Me and A Girl Like Each Other But I Don't Think I'm Ready For A Relationship?

[nb408]

The reason is because for some reason I have trust issues. I'm always afraid that I'm not good enough for her. Whenever I see her talking to another guy or close friend that's a guy while having a great conversation; I try to prepare myself for her leaving me for him. To the point where I imagine one day just seeing them holding hands and going out. This is why I could never love my ex girlfriend even though she loved me. How do I stop living like this? When I envision it, it's like it actually happened so it makes me feel bad all the time.. The reason it hurts so bad is because I like her too.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi nb408 ....
Sorry noone has replied to your post.
What you describe sounds more like self worth issues more than trust issues to me. I suggest your really feel into what your feeling inside about why you don't feel good enough. What past events are the root of that feeling.
Really meditate on how God loves you and created a unique you .. there fore you are exactly who God wants you to be. The women who love you will love you for who God created you to be. In a real sense we can't hold to us, or possess anyone who don't want to stay with us if they want to leave if if you were the fantasy guy you think you should be.
So learn who you are and know that is who God created you to be.

 

[Mel2020]

Hi nb408 ....
Sorry noone has replied to your post.
What you describe sounds more like self worth issues more than trust issues to me. I suggest your really feel into what your feeling inside about why you don't feel good enough. What past events are the root of that feeling.
Really meditate on how God loves you and created a unique you .. there fore you are exactly who God wants you to be. The women who love you will love you for who God created you to be. In a real sense we can't hold to us, or possess anyone who don't want to stay with us if they want to leave if if you were the fantasy guy you think you should be.
So learn who you are and know that is who God created you to be.

Nothing more to be added as dayhiker already gave some really good advice.

 

[Troy1]

God loves you! A dating relationship requires two people and the relationship cannot be stronger than the weakest person in the relationship. The only control you have is over yourself. Take a weakness you think you have and hand it to God. Ask Him for wisdom James 1:5 Ask Him to change you and He will change you! More than likely God will start to point things out in your life He wants you to do differently so He can change you. When He asks, trust Him, believe Him and obey Him.

Great relationships are about what we can do for the other person. Until you are thinking about what you can do for her instead of what she can do for you, your not ready to date. God loves you!! There is no reason to obsess over the gift He may give someone else. God is a God of abundance!! There is always enough for everyone!! Trust in Jesus, do the work, the ladies will notice. Don't give up! Sorry if I'm preaching!