Modesty Question?

[Gospel Guy]

But to answer your question, not really. My advice is to wear what you are happy with!

No, actually don't drew like a street walker if that is what makes you happy.

Dress nice, but keep the length of dresses reasonable and keep the boobs covered up... otherwise you are just creating temptation for others while making yourself look you charge for it if you know what I mean!

You can dress classy and not worry about other women if they give you a hard time cause they dress like street walkers and expect you to.

Our society cannot do anything hardly without sexualizing everything. No need in falling into all that which is where society would like to drag you in to so they can form you in to their image!

Some men would lust after an outline in a burqa

Would that be the Baptist Burqa? When did the SBC start that?

 

[jsimms615]

Hello everyone! I'm new to this site and signed up because I though it would be a great place for Christian discussion.

I have been struggling with modesty lately and am a little bit confused because I have heard and read so many different opinions and don't know what to listen to. I realize that modesty is really an issue of the heart but I still don't want to cause my brothers to stumble with my outer apperance. The problem is, I don't know what causes guys to stumble! Cause some guys say a mid-thigh length skirt is perfectly fine and acceptable while other guys say a skirt should go below the knee.

Now, when I wear a skirt below my knee I look really frumpy. I'm okay with dressing more conservatively but I don't want to look frumpy. My legs are short and my torso is long so when I wear anything below my knees I look out-of-porportion and frumpy. I rather wear a skirt down to my ankles because it lengths my legs.

So my question is, do knees or a tiny bit of thigh really makes guys stumble? Does it really give you guys a hard time?

Thanks for the help!

Well, I applaud you for even considering guys and what may make guys stumble. A lot of ladies never give it a thought. The question of above or below the knee seems kinda irrelevant to me. If a guy wants to lust there is plenty of opportunities to find a woman with no modesty.
I think you should consider if what your wearing is too revealing, either your chest being too exposed or your pants being too tight. But, other than that I don't really have an opinion.

 

[lismore]

Thanks for the help!

hello

You could always try breeks!

God Bless

 

[BowTied]

My lovely bride always wears suits (skirt suits, never pants suits!) with the skirt at least to the knee, as well as very well starched-and-pressed buttoned-up blouses. Always looks very prim'n'proper, and looks much "sexier" to me that way! Of course, I'm in suits and bow ties for church on the weekends as well as for work every day.

 

[If Not For Grace]

A person chooses their own path. Dress nor undress on it's own causes nothing. It is the culture that induces certain ideas. Many cultures go topless and their are nudists and all sorts of styles in clothes. Sexy is more of an attitude than manner of dress-

Wear whatever is comfortable for you to wear-you know the difference between business professional and a pole dancer. You know if you are "hanging out" of your clothes or not. By some standards showing your ankles would be taboo. It's jstike others stated above-even in the civil war era when women were covered from neck to floor-lust was still an issue.

Take Johnny Depp for example I don't care what he's wearing-from his "Captian Sparrow" to "Tonto" to "Benny & June" character-he is still sexy..Now what's the poor man to do hide forever? No. It's not his problem...is it?

 

[JohnDB]

Since you brought up the word "modesty" as in the passage where Paul asks the women to dress modestly...

Modesty really means to not stand out from everyone else.
this means to not have the shortest skirt or showing more cleavage than anyone else there...nor be the next runner up for the spot.

BUT ALSO

this means that if at a Beach Church you cannot be the only person wearing an outfit meant for inside wear only. You probably should be in a bathing suit of some kind with possibly some shorts or sarong...something you would normally wear at a beach.

A few church gatherings I have heard of in some rather distant places (third world countries etc) the natives are rather clothing sparse/optional to start with. Just by being there you tend to stand out. So dressing casually and for comfort is just about the best you can hope for.


Guys and girls look at the other sex just because they are pleasant to look at. It really doesn't matter what you wear...some goobers are going to ogle anyone at anytime wearing just about anything.


BUT MOSTLY
Not being overtly suggestive with your clothing is more of an attitude than anything. I've seen some "rather loose women" cover more than other ladies in a mixed gender outing gain more attention by their attitude than other ladies showing much more skin.

 

[oktornado]

Dress that accentuates the female physical attributes will usually get a male's attention. In my opinion as long as you aren't dressing specifically to turn a man's head and are doing it simply because certain styles make you feel better about your general appearance then there is nothing wrong. I've been married for almost 20 years and raised two daughters. I am very conscious of female dress.

 

[graciesings]

I wear long skirts, as in mid calf to ankle length. I don't do it for any strict philosophical reason. I like long skirts because they are ladylike, classic (they've been in style for most of the last 2000 years), and I get a lot of respect from people. Full, ankle-length denim skirts seem to send the message that I am confident enough to dress my own way, and that I'm not trying to look sexy/fashionable.
I do wear pants at home and for boyish activities. (Horseback riding, welding, splitting wood, building chicken coops, changing the oil, using a chainsaw, etc.)

