My girlfriend wants to go clubbing

[Gabriel Wade]

My girlfriend and I are struggling right now. We wants to go clubbing to just dance with her girl-friends. But I've been to the same club that she wants to go to and it's a complete grind fest. (I went there before I was christian, just out of highschool).

I was in the car when she was making plans with the girls to go. The same girls asked her to join her to go to a male strip club with them. She told them in a joking way that she wasn't interested.

I told her how I don't think her friends are good influences (they also offered her alcohol while she is underage), her response was that I was being judgement.

Bottom line is I don't feel comfortable with the club. I don't know what to do because we have been dating for 2 years and I don't want to through it away.

Her views on life are changing rapidly which are causing us problems. Such as, she is now pro-choice.

Some words of advice and prayers would be nice.

 

[mika2020]

I understand what u mean by this tell her and show her scripture Ephesian 5:6 states " Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. 7Be not ye therefore partakers with them. 8For ye were sometimes darkness, but now [are ye] light in the Lord: walk as children of light:" Tell her that cllubs is nothing but the devil playground to destroy souls

 

[Blue Wren]

I do not see, why it's a problem, if she's going with girlfriends, and is a trustworthy friends. She will have fun, with her mates. I go clubbing, with friends. I don't get drunk, dance with other men (I have a boyfriend), or anything, that is wrong. It is simply, to have fun. If you don't want to go, then you needn't go. Do something, with your mates that night, instead.

 

[mika2020]

I do not see, why it's a problem, if she's going with girlfriends, and is a trustworthy friends. She will have fun, with her mates. I go clubbing, with friends. I don't get drunk, dance with other men (I have a boyfriend), or anything, that is wrong. It is simply, to have fun. If you don't want to go, then you needn't go. Do something, with your mates that night, instead.

But do God want her to go to club do God approve of it??

 

[Blue Wren]

But do God want her to go to club do God approve of it??

Isn't that up for her, as an adult, who is a Christian, to pray, and discern for herself, whether she thinks God wants her to go?

 

[mika2020]

Isn't that up for her, as an adult, who is a Christian, to pray, and discern for herself, whether she thinks God wants her to go?

It's alot better to tell the truth and speak the truth. If we are going to be real for what the gospel say then let us be real and live up to it. Do God approve of it?? Is it God will for her to go clubbing? By reading your post it looks like u condoning this, and that's not good. We must tell the truth about this. Soo many young people lives has been destroy by this. Clubbing is the demonic forces playground, as long as u give the enemy a legal right into your life through that environment. U are giving him room to kill, steal, and destroy ur life. Don't codon this matter

 

[Blue Wren]

It's alot better to tell the truth and speak the truth. If we are going to be real for what the gospel say then let us be real and live up to it. Do God approve of it?? Is it God will for her to go clubbing? By reading your post it looks like u condoning this, and that's not good. We must tell the truth about this. Soo many young people lives has been destroy by this. Clubbing is the demonic forces playground, as long as u give the enemy a legal right into your life through that environment. U are giving him room to kill, steal, and destroy ur life. Don't codon this matter

I am telling the truth. I am being real. There is nothing, that prohibits a Christian, from clubbing. It's about, the behaviour, whilst clubbing, that matters. I love clubbing, with my friends. I've never gotten drunk, whilst clubbing. Never left with a man. Never even danced with a man, other than my boyfriend, the few times he went, with us. Never smoked. Never done drugs. Never dressed, in a way, that would embarrass myself, or my mum. Never done anything, illegal, or immoral. Please stop being so haughty.

 

[mika2020]

I am telling the truth. I am being real. There is nothing, that prohibits a Christian, from clubbing. It's about, the behaviour, whilst clubbing, that matters. I love clubbing, with my friends. I've never gotten drunk, whilst clubbing. Never left with a man. Never even danced with a man, other than my boyfriend, the few times he went, with us. Never smoked. Never done drugs. Never dressed, in a way, that would embarrass myself, or my mum. Never done anything, illegal, or immoral. Please stop being so haughty.

The question is does God approve of it? Is it His will for her to go clubbing? If u can answer this question with discernment then i can understand. Is it in God will that she to go clubbing? Does he approve of it?

 

[Blue Wren]

The question is does God approve of it? Is it His will for her to go clubbing? If u can answer this question with discernment then i can understand. Is it in God will that she to go clubbing? Does he approve of it?

I feel like we are going, round and round. You don't know, that God doesn't approve of it. I don't know, if God does approve of it. Much, depends on the girlfriend, and her plans, with the clubbing. If she plans, on doing something, that is destructive, to herself, then no, it's not good. If, she plans, on having an innocent good fun, such as what my mates and I have, whilst clubbing then I see no problem. There are no verses, against night clubbing. Good grief.

 

[mika2020]

I feel like we are going, round and round. You don't know, that God doesn't approve of it. I don't know, if God does approve of it. Much, depends on the girlfriend, and her plans, with the clubbing. If she plans, on doing something, that is destructive, to herself, then no, it's not good. If, she plans, on having an innocent good fun, such as what my mates and I have, whilst clubbing then I see no problem. There are no verses, against night clubbing. Good grief.

