Moving In

[JCFantasy23]

Not if most people aren't even going to ask. As I said, most of us non-christians don't care what people do or don't do in the privacy of their own homes.

Sigh, so true, and what I find so disturbing about those who do care so much.

 

[Blank123]

is it just me or are we getting offtopic?

 

[JCFantasy23]

Well, the original question wasnt really about her moving in with her bf, but on how to tell her mom. None of us really answered that part, so I think we've been off topic since reply #2, Page #1 lol

 

[katautumn]

Well, the original question wasnt really about her moving in with her bf, but on how to tell her mom. None of us really answered that part, so I think we've been off topic since reply #2, Page #1 lol

LOL Everyone has magical dirty thoughts selective vision. People read the OP and all they see is "blah blah blah my boyfriend blah blah blah moving in together blah blah blah having sex blah blah blah thoughts?"

 

[kl_lorent]

Because Pagans are the only people who live together out of wedlock? quote]



No, but Pagans are free to do as they please, Christians on the other hand are called to live as Christ lived and to not live as the world and the Bible tells us how to do that. When we do something that goes against the Bible then it is our duty to confront our Christian brothers and sisters in love so that they can live a godly life.

 

[kl_lorent]

Because Pagans are the only people who live together out of wedlock?



Most non-christians could give a rat's patootie why someone is or is not living together before marriage. This seems to be a preoccupation a handful of Christians have, so I doubt folks are going to have hordes of non-christians asking them, "hey...why aren't you and Sally Sue living together?"



Not if most people aren't even going to ask. As I said, most of us non-christians don't care what people do or don't do in the privacy of their own homes.

I know that MOST people won't care but there are some people out there who wonder why and then they ask, so in that case it works perfectly.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I'm sorry, but if you feel the urge to do something and are okay with it in your personal walk with God, you shouldn't let other peoples opinions interfere with that. I know at least one of my friends is against me being a Christian, and Ive had trouble at work for being one, but I would never let their opinion interfere with that either.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Most non-christians could give a rat's patootie why someone is or is not living together before marriage. This seems to be a preoccupation a handful of Christians have, so I doubt folks are going to have hordes of non-christians asking them, "hey...why aren't you and Sally Sue living together?"

Not if most people aren't even going to ask. As I said, most of us non-christians don't care what people do or don't do in the privacy of their own homes.

Actually, some people do ask. My decision not to have sex until I'm married again has been a topic in the lunch room at work. I've been asked very sincerely by a few people why I've chosen to wait.

I'm sorry, but if you feel the urge to do something and are okay with it in your personal walk with God, you shouldn't let other peoples opinions interfere with that. I know at least one of my friends is against me being a Christian, and Ive had trouble at work for being one, but I would never let their opinion interfere with that either.

Christian shouldn't do things just because they're ok with something. We often find ways to justify something we want to do. When were involved in sin we ignore the Holy Spirit long enough that we stop hearing it.

 

[JCFantasy23]

Actually, some people do ask. My decision not to have sex until I'm married again has been a topic in the lunch room at work. I've been asked very sincerely by a few people why I've chosen to wait.


Christian shouldn't do things just because they're ok with something. We often find ways to justify something we want to do. When were involved in sin we ignore the Holy Spirit long enough that we stop hearing it.

Christians should do what they feel is right for them based on their personal relationship with God. I was not talking about justifying sin.

 

[Blank123]

Actually, some people do ask. My decision not to have sex until I'm married again has been a topic in the lunch room at work. I've been asked very sincerely by a few people why I've chosen to wait.


Christian shouldn't do things just because they're ok with something. We often find ways to justify something we want to do. When were involved in sin we ignore the Holy Spirit long enough that we stop hearing it.

yup, i know i've been asked this myself by nonChristians as well. Its a sex crazed society we live in so if you're talking about relationships with anyone, sooner or later that topic always seems to come up. I know i've been in situations before where i've been the only Christian around and its thrown the nonChristians around me into shock that i not only have never had sex but don't intend to until i'm married. I think Christians sell this topic too short many times in its power to open those doors to share the gospel with those around us.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Christians should do what they feel is right for them based on their personal relationship with God. I was not talking about justifying sin.

But, that is often exactly what it is.

