 

[Epiphanygirl]

Everyone goes to the graduation dinner.

Crystal, in no uncertain terms tells parents "Insult my husband and Ben, I and the baby will leave the restuarant."

And then do it.

Put your foot down, Crystal. It's time to put away the things of childhood.

sage advice!

 

[She]

"What God has joined together let no man put asunder"

"A man must leave his parents and go to his wife"

These are quotes from the Bible on the subject of Holy Matrimony. When you get married your priorities change. Do you see your parents choosing you over each other? Of course not! Why then should you choose them instead of your husband?

 

[JulySheMustFly]

Ben - for one night put your issues with her parents aside and go to the dinner. Do what my husband does when he doesn't want to be at a family function. Focus on your wife and your child!

Crystal - stand up for you man. This may take a long time but it must happen. Do not fear your mother's wrath it only gives her power she should not have in a marriage. My mother thinks probably to this day that I settled for less than I'm worth but I didn't. She still says cutting comments once in a while and it has been over 10 years that my husband has been around.

Ben & Crystal whatever the desicion about the parents is you must make it something that you both agree on. You must stand together. If you don't there is a little girl left in the balance. Neither of you belong to any parent set you belong to each other alone. Ultimately pray TOGETHER about this.

 

[MParedon]

ugh, I'm sorry, but I just wanted to 'correct' or 'expand' on a statement on what may be misleading about being Mexican.
Yes parents are important, very important. But in the end, once married, the new spouses and the new child are supposed to be the most important to each other.

I would dislike people being mislead to think that Mexican culture is all like what Estefana describes.