More confused than ever

[needhislove]

This thread refers back to my original thread "My husband is mentally ill". Today we had a huge fight that started from nothing. He feels my family is unfair to him and thinks the worst of him. I told him that they don't, he just thinks they do. He told me that he doesn't like my parents and I already knew he didn't like my oldest sister. He really went off on me. I told him that I realize he is having a rough time, but he needs to remember that I have feelings, too. (this all happened over the phone) After yelling and arguing for half an hour, he said he didn't want to talk to me or see me for a while. This is bad because we were supposed to see each other over the weekend and Aspen(my daughter) was really looking forward to seeing him. Also, I don't see how this accomplishes anything. We will still have the same problems to work out no matter how long we stop talking. He also said that he would rather divorce me than argue with me. I argued with him because my parents have worked really hard to help us all they could. They have been supportive of him and good to him even when they see how his actions have hurt Aspen and me. I hate to say it, but when he said that about divorce, it didn't sound too bad to me. I really need some praying, please, eventhough I am not sure what for. I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for either,but anything would be great.I don't know how I feel anymore or how I should feel.

 

[desi]

If someone says x and you say they are wrong you are in for a fight. If someone says x and you say, 'you know I never looked at it that way.' you sidestep a fight.

 

[Joe Orwell Fuss]

Don't give up! I'm sure a divorce seems great when the fighting is going on, but remember that you love him, and that you love the Lord more. I don't know if you'd want to do this, but a marriage counselor wouldn't be such a bad idea. As well, going to talk to your Church's preacher might be something to consider, as well.

Remember, as well, that prayer is powerful! Pray to the Lord and he will lead you in the right direction.

I hope this helps. I really am sorry, but hang in there! You will be in my prayers.

 

[Rafael]

Dear Father in heaven, please send you Holy Spirit and healing to this woman's husband. We rely upon your strength Lord and stop to pray for the needs of this woman and her daughter to have a strong man in their lives. Please Lord, send your Word. We know that you do not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
Lord, we often don't have the right words or know how we should pray, so I ask for your intercession and help in Jesus name, Amen.

You pray too and and be in agreement for your husband. God bless....

 

[Stanfi]

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I am sure that it is very trying. The only advice I know to give is to pray.

 

[TheMainException]

Work through this! I know you can...just keep praying. We will pray for you here at Christianforums.com and will never forget about your plight. I know what it is like for someone with a mental illness, it really is tough. But just continue to persevere through this. I know you can do it. God won't give you anything more than he knows that you can handle, and he doesn't lie.