 

[Johnnz]

A person chooses their own path. Dress nor undress on it's own causes nothing. It is the culture that induces certain ideas. Many cultures go topless and their are nudists and all sorts of styles in clothes. Sexy is more of an attitude than manner of dress-

Wear whatever is comfortable for you to wear-you know the difference between business professional and a pole dancer. You know if you are "hanging out" of your clothes or not. By some standards showing your ankles would be taboo. It's jstike others stated above-even in the civil war era when women were covered from neck to floor-lust was still an issue.

Take Johnny Depp for example I don't care what he's wearing-from his "Captian Sparrow" to "Tonto" to "Benny & June" character-he is still sexy..Now what's the poor man to do hide forever? No. It's not his problem...is it?

This about sums up the matter. There are inter-cutural and intra-cultural issues that are significant factors in what can be appropriate. That requires wisdom and sensitivity. In NT times food laws and purity laws were big issues due to the different cultures within the community of believers. Paul's advice, which essentially comes down to "try to avoid giving offence but allow people to differ" can be applied to how we dress. Some see burkas as being necessary (for us poor, uncontrolled men), some can enjoy mixed company totally naked with lust being a non issue.

John
NZ

 

[DamonRambo]

Hello everyone! I'm new to this site and signed up because I though it would be a great place for Christian discussion.

I have been struggling with modesty lately and am a little bit confused because I have heard and read so many different opinions and don't know what to listen to. I realize that modesty is really an issue of the heart but I still don't want to cause my brothers to stumble with my outer apperance. The problem is, I don't know what causes guys to stumble! Cause some guys say a mid-thigh length skirt is perfectly fine and acceptable while other guys say a skirt should go below the knee.

Now, when I wear a skirt below my knee I look really frumpy. I'm okay with dressing more conservatively but I don't want to look frumpy. My legs are short and my torso is long so when I wear anything below my knees I look out-of-porportion and frumpy. I rather wear a skirt down to my ankles because it lengths my legs.

So my question is, do knees or a tiny bit of thigh really makes guys stumble? Does it really give you guys a hard time?

Thanks for the help!

Depends on the guy. My suggestion: it is more important to protect your brothers, than for you to look fashionable.

 

[DamonRambo]

Besides, you can look fashionable, and still be modest.

 

[WannaWitness]

Here are some examples of stylish, modest outfit ideas... or what I believe as such, anyway.

 

[WannaWitness]

The following Website seems to have a lot to offer in the way of pointers on how to be fashionable and yet modest. It is an LDS Website, but you don't have to embrace the religion to get ideas for modest clothing.

JenMagazine.com – Modest Fashion Magazine | Modest Clothes for Young LDS Women, LDS Young Women

And here is the Website for the clothing line:

http://www.jenclothing.com/

 

[OGM]

Depends on the guy. My suggestion: it is more important to protect your brothers, than for you to look fashionable.

Protect them from what?

 

[RenJac]

Well even if I like something, I don't want to wear it if it makes guys stumble.

Amen.

 

[Alithis]

Hello everyone! I'm new to this site and signed up because I though it would be a great place for Christian discussion.

I have been struggling with modesty lately and am a little bit confused because I have heard and read so many different opinions and don't know what to listen to. I realize that modesty is really an issue of the heart but I still don't want to cause my brothers to stumble with my outer apperance. The problem is, I don't know what causes guys to stumble! Cause some guys say a mid-thigh length skirt is perfectly fine and acceptable while other guys say a skirt should go below the knee.

Now, when I wear a skirt below my knee I look really frumpy. I'm okay with dressing more conservatively but I don't want to look frumpy. My legs are short and my torso is long so when I wear anything below my knees I look out-of-porportion and frumpy. I rather wear a skirt down to my ankles because it lengths my legs.

So my question is, do knees or a tiny bit of thigh really makes guys stumble? Does it really give you guys a hard time?

Thanks for the help!

if you are sincere in this question and willingness to avoid offending your brothers in Christ - then firstly God bless you so very much for your love towards your brothers in Christ .

just enquirer of the holy Spirit in your heart when you dress .. just ask the lord is this ok to wear lord ?
yes seriously ..simply ask him like that . you will know you will feel it in your heart if its wrong ,he will give you such peace and joy if its ok . but we must be honest with him and sincere and be willing to change if he tells us to .. dont listen to people on this issue . follow the Lord Jesus speaking to your heart ..

 

[RenJac]

if you are sincere in this question and willingness to avoid offending your brothers in Christ - then firstly God bless you so very much for your love towards your brothers in Christ .

just enquirer of the holy Spirit in your heart when you dress .. just ask the lord is this ok to wear lord ?
yes seriously ..simply ask him like that . you will know you will feel it in your heart if its wrong ,he will give you such peace and joy if its ok . but we must be honest with him and sincere and be willing to change if he tells us to .. dont listen to people on this issue . follow the Lord Jesus speaking to your heart ..

AMEN!

 

[mandyangel]

all of those outfits would be cute with a miniskirt