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More likely? You know her well enough to know what her ideas likely are?
Hey, you were the one who was making assumptions about her "fantastic ideas." Maybe you should ask yourself your own question. Why is it okay for you to offer conjecture about her but not me? Bit of a double standard there, I think.
I said "for all we know." You said, "I know." Do you not understand the difference?
Well, let me ask you then: Was the OP's girlfriend observing godly, biblical sexuality when she was have sex with multiple partners?
I don't know. Were you observing Godly, Biblical principles the last time you sinned repeatedly?
You don't know? Really? Dude, you don't know your Bible if you have some doubt about whether or not she was behaving in a godly and biblical manner when she was fornicating with multiple partners!
No, I don't know her heart. Neither do you. You've made ASSumptions. Generally speaking, I behave in a Godly and Biblical manner. Occasionally, I sin. Sometimes I even commit the same sin multiple times. I confess. God forgives and I go on trying to produce fruit.
FWIW, I've been studying the Bible, including Bible college and study of the original languages, for nearly 45 years. I know a few things for sure: We all sin. None of us is righteous. We have all fallen short. We are not to judge others. Other things will remain a mystery until God chooses to reveal them to me.
Experience has taught me that people who like to sit in judgment of others, need to get their heart right with God. I grew up in a church pastored by and filled with people with attitudes very similar to the one you have demonstrated in this thread.
Perhaps I am out of place, but I feel as though arguing about what she did and didnt do isnt helping our OP come to a peaceful solution to his heartache...
You are being very judgmental over a person you do not know and based on very scant information. Having multiple partners in ones past does not mean their ideas towards sex are unhealthy. More often than not people who are permiscuous are not doing so because they like "unhealthy sex" (whatever that may be) but because they have other emotional issues. And since most of us have had several sexual partners in our lifetime we have no room to judge at all.Or more likely she has developed a twisted and ungodly view of it. If this is so, whatever "fantastic ideas" she may have will not lead to healthy, god-honoring sexuality.
Selah.
You are being very judgmental over a person you do not know and based on very scant information. Having multiple partners in ones past does not mean their ideas towards sex are unhealthy. More often than not people who are permiscuous are not doing so because they like "unhealthy sex" (whatever that may be) but because they have other emotional issues. And since most of us have had several sexual partners in our lifetime we have no room to judge at all.
Maybe you haven't but that still doesn't give you room to say her ideas of sex were anything.
Plus the poster who said she might have fantastic ideas is correct. She probably does. There is nothing sinful about knowing how to have good sex and teaching it to your spouse so both can enjoy.
I did not post in this thread with the intent of arguing about the content of my comments. I would much have preferred for my words to the OP to be undiluted by the discussion I've had with Mudinyeri. I'm hoping he will desist in his criticisms of my remarks to the OP.
Selah.
I will desist because I can tell that you can't see your own sin while you're focused on mine and that of the OP's girlfriend.
Pretty standard for any internet message board. I agree the focus should be on the OP but it just never works out that way when opinions start flying. I wish I could say I was above that but obviously I am not.You're all arguing with one another over your own false notions about this man's girlfriend and her character and personality? And you're posting that you're offended by what one another judges about each other after you've both judged a woman you've never met?
And then you invoke scriptures to defend your own behavior and condemn the other?
Do you know how ridiculous it is that this is even an issue among the two of you? When a brother has opened a discussion asking advice about his life?
You're all arguing with one another over your own false notions about this man's girlfriend and her character and personality? And you're posting that you're offended by what one another judges about each other after you've both judged a woman you've never met?
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