I found it frustrating that our society equates abuse with sexual and physical contact.
If there is no bodily sexual contact or violent physical contact - it's not seen as abuse.
But all survivors of abuse deal with one main element, the emotional/mental scars.
A person can be raped, and beaten....and their bodies can mostly repair the damage.....but it's living with the emotional impact of that abuse that makes it a long time struggle.
It's society's way of not speaking about bad or negative things. Unless you have physical wounds you aren't hurt.
In a way our society works with the abusers to hide the emotional and mental impact by denying it's importance.
Survivors of abuse are eventually told to 'get over it'. There is supposed to be some deadline for survivors to deal with the abuse.
And when abuse comes in a pure mental/emotional form (no sexual or physical attack) - it so much easier for the abuser to hide and or also to deny that it exists.
Children can live in a mental prison that their abusive parents create. Much like the elephant being chained to the ground and eventually only requiring a small rope. It's learnt to be submissive and not escape or fight back.
That's also why we repress most of the abuse and don't deal with it...because we are taught by the larger world to do that.
The world wants hard working people that read success books and practice positive thinking mantras so they can be good little machine workers. Don't say anything negative, don't talk about the past. Just get over it already.
But the impact of the abuse doesn't go away if it's ignored.
The worst culprits for denying the emotional/mental impact of our past abuse is ourselves.
Just my thoughts on the matter.
If there is no bodily sexual contact or violent physical contact - it's not seen as abuse.
But all survivors of abuse deal with one main element, the emotional/mental scars.
A person can be raped, and beaten....and their bodies can mostly repair the damage.....but it's living with the emotional impact of that abuse that makes it a long time struggle.
It's society's way of not speaking about bad or negative things. Unless you have physical wounds you aren't hurt.
In a way our society works with the abusers to hide the emotional and mental impact by denying it's importance.
Survivors of abuse are eventually told to 'get over it'. There is supposed to be some deadline for survivors to deal with the abuse.
And when abuse comes in a pure mental/emotional form (no sexual or physical attack) - it so much easier for the abuser to hide and or also to deny that it exists.
Children can live in a mental prison that their abusive parents create. Much like the elephant being chained to the ground and eventually only requiring a small rope. It's learnt to be submissive and not escape or fight back.
That's also why we repress most of the abuse and don't deal with it...because we are taught by the larger world to do that.
The world wants hard working people that read success books and practice positive thinking mantras so they can be good little machine workers. Don't say anything negative, don't talk about the past. Just get over it already.
But the impact of the abuse doesn't go away if it's ignored.
The worst culprits for denying the emotional/mental impact of our past abuse is ourselves.
Just my thoughts on the matter.