Just signed up and this will be my first official post.
So... figured I’d tell you about my current life situation.
Ok here it goes.
I’m 29 years old, last of my 20s very scary . I been dealing with anxiety my whole life. I can hide it, but it’s getting so hard as I keep trying to close it inside. It’s a daily struggle for me I tell ya.
I’ve never lived on my own. I live with my Dad and he’s an amazing Father who takes care of his family. I’m so blessed to have him in my life. Just the thought of losing my Dad scares me to Death. He provides for me id say, 80 percent of the time and the other 20 I pay certain bills to him. I never been able to live on my own since I don’t have enough money and my anxiety gives me a panic attack thinking about living on my own, unless I had millions of dollars knowing I can provide for myself. That’s how I look at it in my current situation.
I been working at the same job since 2011, part time. It was my first job as well and I remember my first day going into the interview hiding my anxiety. I had a lot of help to get the job as well, a special program helped. Anyways, once 2013 hit I started hating my job and it hasn’t changed till this very day. I’m amazed I lasted this long. Guess it shows I can hang in there better then I thought I could do.
My job is in retail and I deal with a lot of nasty people and managers that don’t really care and they say they do, but don’t. I have to fake smile and hide in the pain I’m dealing with, yes. Customers think I’m a happy person and I’m not at all. I consider myself Broken. Just like my username as you can see. I’m dealing with depression and I had a mental breakdown about a month ago at home, it was brutal. 70 percent of my stress comes from my job and the rest, my life.
I keep saying to myself, I can’t do this anymore, no more. I had enough, I need to quit and move on to find something that will make me happy going to every day. Except, I don’t. My anxiety is holding me back to move on. Guess you can say, I’m scared of change. I’m comfortable, but not happy if that makes sense. Finding another job actually scares the heck out of me and I’m too afraid to put myself out there cause what if it gets worse for me .
There are only 2 things I like about my job. One is some of my friends I have and finally I live like 7 min walking distance to my job. I don’t drive due to anxiety. So having a job this close is really saving me in a sense. I still get around with car companies. This makes it hard for me to leave as well. I honestly wanna leave, but deep down I know I won’t. Just the idea of going to look for another job and doing the interview I don’t wanna do that again, no thank you. Guess I’m just waiting for a sign and it’s not working for me. You get the picture at my job situation.
Since I’m a stressful person I go to the gym 4 days a week and it really helps with my anxiety, temporarily. I was studying to be a personal trainer, but didn’t workout in the end. It wasn’t for me and it’s too hard. I workout for me, period. I was bullied in my school years and that’s what got me into working out in that gym. I guess you can say I turned a positive into a negative. However, being bullied has destroyed my life and I deal with bullying at my job all the time. I can guarantee you if I was never bullied in life, my life would of been so much different. Except I would of never gotten into working out fitness lifestyle, I’m so sure about that.
I can’t let my past go and I’m holding onto my broken shells of the people that hurt me. I’m holding in anger as well for sure. This is really a battle for me everyday. I know this is long and if your still reading this, I appreciate it.
One of the things I can’t let go is when this one teacher said I was stupid in front of the class and the whole classroom laughed at me, yep. I remember once I got home that day, I cried my eyes out in bed. I was never a kid who acted up in school. I was quiet and reserved. I had a decent amount of friends, but in the end they all used me for money and some just drifted away. Just teachers and kids were mean to me for know reason and it’s affecting me daily. I’ve done counseling many times in the past and it’s never helped me, ever. I don’t believe in getting therapy at all. I honestly come to the point that I deserve verbal abuse from others since I still get it daily, I don’t know.
Let’s see, what else???
I feel like I need to wind myself up every morning just to get up out of bed. I hardly ever feel well rested usually. I look in the mirror and just wanna cry and give up, but somehow I keep doing it. I never had a girlfriend in my life. I got my first kiss when I was 26 years old, it took that long, yep. In the past I was desperate on wanting a girlfriend and my loneliness was so..... bad. As time went on and I saw what relationships were like, I grew out of that. I accept being single and I’m ok with it. I do get sad at times seeing couples on instagram and in the world holding hands together. Knowing I’m never gonna experience it. It bothers me sometimes though, not extreme like it use to.
I have been video chatting with this girl for a year now and we care about each other, but don’t consider us a couple since she lives outside of the US and we’re never gonna meet in person since I told her my situation on my anxiety and life. She accepts it and I tell her to live her life, but she says she doesn’t want anyone else. It’s her choice of course. I won’t change though I keep telling her and I can see she’s sad, but she says she has never meet a guy like me before and doesn’t wanna lose me. I just can’t give her a life and she’s too far away. So we just do what we do on camera. She thinks I’ll find someone and I tell her I don’t want to find someone since I’m such a mess. I consider her one of my best friends. She loves me, but I don’t love her since I never been in love before. Plus being in love scares the heck out of me and her being so far away I can’t love someone who I’ll never physically be with ya know. I want her happy and I’m not her guy, nobody’s guy. She still sticks with me and I enjoy talking with her. I’m grateful to have her in my life. I just know I’ll never get to see her in person unless she can find a way down here, which won’t happen unfortunately. So, I just do what I can with her and enjoy our time video chatting.
