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Well it worked quite well, I might say
I think I'd agree with that assessment
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I think I'd agree with that assessment
You need to meet your potential "mate" in ordinary circumstances, and you need to be acting "ordinarily".
Far too many people go into the relationship game doing just that... playing a game. They decide they must have their game face on, and so they're going to feel free to raise up certain defences, and look for certain, concrete qualities that have nothing to do with being a person, and more to do with being a "date."
In other words, we're testing for the wrong things, and using postures that encourage the types that are prepared for them. If you're the type of person that needs to be "gamed", you're going to attract the wrong person the rest of your life. Exceptions exist, of course, but that's just a fact.
If you're expecting people to have to pass a litany of tests just to get you excited, you're going to lose. Every time.
That isn't to say that you shouldn't be scrutinizing, or looking for certain qualities. But in this modern day and age, the "qualities" we seek are either too low, or far too superficial.
Far too many people go into the relationship game doing just that... playing a game. They decide they must have their game face on, and so they're going to feel free to raise up certain defences, and look for certain, concrete qualities that have nothing to do with being a person, and more to do with being a "date."
In other words, we're testing for the wrong things, and using postures that encourage the types that are prepared for them. If you're the type of person that needs to be "gamed", you're going to attract the wrong person the rest of your life. Exceptions exist, of course, but that's just a fact.
If you're expecting people to have to pass a litany of tests just to get you excited, you're going to lose. Every time.
That isn't to say that you shouldn't be scrutinizing, or looking for certain qualities. But in this modern day and age, the "qualities" we seek are either too low, or far too superficial.
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eatenbylocusts
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I just posted this response in another thread.
I've met past SOs from eharmony, lately Christian mingle, and also at dance lessons put on by a Christian. The church where I'm a member does not have many (if any) singles in my age range. I often attend single's events at another church, but that has never resulted in a date, but certainly some nice acquaintances.
If you don't want to try the online route, I would suggest looking up a big church and see about some single events. Most of the time they have them on days other than Sundays or after church, so you don't have to give up your own church.
I've met past SOs from eharmony, lately Christian mingle, and also at dance lessons put on by a Christian. The church where I'm a member does not have many (if any) singles in my age range. I often attend single's events at another church, but that has never resulted in a date, but certainly some nice acquaintances.
If you don't want to try the online route, I would suggest looking up a big church and see about some single events. Most of the time they have them on days other than Sundays or after church, so you don't have to give up your own church.
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My daughter met her husband right here on CF in singles. And I met my man because of that, lol, it's his father. God works in funny ways.
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miss_klara
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At work - he was a customer, I served him a pie and he recognised me from church.
We were friends after that, and things just grew from there
We were friends after that, and things just grew from there
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ladyinwaiting16
The wife of a warrior!!
I agree with Drshaft on meeting others in ordainary circumstances. I cant say that is how i met my fiance, it just happens to be he seen me before I ever knew who he was. I was at a racetrack with the ambulance and volunteer for when we had a bad accident which we had to call a extra unit in to assist. It was there he seen me for the first time, it was 5 months later before we even met each other and started dating.
I would just be yourself, do stuff u like to do in life. U may have already met him or u may meet him at some random spot that u never thought of meeting someone at.
I would just be yourself, do stuff u like to do in life. U may have already met him or u may meet him at some random spot that u never thought of meeting someone at.
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xXxKristaxXx
Never regret anything that made you smile.
This is kind of funny, I actually met my boyfriend in a mental hospital. He wasnt supposed to be there at all and I was in there for taking too many pain relievers. It's funny how things work out.
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