Dear brothers and sister in Christ,
I need your advice... This issue kills me from inside!
I try to make it short:
I was born again 2-3 years ago, before (and also some time after) I was living in sin; porn addiction, lust, pride ect.
I was also single for a long time (matches with my kind of sin, huh?) and still am virgin. Now that's not my achievement, I was just "too dumb to get laid".
Now prayers came true, I met this Christian girl and we became a couple 2 weeks ago. (Im not sure if she really is born again...)
The issue is, we agreed from the start to be 100% honest and so I confessed about my porn addiction which I have overcome by now, thank God!
She also said, that she had a few boyfriends before and with one she also moved together, so logically she is not a virgin and she also said, she regrets that (having sex before marriage).
However, yesterday I came to know ALL the details about her prior life....
I was shocked.
She had 3 boyfriends and 2 others guys she dated and she had sex with all of them... The worst part is, she had sex with one guy on the first date (they stayed together for 1,5 years) and with the other guys after only a couple dates...
She said, that's how she used to think, she was not a Christian back then and thought it was OK.
I however was raised very strictly in that regard. My sister married as a virgin and so when she told me all that, I couldnt stop myself of thinking: You sl....
I become sick to my stomach, when I picture her giving herself away to some guy after one lousy date... It feels like she got defiled and this kinda poisons everything between us...
Dont get me wrong, I know I'm a damn sinner also and I dont even want to judge what kind of sin is "worse", if you can say that about sin at all...
I just don't know what to do now... This f***ing KILLS me. I was so happy to meet her and except for that issue, everything was going well between us. I also feel she was very embarrased to tell me and I value that she was honest about it.
But at the same time I get the feeling, she does not think it's that big of a deal. I dont feel that she got a bad conscience because of that or that she ever asked God earnestly for forgiveness...
What should I do now? What would Jesus do? Just forgive her? Should I break up? It would be hard. Staying together however is also hard, this issue is between us...
What do you think??? What is biblically and morally right and neccessary to do now? Ever lived thru something comparable?
I need your advice... This issue kills me from inside!
I try to make it short:
I was born again 2-3 years ago, before (and also some time after) I was living in sin; porn addiction, lust, pride ect.
I was also single for a long time (matches with my kind of sin, huh?) and still am virgin. Now that's not my achievement, I was just "too dumb to get laid".
Now prayers came true, I met this Christian girl and we became a couple 2 weeks ago. (Im not sure if she really is born again...)
The issue is, we agreed from the start to be 100% honest and so I confessed about my porn addiction which I have overcome by now, thank God!
She also said, that she had a few boyfriends before and with one she also moved together, so logically she is not a virgin and she also said, she regrets that (having sex before marriage).
However, yesterday I came to know ALL the details about her prior life....
I was shocked.
She had 3 boyfriends and 2 others guys she dated and she had sex with all of them... The worst part is, she had sex with one guy on the first date (they stayed together for 1,5 years) and with the other guys after only a couple dates...
She said, that's how she used to think, she was not a Christian back then and thought it was OK.
I however was raised very strictly in that regard. My sister married as a virgin and so when she told me all that, I couldnt stop myself of thinking: You sl....
I become sick to my stomach, when I picture her giving herself away to some guy after one lousy date... It feels like she got defiled and this kinda poisons everything between us...
Dont get me wrong, I know I'm a damn sinner also and I dont even want to judge what kind of sin is "worse", if you can say that about sin at all...
I just don't know what to do now... This f***ing KILLS me. I was so happy to meet her and except for that issue, everything was going well between us. I also feel she was very embarrased to tell me and I value that she was honest about it.
But at the same time I get the feeling, she does not think it's that big of a deal. I dont feel that she got a bad conscience because of that or that she ever asked God earnestly for forgiveness...
What should I do now? What would Jesus do? Just forgive her? Should I break up? It would be hard. Staying together however is also hard, this issue is between us...
What do you think??? What is biblically and morally right and neccessary to do now? Ever lived thru something comparable?