- Jul 22, 2017
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I have decided to not have a relationship with my brothers and sisters. They have become toxic to me. My mother was imperfect, but I don't believe she was evil. My brothers and sisters think that she was evil. And they have nothing nice to say about her. It is painful to hear. So, I have decided to not have a relationship with my brothers and sisters. I don't know how I am going to tell them. People tell me that I am rebelling against God for not wanting a relationship with them. But I don't see how. You either love someone or you don't. It isn't a choice. But is love a feeling or a choice? If love isn't a feeling, then I can be there for them without having a relationship. For example, I will not come for Christmas, but I can come in the Summer to cut wood. But then go home right after. It is not fair for anyone to demand that I relate to people that are emotionally abusive. Doesn't the Bible tell me to protect my heart? Then that is what I am going to do.
I just don't know what to do. What about when the Bible tells you that if someone sins against you, confront them, but if they don't repent have nothing to do with them, but if they do repent, forgive them? Doesn't that apply here?
My brother and sisters won't leave me alone. But why should I continue to relate to my brothers and sisters? I know that people will say it's because God has forgiven you, which I am not sure that he has. But God only forgives when we recognize our sin and repent of our sin and turn away from our sin. Not when we continue in our sin without repentance. Of course, we may because of habits like swearing or something like that. It's hard to just stop bad habits. But this is different. They do this without repentance. They hurt me when they do this, and they know it. I don't want a relationship with them.
Please help
What should I say to them? I will not argue with you. What am I supposed to do?
I just don't know what to do. What about when the Bible tells you that if someone sins against you, confront them, but if they don't repent have nothing to do with them, but if they do repent, forgive them? Doesn't that apply here?
My brother and sisters won't leave me alone. But why should I continue to relate to my brothers and sisters? I know that people will say it's because God has forgiven you, which I am not sure that he has. But God only forgives when we recognize our sin and repent of our sin and turn away from our sin. Not when we continue in our sin without repentance. Of course, we may because of habits like swearing or something like that. It's hard to just stop bad habits. But this is different. They do this without repentance. They hurt me when they do this, and they know it. I don't want a relationship with them.
Please help
What should I say to them? I will not argue with you. What am I supposed to do?