Before we married we were not staying together and so going out was the only way we could see each other but now that we are married and stay under the same roof, I think he doesn't feel the needful to take me out or buy me thoughtful gifts. Like you said it might be an issue of different love language among us.Was he like this before you got married? If he wasn't then it's definitely a far more serious problem than if he was.
But if he was like that then it could tie into the concept of love languages which states that there are different ways that people can show love, and they tend to express it in the way that they prefer to receive it. So it could be that he's not all that concerned about dinner dates or receiving gifts, and therefore doing those may not come all that naturally to him.
If this is the case then that's something that you'll need to work on. He needs to understand that you need those things in order to feel loved, but you need to understand that him not doing those things doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. And it goes both ways as you might not be doing the things that he needs.
Unfortunately, trying to get someone to do something that doesn't come naturally to them isn't always that easy and might not work, so a dramatic change in behaviour might be an unreasonable expectation. But even just knowing that each of you are coming from different starting points should help to improve things.
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