When I go to family gatherings I always feel out of place. I’m never talkative like my family is and it’s very hard to put on a fake smile to my family pretending everything is ok and it’s not.
I keep calling myself a loser and I’m not proud of myself at all. When others compliment me on my body I don’t believe them and think my body is the worst. Guess you can say I don’t feel like a winner in life. When I look into women’s eyes I can see they wanna throw up and call me a loser. I can just sense that and don’t blame them. People can consider me too nice and that’s why I never win. I won’t change who I am, sorry.
I don’t smoke, drink or mess with illegal drugs what so ever, thank God. Even though I don’t do any of these things, I’m a mess. I am dealing with bad depression and life is becoming too much for me to handle, big time.
When some people say I’m handsome I don’t believe them since I never had a girlfriend in the past when I wanted one at the time. Girls use to bully me in the past and called me ugly. I just have a hard time believing anyone when they give me a compliment.
I’m dealing with Lust even though I’m still a virgin. Almost lost my virginity at 26, but didn’t go all the way. I try to limit my usage of adult content online, but I always go back to it cause I need to release my frustration, sigh. I tell God I’m sorry every time, but he always forgives me I know. I just like to repent. I have a problem though and God knows it.
Ok, I know this is a super long..... long story and if you have read this far, thank you so much. Let me wrap it up with a positive note now since I basically described my whole life.
I know I’m saved and going into heaven when my time passes. I believe Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins and Jesus was the son of God.
I do need to learn more about the Lord and how am I doing that? I listening to the Bible on my phone here and there. I’m on the Old Testament right now and got a ways to go, but I’m excited to keep on listening.
Also I joined this site cause I need more help and advice as you can see. So let me stop here and say, thank you again if u read the whole thing.
It’s a new year and I’m honestly set up for failure it seems, but I hope God can help me.
Anyways, happy new year all and God bless!
Please comment and any advice would be much appreciated .
So... figured I’d tell you about my current life situation.
Ok here it goes.
I’m 29 years old, last of my 20s very scary . I been dealing with anxiety my whole life. I can hide it, but it’s getting so hard as I keep trying to close it inside. It’s a daily struggle for me I tell ya.
I’ve never lived on my own. I live with my Dad and he’s an amazing Father who takes care of his family. I’m so blessed to have him in my life. Just the thought of losing my Dad scares me to Death. He provides for me id say, 80 percent of the time and the other 20 I pay certain bills to him. I never been able to live on my own since I don’t have enough money and my anxiety gives me a panic attack thinking about living on my own, unless I had millions of dollars knowing I can provide for myself. That’s how I look at it in my current situation.
I been working at the same job since 2011, part time. It was my first job as well and I remember my first day going into the interview hiding my anxiety. I had a lot of help to get the job as well, a special program helped. Anyways, once 2013 hit I started hating my job and it hasn’t changed till this very day. I’m amazed I lasted this long. Guess it shows I can hang in there better then I thought I could do.
My job is in retail and I deal with a lot of nasty people and managers that don’t really care and they say they do, but don’t. I have to fake smile and hide in the pain I’m dealing with, yes. Customers think I’m a happy person and I’m not at all. I consider myself Broken. Just like my username as you can see. I’m dealing with depression and I had a mental breakdown about a month ago at home, it was brutal. 70 percent of my stress comes from my job and the rest, my life.
I keep saying to myself, I can’t do this anymore, no more. I had enough, I need to quit and move on to find something that will make me happy going to every day. Except, I don’t. My anxiety is holding me back to move on. Guess you can say, I’m scared of change. I’m comfortable, but not happy if that makes sense. Finding another job actually scares the heck out of me and I’m too afraid to put myself out there cause what if it gets worse for me .
There are only 2 things I like about my job. One is some of my friends I have and finally I live like 7 min walking distance to my job. I don’t drive due to anxiety. So having a job this close is really saving me in a sense. I still get around with car companies. This makes it hard for me to leave as well. I honestly wanna leave, but deep down I know I won’t. Just the idea of going to look for another job and doing the interview I don’t wanna do that again, no thank you. Guess I’m just waiting for a sign and it’s not working for me. You get the picture at my job situation.
