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Men who have overweight or "chunky" wives?

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Leanna said:
Lol.... you're cute. I liked your wedding pictures. :thumbsup:

hahah. Well he DOES look like a pear. It is so adorable. I call him my little pear boy and he gets all upset.

He is just so fine! Tee hee!

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It seems that standards for female beauty changed after World War I; before that, idealized women were portrayed as voluputous, or even a bit pudgy. In the 1920s, the "boyish look" was all the rage, when women wore flat bras to hide their breasts. Through the 30s, 40s, and 50s, voluptuous hourglass curves were still appreciated, but then (1965) came Twiggy! Since then, women with any curvature have been told they are TOO FAT, and too many of them believe it.

While the image of "health" probably generates each era's idea of "beauty", we should remember that moderation in all things usually works out best. Women have natural fat deposits in their buttocks, breasts, and legs for good reasons.

Personally, I find a soft, curvaceous woman far more attractive than the skeletons-in-skin the world considers "healthy". My wife is considered "overweight", and I love every ounce! :hug:
 
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Darkhorse said:
It seems that standards for female beauty changed after World War I; before that, idealized women were portrayed as voluputous, or even a bit pudgy. In the 1920s, the "boyish look" was all the rage, when women wore flat bras to hide their breasts. Through the 30s, 40s, and 50s, voluptuous hourglass curves were still appreciated, but then (1965) came Twiggy! Since then, women with any curvature have been told they are TOO FAT, and too many of them believe it.

While the image of "health" probably generates each era's idea of "beauty", we should remember that moderation in all things usually works out best. Women have natural fat deposits in their buttocks, breasts, and legs for good reasons.

Personally, I find a soft, curvaceous woman far more attractive than the skeletons-in-skin the world considers "healthy". My wife is considered "overweight", and I love every ounce! :hug:

What these women don't realize, I think, is that they DO look beautiful if they're in their natural weight range, even if it's very high or very low. The problem is when women clearly (as in visibly) above or below their weight range try to pass themselves off as "still healthy." With the exception of those with a fat fetish, men throughout history have never really been attracted to unhealthy extra weight. (Someone might object by pointing out that men and women with some fat are attractive in subsistence cultures. That was because it took cunning/prestige to obtain enough food to store fat, and power and wealth are timeless sexual attractors. Remember that a) they were still not obscenely obses, and those fat people were MUCH healthier than today's, who mostly have to thank for their corpulence unhealthy foods, a stagnant body, and low metabolisms that have never been challenged.)

Guys in my generation like curves a lot and are pretty vocal about it. It's just that we can usually tell if they're the result of healthy or unhealthy living. ;)
 
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Boy, I've read some good thoughts on this thread but my oh my, some people here are quite superficial.

I grew up with a mother who has an eating disorder. She is far too thin and if she gains even a couple lbs she is obsessed with losing it. It wasn't as noticeable on her when she was younger, but now in her mid-50's, she's starting to look a little odd (nicest way I know to put it since she is my mother). I was 5'5" in high school and weighed 115 lbs. She would offer to pay me to lose weight. As you can imagine, I used to have some real insecurities about my weight feeling I was fat when the doctor told me I should gain about 5 or 10 more lbs.

I'm about 20 lbs overweight right now but seeing as how I just gained a bit after having broken toes, I know it'll come off fairly easily and, for that, I feel blessed.

Before I got pregnant with my first, I was in the Army and in great shape. I was very toned and muscular. I was high risk, gained more than 80 lbs. After I had him, I got to live the prejudice that overweight people face every day. I went to my favorite department store after the birth to buy some women's sized non-pregnancy clothes (since it was apparent I wouldn't be back to my normal jeans in a hurry). I was treated so differently. Normally the clerks are asking if I need help. Instead I was basically ignored. This happened on a number of occasions. I lost all my weight and again was treated as a valuable member of society.

I see a lot of the prejudice that I faced on this thread. That's sad. Fortunately, I've been married almost ten years to a guy who tells me I am beautiful now and told me I was beautiful 80 lbs heavier after my babies. He desires me now and desired me then. What a sad thing to be in a marriage where looks are that important. Looks are temporal. You could get in a car accident tomorrow and have your face seriously disfigured. I truly hope if anybody is ever in that situation, they have a spouse whose love is a bit deeper.

The most beautiful people I've seen come in all sizes. What is inside truly shines through.
 
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My wife is one beautiful chubby woman... she is so beautiful and sexy inside. Its not her fault that she is physically bigger than "normal". She is the best wife, best friend and wonderful lover !! I am a very lucky man !! :thumbsup:
 
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JimfromOhio said:
My wife is one beautiful chubby woman... she is so beautiful and sexy inside. Its not her fault that she is physically bigger than "normal". She is the best wife, best friend and wonderful lover !! I am a very lucky man !! :thumbsup:

Jim you do sound blessed as is your wife.