U say u have desernment. By ur statement u say u don't know if God approves it. Alright. This confirm it all. Alright then..

 

[Blue Wren]

U say u have desernment. By ur statement u say u don't know if God approves it. Alright. This confirm it all. Alright then..

Again, with the haughtiness? That is not what I wrote, no. I wrote that SHE, as a Christian, needs to have discern whether this is something God would approve of, or not.

 

[Deidre32]

While it's good to be concerned for her, you can't decide for her. You don't have to stay in the relationship, however, if it makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you both need a break. If her behaviors are becoming something that doesn't sit well with you, you can offer your opinion, but that's all. This is what dating is all about...better to learn these things now, than after you marry the person. Prayers for you both.

 

[Countryangel707]

My girlfriend and I are struggling right now. We wants to go clubbing to just dance with her girl-friends. But I've been to the same club that she wants to go to and it's a complete grind fest. (I went there before I was christian, just out of highschool).

I was in the car when she was making plans with the girls to go. The same girls asked her to join her to go to a male strip club with them. She told them in a joking way that she wasn't interested.

I told her how I don't think her friends are good influences (they also offered her alcohol while she is underage), her response was that I was being judgement.

Bottom line is I don't feel comfortable with the club. I don't know what to do because we have been dating for 2 years and I don't want to through it away.

Her views on life are changing rapidly which are causing us problems. Such as, she is now pro-choice.

Some words of advice and prayers would be nice.

I COMPLETELY understand what you are going through. In fact I am going threw something similar with my boyfriend. He is hanging out with old friends from high school who are now in a gang. They used to be these really good Christian kids but something happened and now they do drugs and drink and sometimes say there is no God. My Boyfriend says he just hangs out with them cause he isn't good at making friends. I personally don't have any but would rather have none than have bad ones. When I try to tell him how i think they are bad influences he also tells me that I am being judgmental and how I don't know them well enough to be judging them based on their life styles. It is really hard and I have thought of breaking up with him but we have been dating for 3 1/2 years and I don't want that to all go to waste. you will be in my prayers.

 

[Rhydian]

Woof, this is one of those situations that doesn't seem out and out bad, but can deeeefinitely slip into it soon enough. I told myself my faith was strong enough to withstand the occasional night out partying with non-believing friends... but it's so, so easy to push the envelope a little bit farther every time and justify your actions as "not that bad". 1 Corinthians 15:33 has been my mainstay for stuff like this: "Do not be misled: 'Bad company corrupts good character.'"

Trust her judgment, let her do what she feels she needs to do, but ask her to consider how she can make her night one that honors God, even while in the midst of a lions den.

Let us know how it goes!

 

[Jordan Kurecki]

A woman who is going to clubs now is very unlikely to be a good godly and faithful wife in the future. You need to get away from this girl and focus on serving Jesus Christ.
Read Proverbs 31.

 

[Cactus Jack]

I feel like we are going, round and round. You don't know, that God doesn't approve of it. I don't know, if God does approve of it. Much, depends on the girlfriend, and her plans, with the clubbing. If she plans, on doing something, that is destructive, to herself, then no, it's not good. If, she plans, on having an innocent good fun, such as what my mates and I have, whilst clubbing then I see no problem. There are no verses, against night clubbing. Good grief.

When in doubt err on the side of caution.
Proverbs 14 is full of insight to your plight.

 

[Cearbhall]

A woman who is going to clubs now is very unlikely to be a good godly and faithful wife in the future.

Erm, I would say it depends on what she's doing, whether she's doing anything that puts herself or others in danger, and whether or not she has the self-control to refrain from cheating and put her responsibilities first in the future. Not everyone who goes to clubs is a damned heathen, for pete's sake. It's a normal thing to do.

 

[Cactus Jack]

Not everyone who goes to clubs is a damned heathen, for pete's sake. It's a normal thing to do.

That's a matter of opinion!

 

[Cearbhall]

That's a matter of opinion!

What's inherently wrong about hanging out with friends in a public space?

 

[Yeshuas_My_Freedom]

She has free will.
You'll know her commitment to you by how she behaves as herself when you're not around.

My girlfriend and I are struggling right now. We wants to go clubbing to just dance with her girl-friends. But I've been to the same club that she wants to go to and it's a complete grind fest. (I went there before I was christian, just out of highschool).

I was in the car when she was making plans with the girls to go. The same girls asked her to join her to go to a male strip club with them. She told them in a joking way that she wasn't interested.

I told her how I don't think her friends are good influences (they also offered her alcohol while she is underage), her response was that I was being judgement.

Bottom line is I don't feel comfortable with the club. I don't know what to do because we have been dating for 2 years and I don't want to through it away.

Her views on life are changing rapidly which are causing us problems. Such as, she is now pro-choice.

Some words of advice and prayers would be nice.