Since I’m a stressful person I go to the gym 4 days a week and it really helps with my anxiety, temporarily. I was studying to be a personal trainer, but didn’t workout in the end. It wasn’t for me and it’s too hard. I workout for me, period. I was bullied in my school years and that’s what got me into working out in that gym. I guess you can say I turned a positive into a negative. However, being bullied has destroyed my life and I deal with bullying at my job all the time. I can guarantee you if I was never bullied in life, my life would of been so much different. Except I would of never gotten into working out fitness lifestyle, I’m so sure about that.
I can’t let my past go and I’m holding onto my broken shells of the people that hurt me. I’m holding in anger as well for sure. This is really a battle for me everyday. I know this is long and if your still reading this, I appreciate it.
One of the things I can’t let go is when this one teacher said I was stupid in front of the class and the whole classroom laughed at me, yep. I remember once I got home that day, I cried my eyes out in bed. I was never a kid who acted up in school. I was quiet and reserved. I had a decent amount of friends, but in the end they all used me for money and some just drifted away. Just teachers and kids were mean to me for know reason and it’s affecting me daily. I’ve done counseling many times in the past and it’s never helped me, ever. I don’t believe in getting therapy at all. I honestly come to the point that I deserve verbal abuse from others since I still get it daily, I don’t know.
Let’s see, what else???
I feel like I need to wind myself up every morning just to get up out of bed. I hardly ever feel well rested usually. I look in the mirror and just wanna cry and give up, but somehow I keep doing it. I never had a girlfriend in my life. I got my first kiss when I was 26 years old, it took that long, yep. In the past I was desperate on wanting a girlfriend and my loneliness was so..... bad. As time went on and I saw what relationships were like, I grew out of that. I accept being single and I’m ok with it. I do get sad at times seeing couples on instagram and in the world holding hands together. Knowing I’m never gonna experience it. It bothers me sometimes though, not extreme like it use to.
I have been video chatting with this girl for a year now and we care about each other, but don’t consider us a couple since she lives outside of the US and we’re never gonna meet in person since I told her my situation on my anxiety and life. She accepts it and I tell her to live her life, but she says she doesn’t want anyone else. It’s her choice of course. I won’t change though I keep telling her and I can see she’s sad, but she says she has never meet a guy like me before and doesn’t wanna lose me. I just can’t give her a life and she’s too far away. So we just do what we do on camera. She thinks I’ll find someone and I tell her I don’t want to find someone since I’m such a mess. I consider her one of my best friends. She loves me, but I don’t love her since I never been in love before. Plus being in love scares the heck out of me and her being so far away I can’t love someone who I’ll never physically be with ya know. I want her happy and I’m not her guy, nobody’s guy. She still sticks with me and I enjoy talking with her. I’m grateful to have her in my life. I just know I’ll never get to see her in person unless she can find a way down here, which won’t happen unfortunately. So, I just do what I can with her and enjoy our time video chatting.
When I go to family gatherings I always feel out of place. I’m never talkative like my family is and it’s very hard to put on a fake smile to my family pretending everything is ok and it’s not.
I keep calling myself a loser and I’m not proud of myself at all. When others compliment me on my body I don’t believe them and think my body is the worst. Guess you can say I don’t feel like a winner in life. When I look into women’s eyes I can see they wanna throw up and call me a loser. I can just sense that and don’t blame them. People can consider me too nice and that’s why I never win. I won’t change who I am, sorry.
I don’t smoke, drink or mess with illegal drugs what so ever, thank God. Even though I don’t do any of these things, I’m a mess. I am dealing with bad depression and life is becoming too much for me to handle, big time.
When some people say I’m handsome I don’t believe them since I never had a girlfriend in the past when I wanted one at the time. Girls use to bully me in the past and called me ugly. I just have a hard time believing anyone when they give me a compliment.
I’m dealing with Lust even though I’m still a virgin. Almost lost my virginity at 26, but didn’t go all the way. I try to limit my usage of adult content online, but I always go back to it cause I need to release my frustration, sigh. I tell God I’m sorry every time, but he always forgives me I know. I just like to repent. I have a problem though and God knows it.
Ok, I know this is a super long..... long story and if you have read this far, thank you so much. Let me wrap it up with a positive note now since I basically described my whole life.
I know I’m saved and going into heaven when my time passes. I believe Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins and Jesus was the son of God.
I do need to learn more about the Lord and how am I doing that? I listening to the Bible on my phone here and there. I’m on the Old Testament right now and got a ways to go, but I’m excited to keep on listening.
Also I joined this site cause I need more help and advice as you can see. So let me stop here and say, thank you again if u read the whole thing.
It’s a new year and I’m honestly set up for failure it seems, but I hope God can help me.
Anyways, happy new year all and God bless!
Please comment and any advice would be much appreciated .