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[scotsguy1980]

Although drinking is part of it it may not be the same kind of drinking as what is more common.
I'm effected by others and it controls my life, my self-esteem is effected I don't feel in the mood to do anything, I drink to much leading me to have serious money problems.
The people who have this effect on me are people from deprived areas, I mean people from areas with generally lower incomes and higher numbers of unemployed, areas effected by higher numbers of crimes and drink and drug abuse.
I have lived in these areas all my life but when I was on holiday about 3 years ago I went to an area not how I mentioned and I wasn't effected by these people.
I see and hear these people and I lose my "normal" thinking how to live a normal daily life and lose my self-esteem/desire to acheive any goals/motivation, and I drink.
Drinking is a serious problem for me I have sold furniture and appliances to pay for the drink, I'm trying to pay bills, pay for food and gas/electricity and I have two payment plans in the process of being arranged. It will be taking a serious effect on my health too.
I don't want to sit within an alcoholics anonymous group but feel maybe talking to someone one-to-one may help.
I know God help people with these problems and I pray.
Has anyone had this same or similar problem?

 

[I'ddie4him2]

Although drinking is part of it it may not be the same kind of drinking as what is more common.
I'm effected by others and it controls my life, my self-esteem is effected I don't feel in the mood to do anything, I drink to much leading me to have serious money problems.
The people who have this effect on me are people from deprived areas, I mean people from areas with generally lower incomes and higher numbers of unemployed, areas effected by higher numbers of crimes and drink and drug abuse.
I have lived in these areas all my life but when I was on holiday about 3 years ago I went to an area not how I mentioned and I wasn't effected by these people.
I see and hear these people and I lose my "normal" thinking how to live a normal daily life and lose my self-esteem/desire to acheive any goals/motivation, and I drink.
Drinking is a serious problem for me I have sold furniture and appliances to pay for the drink, I'm trying to pay bills, pay for food and gas/electricity and I have two payment plans in the process of being arranged. It will be taking a serious effect on my health too.
I don't want to sit within an alcoholics anonymous group but feel maybe talking to someone one-to-one may help.
I know God help people with these problems and I pray.
Has anyone had this same or similar problem?

Hi scotsguy,

I just turned 45 this year and have fought these urges most of my life.
Alcoholism ran in my family thru several uncles and a grandfather that drank almost constantly. In my teen years I started drinking before I went to school in the mornings, After school, and anytime I could scrape enough money up to get a bottle of liquor.

During my 1st marriage I spent almost 7 years totally sober then my ex unexpectedly filed for divorce. I spent the next year in the bottle trying to forget what happened and why. After moving back home for a few months to get my feet back under me, I got a new job out of state and got back out on my own again.

I moved about 8 hours away from where I grew up and started working 50+ hours a week to pay my child support. I still had a drink on occasion but found that I controlled how much and when I drank. I didn't have reminders around me all the time that got me depressed. I was able to sit at a bar and have 1 drink and not be tempted to have more.

I did go to AA meetings every week and soon was able to talk about what had driven me to drink so heavy for so long. Once I got that off my back, I didn't feel a desire to get drunk and rowdy. Try talking to a friend or even a brother and be open about how you feel. They may be able to help you somehow besides moral support. Someone you can talk to one on one would help a great deal.

Let me know how things are go soon.
Posting here that you need to talk is a good start.

 

[Angeldove97]

Hi there,
I think an important first step is realizing that you see what this type of addiction is doing to your life. Alcoholism runs in my family for generations--- most of my family, sadly, never realized that their drinking causes alot of hardships.

If you don't feel comfortable yet going to AA type group meetings, try giving the support group a call and ask if you could have a mentor to just sit down with and talk about the problems. I'm sure discussing things online will be a huge help to you as well, but having a person in real life to keep you on your feet and away from drinking will be an even bigger help in your life.

If you need some resources to get started, please feel free to pm me or I'ddie and we'll help you out with that.

Take care--- and keep sharing with us

 

[ww2pigeon]

Hi, me
I hear what you are saying. I too, the more I drank the more loss of control I felt. How others behaved or what they said, I would heap upon me as if it where my cross to bear. So I drank MORE.


It is hard when you and I fall into that pit and make it home. Trying to break a way from the familiar is hard for us. It is all really very predictable, we know what they are going to do and say. And how they will act. And we know how we are going to respond, me may get mad and say something or maybe not, but what we will do is drink to shut the pain down.


Yes, You and I give into it. And start to play in the devils sand box. We listen to all the negative and lies and with each blow, we fall harder and we give up. It becomes easier to give in than to believe that God can do what he says He can do.
If you and I stop playing in the devil's sand box and move to God's sand box, We would have to learn to hear and feel what God wants for me.
Through the devil may heap a lot of GUILT AND FEAR ON US. But YOU and I both know that God has paid in full for our SINS. I don't have to carry that GUILT very far, just to God's sand box, and that FEAR is just False Evidence Appearing Real. I could give it to God, he knows what to do with it.


Yes, you and I do become bankrupt, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Yes, our booze take it all and want even more. And so we try to give what we don't have and be come even more sick. So we go to God and pray for God to fix it Yet, we won't let go long enough to allow God to help. We get mad and scream and take it back, we yell, HOW COULD YOU BE SO SLOW!!!!!!


No the devil doesn't want us to change, to do something different, because he loose control. He doesn't want us at meetings because they help, God Help us.
I don't know about you, but I believe I going to take myself to as many meeting as I can. So that I can show God that I am WILLING TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. I pray in Jesus Name that you will come too.

As I will pray for you to find the faith and strength to go to an A.A. meeting and help God help you, in Jesus name.

And yes many of us have. God Loves You and hears your sorrow!

 

[scotsguy1980]

recently thankfully I've not had a alcohol problem

 

[TheMainException]

That's good Scotsguy...what have you been doing to prevent any more problems?

 

[ww2pigeon]

That is sooo great that you have been not drinking. So what have you been doing differently? I pray that as the days go by you find even more strength to stay away from drinking and you get stronger in your belief that through God all things are possible. In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[BlessEwe]

Yes this is painful to change. We can stop the substance that we put into our body, but change really comes when we work hard on ourself and allowing God to come in and mold our heart. If we don't we are still the same ( Dry drunk) ...
Recovery is like peeling the layers that got us to drink or use in the first place. Once those painful layers are uncovered and no longer in the dark closet, they become less painful or Big.
You say it is your envirorment that keeps you down, this will not change because you have no control over your envirorment. And in time relapse is very possible. Recovery is learning to know when to let go of control and changing our attitude towards these things.
We have a choice each day what kind of attitude we will embrace that day. We can not change the fact that people act a certain way. We can only change How We respond to our enviroment.

Life is hard and we have a hard time not controling it. Things will bug us and in time run for an escape because it is not working. We need to numb the moment because it is too hard.

Going to some kind of meeting allowing others to help you, and make friends to hold you accountable as well alerting you when they see the old attitude creeping in. We all have this in common and hold each other up through support, love, and prayer.
Online meetings are good, but in person is so very important because of really seeing the person. Eye contact, body language, ect. ect.

Recovery holds many promises, so all of the hard work does change in time.
Start each day with God, asking Him to come in and show His light allowing you to see His truth, and open the doors that need to open. Ask Him to take the blinders down that keep us bound and in the dark. Freedom feels so good, and chains can be broken.
God Bless and keep you.