Men and Diapers

[Stringaling]

I will be posting this on other areas of CF, so please vote only once...

Should men be responsible for diper changes? Do you as a man, or for women do your husbands, change diapers if the need arises?

Doyou feel that God intended for men to be involved in this aspect of child care?

Also since I can't post in the men's forum, would one of you gents put it there for me? I really need as many answers as possible...thanks..

 

[Athene]

Yes he will, my husband doesn't consider such tasks beneath his 'male dignity', he hasn't done so yet because our baby isn't born but he will change nappies.

 

[faithful1also]

My husband only changed a diaper once and that was when I was sick.

 

[ericmartens]

my kids are potty trained now, but I shared the responsibility daily with my wife, it really was 50/50.

 

[c1ners]

When my daughter was a baby my husband would gage at the site of a dirty diaper. It never failed, everytime I got into the shower whe would dirty her diaper, and he would call for me to come change it. One day I told him that if she dirtied her diaper he was going to have to change it. I was going to take a shower, and don't call me. As usual, just as I was shampooing my hair he called for me. I called back telling him that he could do it. He called several times, but I ignored him and continued on with my shower. When I got out they weren't in the living room, so I looked in the babies room. There they were; the two of them covered in poop. What a site! He didn't know where the diapers were, and he had left the diaper bag in the living room. It was so funny! It cured him though. After that he never gaged, and he always made sure that he knew where everything was.

 

[becky81101]

My husband has always changed diapers from the day our 1st son was born. He actually changed a diaper before I did while we were in the hospital still. He'll be the same way with the one we're about to have (hopefully this week!)... not because I make him, but because they're his kids too. We both discipline them, we both feed them, we both bathe them - why not both change them?

 

[christalee4]

Of course a dad should take part in the changing of the dirty diaper. I can't believe this is an issue of contention. All this does is reinforce the old stereotype that men are stupid, clueless, or too delicate to handle looking at poo. Same deal with cooking and cleaning.

 

[beehoney]

I notice the poll was directed at the men but of course I'll expect my husband to change diapers.

 

[Svt4Him]

Depends.




No...I mean if they are wearing depends.

 

[Autumnleaf]

I will be posting this on other areas of CF, so please vote only once...

Should men be responsible for diper changes? Do you as a man, or for women do your husbands, change diapers if the need arises?

Doyou feel that God intended for men to be involved in this aspect of child care?

Also since I can't post in the men's forum, would one of you gents put it there for me? I really need as many answers as possible...thanks..

If the wife works full time and the husband stays home with the children he should always change the diapers and vice versa if the wife stays at home and the husband works full time.

 

[seamonster]

of course the husband should help out -- they're his children, too

 

[alwaysyoung]

I voted, "only if my wife can't do it". My dh will change diapers, but he gets grumpy about it. However, once in a great while he will do it to be nice to me. I'm a SAHM so it's my job and I'm thankful for any help I get with it.
Lisa

 

[christalee4]

If the wife works full time and the husband stays home with the children he should always change the diapers and vice versa if the wife stays at home and the husband works full time.

"Always"?

Don't you think that's a bit rigid? What if one spouse was sick, or away? Flexibility in the skills department makes the teamwork go smoother, IMO. Where did this myth against men changing diapers come about, I wonder? Is it derived from the same idea that men shouldn't be present for the birth of their babies, because they might faint?

In terms of special skills, women don't have a superior edge for physically handling an extra large deposit in the diaper. Other than a "Tsk, tsk, perhaps Junior shouldn't eat so many cooked carrots..." analysis, I would think Moms or Dads are equally up to the task!

 

[Autumnleaf]

"Always"?

Don't you think that's a bit rigid? What if one spouse was sick, or away? Flexibility in the skills department makes the teamwork go smoother, IMO. Where did this myth against men changing diapers come about, I wonder? Is it derived from the same idea that men shouldn't be present for the birth of their babies, because they might faint?

In terms of special skills, women don't have a superior edge for physically handling an extra large deposit in the diaper. Other than a "Tsk, tsk, perhaps Junior shouldn't eat so many cooked carrots..." analysis, I would think Moms or Dads are equally up to the task!

There are things I do daily when I'm at work that are not fun. I always have to do them. My wife does not come to work and do them for me, ever. I cook often at home, and clean up a fair bit too. I do some laundry and some picking up around the house. And yes, I do change some diapers. That said, I don't think I should be expected to do it.

 

[alwaysyoung]

The title of this thread cracks me up...don't know why.
Lisa

 

[~ Gig ~]

When my daughter was a baby my husband change her just as much or more than me.

 

[Athene]

There are things I do daily when I'm at work that are not fun. I always have to do them. My wife does not come to work and do them for me, ever. I cook often at home, and clean up a fair bit too. I do some laundry and some picking up around the house. And yes, I do change some diapers. That said, I don't think I should be expected to do it.

Why would anyone expect you to change the nappy of your own child? It's not like it's your own flesh and blood or anything . . . . oh hang on . . . .

 

[InTheFlame]

There are things I do daily when I'm at work that are not fun. I always have to do them. My wife does not come to work and do them for me, ever. I cook often at home, and clean up a fair bit too. I do some laundry and some picking up around the house. And yes, I do change some diapers. That said, I don't think I should be expected to do it.

Cool. Does that mean your wife gets to knock off at 5-6pm too? Just wait... if you're only working 8-9 hours a day, and SHE'S only working 8-9 hours a day, who looks after the kids and cooks the dinner after you've both knocked off?

 

[InTheFlame]

There are things I do daily when I'm at work that are not fun. I always have to do them. My wife does not come to work and do them for me, ever. I cook often at home, and clean up a fair bit too. I do some laundry and some picking up around the house. And yes, I do change some diapers. That said, I don't think I should be expected to do it.

Oh... I forgot to mention, I do agree that your wife shouldn't be hauling stinky kids into your work, yelling, "Autumn! It's your turn to change the diaper, and it's a FULL one!!"

 

[christalee4]

Oh... I forgot to mention, I do agree that your wife shouldn't be hauling stinky kids into your work, yelling, "Autumn! It's your turn to change the diaper, and it's a FULL one!!"

LOL!!

To equate one's work outside of the home with changing diapers doesn't exactly equate. Child raising is child raising.

That kind of mentality amongst husbands and wives to me speaks of a ledger in which one has to measure up equal amounts of time and efforts spent for work and leisure. In other words, I work so many hours and that equates to.... what?

Nonsense - family life and work is separate, sorry.

It's not a matter of not feeling like doing something. If one was truly sick, with say bronchitis or a bad cold, and the other spouse was around, surely that spouse would change a nasty diaper and let the sick loved one take a restee. Same deal if the outside working spouse was sick.

Rigid family roles create less teamwork and more resentment, IMO.