 

[JCFantasy23]

Perhaps that is often what it is, but it can be dangerous to assume so. If I have concerns, I include it in my nightly prayer, but I just generally just shrug and let Christians do what they do feel is right with God, as who am I to judge?

 

[unkern]

1 thessalonians 5:22 tells us to stay away from the appearance of sin.

Paul and john wrote to many of the churchs telling them to repent and turn back to God leaving an example that we must follow. It is not judging when you are trying to save a person from eternal damnation. It is called accountability. Judging would apply to the scripture that says take the plank out of your eye before you take the splinter out of his, for instance: do not tell a person not to smoke because its bad for them if you yourself will not stop smoking.

 

[JCFantasy23]

1 thessalonians 5:22 tells us to stay away from the appearance of sin.

Paul and john wrote to many of the churchs telling them to repent and turn back to God leaving an example that we must follow. It is not judging when you are trying to save a person from eternal damnation. It is called accountability. Judging would apply to the scripture that says take the plank out of your eye before you take the splinter out of his, for instance: do not tell a person not to smoke because its bad for them if you yourself will not stop smoking.

No, but as a Christian I'm sure the OP and anyone in the situation already knows their bible and beliefs with God and how this affects their life. I would not keep voicing my opinion to 'save them from eternal damnation', as I'm sure they already have their beliefs on whether they are saved or not.

 

[The Princess Bride]

No, but as a Christian I'm sure the OP and anyone in the situation already knows their bible and beliefs with God and how this affects their life. I would not keep voicing my opinion to 'save them from eternal damnation', as I'm sure they already have their beliefs on whether they are saved or not.

I don't think they meant in regards to their being saved or not, and like what "eatenbylocusts" pointed out, to a lot of Christians, it is firmly believed that the Bible is clear on saying that pre-marital sex is a sin, and that living together before being married gives off the appearance, that while you may not be having sex, all other indications you are making states otherwise.

All the excuses and reasons in the world can be given to justify a couple living together according to the world's standard only, but no where in the Bible can justification for it be found.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

No, but as a Christian I'm sure the OP and anyone in the situation already knows their bible and beliefs with God and how this affects their life. I would not keep voicing my opinion to 'save them from eternal damnation', as I'm sure they already have their beliefs on whether they are saved or not.

Once you're saved, it doesn't mean there isn't work to be done. We all have things we need to work on. If you search the Bible you will find that there is to be accountability among believers. That means you correct sin for the good of the whole body. Not judge. That phrase is thrown around so easily when folks hear things that make them uncomfortable.

Christians should not zip their lips to avoid all controversy.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I don't think they meant in regards to their being saved or not, and like what "eatenbylocusts" pointed out, to a lot of Christians, it is firmly believed that the Bible is clear on saying that pre-marital sex is a sin, and that living together before being married gives off the appearance, that while you may not be having sex, all other indications you are making states otherwise.

All the excuses and reasons in the world can be given to justify a couple living together according to the world's standard only, but no where in the Bible can justification for it be found.

But the OP shouldn't HAVE to try to justify it to "us". I mentioned being saved because he discussed saving others from eternal damnation. To be honest, everyone in the world today are just too judgmental for my tastes. I've learned happiness comes from within when you stop worrying so much on what other people think, because it will never be a situation where everyone in your life is happy where you're currently at or what you're currently doing.

If YOU feel it is right between you and God to do something, you shouldn't then take the thoughts of others opinions into such heavy consideration.

 

[JCFantasy23]

Once you're saved, it doesn't mean there isn't work to be done. We all have things we need to work on. If you search the Bible you will find that there is to be accountability among believers. That means you correct sin for the good of the whole body. Not judge. That phrase is thrown around so easily when folks hear things that make them uncomfortable.

Christians should not zip their lips to avoid all controversy.

Perhaps then I am throwing around the word 'judge' too much. However, I still believe that if someone has already heard it, it doesn't bear constant repeating. I have no idea what her personal relationship with God is, nor what he wants with her life. I may have ideas as a Christian, but I generally keep quiet after some initial advice, because I never truly know.

 

[chicacanella]

Why not just go on a two week vacation with your SO a couple of times? Go to some little town in Italy or France or on a ski trip in Colorado.