Me and my Girlfriend...

[lynxfx]

Hi there, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months. We met through a mutual friend and have a lond distance relationship. We both met with similar previous relationships and identical struggles. We were both on a low and I believe we were brought together by God to pick each other up. After months of challenges and hurdles both our realtionships with God are where they should be, and a month ago a recieved a prophetic word that said I need to increase my faith and turst in God for him to truly bless us as a couple and move forward together.

After a hard summer I felt I was finally able to furfill this but I have just had the hardest weekend of my life. My girlfriend had been ill and just moved in to her new Uni house so she has been a bit of a wreck, i thought I shouldn't visit and let her settle in but she wanted to see me and I was totally missing her. Basically as she was in this state she treated me really abruptly, and showed harldy any compassion towards me. We both realised the situation and she has come up with this conclusion:

That God used this relationship to rebuild our faith, bring me closer to God and now that has happened she feels it may be time to be apart. This was exactely what happened with her X-boyfriend, and has said she has noticed so many parallels.

I still hold the prophecy close to my heart and is the reason for my current faith, but am beggining to think maybe this prohecy was wrong ? And am scared that if my relationship falls apart so will my faith because it will destroy my most powerfull testimony. She feels she needs to pray and get revelation from God, but have a feeling she has already decided to end it and make the wrong choice for both of us.

Neither of us are happy at this moment in time but I believe the last 8 months have built a foundation for us and she believes the complete opposite.

I love her, she loves me but says she may not be 'in love' with me.

Pray please and encourage me.

 

[hypostatic]

Praying!

 

[ChrisCountryGirl]

Praying...

 

[Ruth~]

Praying for you and your situation.

 

[SunMessenger]

I Promise To Never Forget The Passion Of Christ !!!


In The Beloved Name Of Jesus Christ I Pray The Holy Spirit Enter And Meet All Needs. This I Pray In The Name Of Jesus Christ Our Savior Who Suffered Torture At The Hands Of Men So We May Be Forgiven. Amen

 

[mom_one]

praying for you & g/f

 

[HeKHANGdoIt]

i'm going thru the exact same thing! i've posted a thread about it too. i will pray for you my brother and know that you are not alone. my cliche advice is to truely seek only God right now. If it is His will, He will make it happen somehow, despite what she feels or how firm she stands on her position. our focus should be to not allow anything or anyone become a higher priority than God. This, i know, is very hard and will be a constant struggle, but God will help us. I'll keep you in my prayers as I pray for my own situation everyday. Keep your faith and hope in God, and not on this relationship. He wants best for us, so if our relationships fall, there's something better He's gonna reveal to us. Keep me informed, and I wish you the comfort i pray for myself. God bless you, my brother.

 

[silentpoet]

Faith is what we have or are given in bad times. I think you may have been wrong about the together part, or maybe not, but struggles and sorrows is where God works on us the most. I pray for your comfort and your heart.

 

[lynxfx]

Thanks guys, been praying alot and trying to worship and spoken to my pastor. Everything is in perspective now and feel we have to make the following choice :

1) If we carry on like this we should break up as niether of us is happy.

or

2) Start over with a fresh relationship and put God first from the beggining because only God can put the pieces back together, we both have never had this sort of relationship and are both wanting it, but i feel she may be looking to start with another christian instead of trying with me.

 

[GeorgeB]

Hi there, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months. We met through a mutual friend and have a lond distance relationship. We both met with similar previous relationships and identical struggles. We were both on a low and I believe we were brought together by God to pick each other up. After months of challenges and hurdles both our realtionships with God are where they should be, and a month ago a recieved a prophetic word that said I need to increase my faith and turst in God for him to truly bless us as a couple and move forward together.

After a hard summer I felt I was finally able to furfill this but I have just had the hardest weekend of my life. My girlfriend had been ill and just moved in to her new Uni house so she has been a bit of a wreck, i thought I shouldn't visit and let her settle in but she wanted to see me and I was totally missing her. Basically as she was in this state she treated me really abruptly, and showed harldy any compassion towards me. We both realised the situation and she has come up with this conclusion:

That God used this relationship to rebuild our faith, bring me closer to God and now that has happened she feels it may be time to be apart. This was exactely what happened with her X-boyfriend, and has said she has noticed so many parallels.

I still hold the prophecy close to my heart and is the reason for my current faith, but am beggining to think maybe this prohecy was wrong ? And am scared that if my relationship falls apart so will my faith because it will destroy my most powerfull testimony. She feels she needs to pray and get revelation from God, but have a feeling she has already decided to end it and make the wrong choice for both of us.

Neither of us are happy at this moment in time but I believe the last 8 months have built a foundation for us and she believes the complete opposite.

I love her, she loves me but says she may not be 'in love' with me.

Pray please and encourage me.

Will be keeping you and your gf in our prayers!!!

 

[synger]

may the Lord bless and keep you and your girlfriend, and guide your footsteps along the paths he has chosen for you. May He teach you both patience and humility, so that you can communicate more easily with one anohter. And may He give you wisdom as you talk out these concerns togehter.


canticum graduum levavi oculos meos in montes
unde veniet auxilium meum
auxilium meum a Domino factore caeli et terrae

I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills.
From whence cometh my help?
My help cometh from the LORD which made heaven and earth. (Psalm 121)

 

[Smileyill]

I just went through a similar relationship, except I was the one who grew. Of course, I really needed to grow. She ended it, probably rightly.

But to encourage you, I did not lose my new faith, in fact it increased. It's still increasing, I'm lonely, but God will fill that hole (one way or the other

 

[Caprial]

praying for you.

 

[lynxfx]

praying for you.

Thank you