[Moved] Need Major Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Canada32]

I think I'm going through like a "mid life crisis". I mean life could be worse, so I shouldn't complain but I'm just at my wits end in life and need some guidence and prayer really desperately.

My situation is this. I started a business about 7 years ago when I was 25. At that time I fell into a long term relationship. I guess there's a few things I like about this girl but we've been together for 7 years now, and I've just had it! I can't stand it anymore. It's like I care about the person greatly but I'm not in love. But I'm almost too afraid to try leaving them to try something new. I guess I'm just afraid I won't meet someone who's as committed as this person is. It's stupid I know but I'm 32 now and I guess it feels harder to start over at this age.

We never married or anything yet. And I've been thinking about how amazing it would be to move out to the coast and live there and meet someone new there. I'm already 32 and I feel like this could literally be my only chance to step out and do this now that I'm financially secure. But I know leaving her here would break her heart. I'm just scared to do that. For her, and I guess for me too.

So I'm torn in two here. Torn between staying in my comfortable little world that I'm bored to death with, but that has security, and between stepping out, trying something new but that seems a little risky in some ways.

Please pray for me. It's like 4 am and I've been crying for the last hour about this. I just want to find true love for once in my life. But it's gotten to the point where I feel so helpless to effect change or to just take control over my destiny. I mean life is short. I'm already 32 and I'm very analytical. So part of my things "wow I've wasted some of the best relationship years in relationship that's "so so" and I've never even truly been in love yet". I got to make a choice here soon and can't keep living this way.

Anyway please pray that things will work out for the best. Pray that God will give me courage to face my fears. And pray that he will help to continue to trust him even if things haven't been perfect yet. Thank you.

 

[AdJesumPerMariam]

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[goldenviolet]

the first thing that comes to my mind is how unfair it is for a long term relationship to end without wedding rings. have you been sleeping together?

love starts with wonderful lollie-pops and rainbows. it ends with commitment, bestfriends, trust, comfort, safety. the truth of the matter is, that love is many things. if you throw away a relationship inwhich you have no real grounds to end it; who do you cheat? you... herself... and .... ?? how about counseling?

what is security? praying for you.~ love dee

 

[saraharms1]

I know I'm only 15... but I've seen a lot of marriges and relationships come crashing down. My parents are divorced themselves and my moms lost a few guys already.

I know if you honestly feel you don't truly love her you should break up thats because in the long run you will become irritable with each other and then just plain unhappy. You two will be miserable.

If she is your true love don't leave her but if she is then stay and find a way to make your life exciting in other ways like developing a new hobby or just changing your routine of things.

hope I was of some help!



God Bless
Sarah

 

[madison1101]

What does God say about your relationship? Has it been pure sexually, or are you sleeping together? God's Word says a lot about relationships, and how people are to treat one another.

Have you prayed and sought God for His will for your life? You talk about how you feel, but what about what God feels about your life, your relationships, your career. Are you surrendered to Him, or is it just what you want?

 

[restore]

I have been there, long relationship with ex and woke up one day and realized it was a dream,
so i m v careful now, if i m not ready or too young to involve someone, will really cause a lot trouble.....

i think maybe u both should try to seperate for a while and let both calm down to really think it over, then make a decision.

but it is never too late to make a decision or move on, u both just need to be honest to this relationship , and it will be fair for both.