And, Redguard, thank you. Ummmm, Redguard...I don't often notice the CF characters but t'would appear you've, ummmm, stayed out of the sun a bit this summer? Trying to avoid those freckles?
 
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OreGal said:
Jim you do sound blessed as is your wife.


And, Redguard, thank you. Ummmm, Redguard...I don't often notice the CF characters but t'would appear you've, ummmm, stayed out of the sun a bit this summer? Trying to avoid those freckles?


Thanks !!

Speaking of freckles...I avoid sun because I have enough freckles on me already !!! ^_^
 
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:sigh: I'm chubby, and I never thought much about whether my husband likes it or not, because he never made it an issue...I suppose now I have to go and ask him and put him in a spot (maybe) since he has to tell me the truth:sigh: or should I?

That is the 6 million dollar question?
 
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4childofgod said:
:scratch: Very Rude and disrespectful

Looking back through my comment now, I can see where you are coming from. Yes, I can agree with you. I apologize if anyone was seriously offended and did not mean to come across that way. Things were getting a little serious and sometimes it's good to joke around a little. Can't please everyone... but I certainly do not intentionally mean to hurt anyone's feelings either. Sometimes it's a fine line and I will cross it occasionally.
 
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OreGal said:
Boy, I've read some good thoughts on this thread but my oh my, some people here are quite superficial.

I grew up with a mother who has an eating disorder. She is far too thin and if she gains even a couple lbs she is obsessed with losing it. It wasn't as noticeable on her when she was younger, but now in her mid-50's, she's starting to look a little odd (nicest way I know to put it since she is my mother). I was 5'5" in high school and weighed 115 lbs. She would offer to pay me to lose weight. As you can imagine, I used to have some real insecurities about my weight feeling I was fat when the doctor told me I should gain about 5 or 10 more lbs.

I'm about 20 lbs overweight right now but seeing as how I just gained a bit after having broken toes, I know it'll come off fairly easily and, for that, I feel blessed.

Before I got pregnant with my first, I was in the Army and in great shape. I was very toned and muscular. I was high risk, gained more than 80 lbs. After I had him, I got to live the prejudice that overweight people face every day. I went to my favorite department store after the birth to buy some women's sized non-pregnancy clothes (since it was apparent I wouldn't be back to my normal jeans in a hurry). I was treated so differently. Normally the clerks are asking if I need help. Instead I was basically ignored. This happened on a number of occasions. I lost all my weight and again was treated as a valuable member of society.

I see a lot of the prejudice that I faced on this thread. That's sad. Fortunately, I've been married almost ten years to a guy who tells me I am beautiful now and told me I was beautiful 80 lbs heavier after my babies. He desires me now and desired me then. What a sad thing to be in a marriage where looks are that important. Looks are temporal. You could get in a car accident tomorrow and have your face seriously disfigured. I truly hope if anybody is ever in that situation, they have a spouse whose love is a bit deeper.

The most beautiful people I've seen come in all sizes. What is inside truly shines through.

Amen!!

My best friend has an eating disorder of sorts - she thinks she has to look a certain way for her to find a husband, and thinking that she won't ever get there, she would eat more and more. She is overweight, but she is one of the most beautiful people I have ever seen. She has pretty aqua eyes, thick natural blonde hair, and perfect porcelean skin. She is extremely intelligent, giving, witty, funny, etc. She's got a lot of friends all over the world. However, superficial people like a lot of you have egged on the nonsense, and at almost 40, she doesn't think she will ever find someone. She has lost over 70 lbs in weight watchers in the last 9 months, looks fantastic, but still doesn't think she is pretty enough, because she is still a bit overweight - it's so ingrained into her. While all this is her loss, I think it is even more so the loss of all the men who would have found her intriguing if they could get past her weight.

Personally, I like guys who look and act like teddy bears, so I'm extremely attracted to my 6'4" 300 lb hubby. I'm in Weight Watchers with my friend and have lost a fair amount of weight, myself, but my hubby was still telling me I was beautiful (and showing me how much he thought that) when I was my heaviest.
 
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Bottom line: When you're hungry, eat. When you're not, don't. Stop eating when you're full. Move your body and don't just sit on the couch all the time. Make sure you're drinking enough water and getting in a balanced diet, complete with all 4 food groups.

Just like we all learned in elementary school.

If you're doing all those things, then you're (at least relatively!) healthy and have nothing to apologize for, no matter what size you are. And don't let anyone - not even your spouse - tell you differently!!

And lastly, as I mentioned, even if you're not at your "desired" or "goal" weight, think of yourself as good looking and treat yourself well!!!
 
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