miscarriage 22yrs ago, I still think about it

[seajoy]

Why do I still think about something that happened so long ago? I wonder what this child would be like, and how my life would be different if...etc... Does anyone else ever feel this way after so long? The grief is gone, but the sadnees remains a bit, and I still wonder about that little person.

I'm sorry if my thread bothers anyone who may have just lost a baby.

seajoy

 

[BigToe]

What you went through was a huge and traumatic event. It makes sense that it hurt you a great deal and it makes sense that it still saddens you twenty two years later. I can't imagine having to go through that, but if I lost a child through miscarriage I don't think it would be possible to avoid those questions of "what if" that you are dealing with.

I do hope that you are able to enjoy life and be thankful for the blessings you have.

 

[seajoy]

BigToe,

Yes, I am able to enjoy life, and I am greatful for the blessings I have. I thank you for your kind words. I guess maybe it is normal for me to not have "forgotten" that very difficult time in my life.

Thanks, seajoy

 

[Mskedi]

I think it would only be abnormal if you were focusing on it so much that you couldn't function day to day. My mom still becomes sad when she thinks about the baby she lost twenty-five years ago. She has four grown, healthy children, but that doesn't keep her from wondering about the fifth.

And major losses, I think, never leave us. I still cry over the death of my grandmothers and grandfathers, all but one of whom died well over ten years ago. I don't see that as something that will ever stop.

I don't think you're at all alone in this.

 

[heatherq17]

It hasnt been long for me. I think about it everyday. My son was stillborn at 38weeks and I had a miscarriage This past June.

 

[seajoy]

It hasnt been long for me. I think about it everyday. My son was stillborn at 38weeks and I had a miscarriage This past June.

Sorry for your loss. May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

 

[emilythestrange]

Hi, Seajoy, thankyou for your honesty about how you feel, I felt guilty for feeling sad after my miscarriage, and that was 6 months ago. Now I know its ok to feel this way. Your a special person!

 

[lostndown]

awww sweetie. u think about your baby still, b/c you lost a precious baby. i lost my baby to misc. too, in july. i am still dealing with it. it's hard. i think bout nov. 10 (wouldve been due date), and how i was supposed to be excited and hold him/her. it's not easy.

u are a special person, hun. thats completely normal to think about what happened. i know i'll probably think bout mine too. it's hard. if u need to talk or anything, feel free to pm me anytime, honey. im here for u. im only 20 but i know what you're going thru.

~michelle~ (alicia)

i'm praying for you.

 

[emilythestrange]

Thank you for you're encouragement Lostndown, I've only just turned 22, so dont think age has anything to do with it! you still got so much to offer the world!!