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My friend has deep regrets.

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I became best friends with a girl I meet 5 years ago at work. Just recently she revealed that she had an abortion when she was 21. She works in the personnel department and she told me told that every time she sees a man or woman come in for orientation that was born in the year she had the abortion it REALLY messes with her. I never realized this, but once I sat down and thought about it how couldn't it mess with you?

Recently, there was a handsome man that was a new hire and she was supposed to conduct his orientation in our board room. She just couldn't stay there looking at him and she came and got me to complete the orientation for her which was basically going through the powerpoint slides. The poor boy was left puzzled as to why the switch. It even bothered me a little knowing that his DOB was the exact same year she had her abortion. It was like being reminded of it. What is the best way to help my friend cope? Has anyone heard of this type of regret happening to women who have had abortions?
 
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Thank you for responding. It is amazing we never hear these pro-abortion people talk about situations like this happening to women when they exercise their "right to choose." It's all positive and not negatives, right? And what about the men it's not fair they don't even get a say in the matter, after all, we don't get pregnant by ourselves.
 
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I became best friends with a girl I meet 5 years ago at work. Just recently she revealed that she had an abortion when she was 21. She works in the personnel department and she told me told that every time she sees a man or woman come in for orientation that was born in the year she had the abortion it REALLY messes with her. I never realized this, but once I sat down and thought about it how couldn't it mess with you?

Recently, there was a handsome man that was a new hire and she was supposed to conduct his orientation in our board room. She just couldn't stay there looking at him and she came and got me to complete the orientation for her which was basically going through the powerpoint slides. The poor boy was left puzzled as to why the switch. It even bothered me a little knowing that his DOB was the exact same year she had her abortion. It was like being reminded of it. What is the best way to help my friend cope? Has anyone heard of this type of regret happening to women who have had abortions?

If you were aware of the pro life publications and following the anti abortion movement you would be aware of the great many reports of this sort of trauma.

May I suggest that you encourage your friend to seek help.
She needs professional counseling.

Do all you can to support her and remind her that Jesus does not judge us on our sins that we ask for forgiveness for.
 
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If you were aware of the pro life publications and following the anti abortion movement you would be aware of the great many reports of this sort of trauma.

May I suggest that you encourage your friend to seek help.
She needs professional counseling.

Do all you can to support her and remind her that Jesus does not judge us on our sins that we ask for forgiveness for.
Thank you
 
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I became best friends with a girl I meet 5 years ago at work. Just recently she revealed that she had an abortion when she was 21. She works in the personnel department and she told me told that every time she sees a man or woman come in for orientation that was born in the year she had the abortion it REALLY messes with her. I never realized this, but once I sat down and thought about it how couldn't it mess with you?

Recently, there was a handsome man that was a new hire and she was supposed to conduct his orientation in our board room. She just couldn't stay there looking at him and she came and got me to complete the orientation for her which was basically going through the powerpoint slides. The poor boy was left puzzled as to why the switch. It even bothered me a little knowing that his DOB was the exact same year she had her abortion. It was like being reminded of it. What is the best way to help my friend cope? Has anyone heard of this type of regret happening to women who have had abortions?
I know someone who had deep wounds until the day she died at the age of 76. She'd even named the children (twins) in spite of "procuring a miscarriage" as it was known in those days.

If your friend is a Christian, she needs to forgive herself. This link will help. Can you forgive from your heart? - Christian Life Frankston
 
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I know someone who had deep wounds until the day she died at the age of 76. She'd even named the children (twins) in spite of "procuring a miscarriage" as it was known in those days.

If your friend is a Christian, she needs to forgive herself. This link will help. Can you forgive from your heart? - Christian Life Frankston
I am still trying to bring her to Christ... She has come a long way and has started going to Church with me.
 
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Thank you

Get involved in pro life.

It will teach you about the lies spreads out the gay and trans propergander being spread about these.
 
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God bless you and her. Often as pro life people we can forget we may be talking to a woman who's had an abortion. I pray you have the gentle patience to help your friend get past her emotions and come to know the peace and forgiveness we can find only thru Christ.
 
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I am still trying to bring her to Christ... She has come a long way and has started going to Church with me.
Let her know that the Lord Jesus has paid the price for her sin and that she can be entirely free of guilt. It may help her to decide.
 
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There is a lot of post-abortion trauma out there. Many times it only surfaces later on, when all the indoctrination and excuses wear off and only the truth remains.

There are a lot of abortion healing resources available. Do a search for 'abortion healing'. Check out ministries such as Focus on the Family. Years ago they produced a radio theater of Tilly, by Frank Peretti. It is simply an amazing, profoundly moving and healing piece of work. I'm not sure the audio is available still. If not I might be able to get a copy for you.

Most important is to show the love and compassion of Christ to her. This is a golden opportunity for her to learn of and accept His healing love into her heart.

May the Lord guide you.
 
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God bless you and her. Often as pro life people we can forget we may be talking to a woman who's had an abortion. I pray you have the gentle patience to help your friend get past her emotions and come to know the peace and forgiveness we can find only thru Christ.
Thank you so much. ProLife activists save more than just the unborn babies' life they are saving the mother's life from a future of misery and regrets. Satan will always tempt you to do something that in the short term looks like the easy way out, but then Satan springs his TRAP the "I gotcha," "you fell for it" moment. Similar to someone being unfaithful in marriage at fist must seem exciting until one contracts HIV. That is how Satan rolls.
 
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There is a lot of post-abortion trauma out there. Many times it only surfaces later on, when all the indoctrination and excuses wear off and only the truth remains.

There are a lot of abortion healing resources available. Do a search for 'abortion healing'. Check out ministries such as Focus on the Family. Years ago they produced a radio theater of Tilly, by Frank Peretti. It is simply an amazing, profoundly moving and healing piece of work. I'm not sure the audio is available still. If not I might be able to get a copy for you.

Most important is to show the love and compassion of Christ to her. This is a golden opportunity for her to learn of and accept His healing love into her heart.

May the Lord guide you.
Most important is to show the love and compassion of Christ to her. This is a golden opportunity for her to learn of and accept His healing love into her heart.

May the Lord guide you.

So True. ONLY the power of JESUS CHRIST and the Holy Spirit can set her free from this torment. I'll double my efforts to bring her to Christ!
 
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Update! My friend received Jesus Christ as her personal savior this Sunday! Praise be to the Lord and all here who prayed for her.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaay! What a privilege and a blessing for you both! God be with you guys!
 
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