Mature chat thread.....

[from scratch]

Well that has a doubble meaning. I don't have a Ruth and I won't give in to the lust of the flesh at least in this area. Simply to much at stake for me. I'm not talking about the vainity stuff either.

I used to sell weight loss and management stuff. I gotta admit there is nothing easier to sell than vainity to a woman.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well that has a doubble meaning. I don't have a Ruth and I won't give in to the lust of the flesh at least in this area. Simply to much at stake for me. I'm not talking about the vainity stuff either.

I used to sell weight loss and management stuff. I gotta admit there is nothing easier to sell than vainity to a woman.

Well there aren't many men (even ones calling themselves men of God) that are like you in not giving into the lust of the flesh. For that I commend you. Women like me appreciate men like you. I wish there were more like you around.

 

[Reneemo4]

My friend Leigh-Ann posted this on my face book last night.. I don't want to worry about my future yet you do wonder how anything good might happen.. and I so see this as GODS message to me through her.. just was everything I wanted to hear.. a direction forward..

Now see, and YOU have been a messenger to me by passing along these wonderful messages too! Here, and in the other topic where you post encouragement! I *LOVE* how God works!!!

 

[Karen-Rose]

Well that has a doubble meaning. I don't have a Ruth and I won't give in to the lust of the flesh at least in this area. Simply to much at stake for me. I'm not talking about the vainity stuff either.

I used to sell weight loss and management stuff. I gotta admit there is nothing easier to sell than vainity to a woman.

I take exception to that lat sentence....

 

[peacechild4]

Now see, and YOU have been a messenger to me by passing along these wonderful messages too! Here, and in the other topic where you post encouragement! I *LOVE* how God works!!!

Praise GOD.. I love how GOD works too..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

So I think the pest control guy likes me. I don't call him very often, but I get these tiny water ants that invade my counter and grrrr it drives me nuts and when he comes he does my whole house and gets rid of the ants with 2 special chemicals he uses and he only charges me 35.00 "cuz I'm special" and then last night he said he was glad to come out to do my house cuz then he got to see me! He gave me his card with his cell phone and pager and said "the one that has my numbers on it is for you!" don't give that one away (he gave me a couple of extra cards) and then he gave me 2 hugs when he left and told me to call him if I needed anything! The last comment is what puzzled me, what does that mean? Of course I would call him if I need my house sprayed. I know he is a workaholic cuz he said he's had 3 days off in the last 6 months or something like that. He didn't ask me out (he did ask me if I had been going to the gym cuz I look great) so I'm not really sure what to make of it. He was the same way last time, but I don't think I'm ready to go out yet, but he didn't ask me anyway. What does that mean "call me if you need anything?"

 

[from scratch]

I take exception to that lat sentence....

Be my guest sweet heart. I used to sell make up and beauty supplies to. Easy money.

 

[from scratch]

So I think the pest control guy likes me. I don't call him very often, but I get these tiny water ants that invade my counter and grrrr it drives me nuts and when he comes he does my whole house and gets rid of the ants with 2 special chemicals he uses and he only charges me 35.00 "cuz I'm special" and then last night he said he was glad to come out to do my house cuz then he got to see me! He gave me his card with his cell phone and pager and said "the one that has my numbers on it is for you!" don't give that one away (he gave me a couple of extra cards) and then he gave me 2 hugs when he left and told me to call him if I needed anything! The last comment is what puzzled me, what does that mean? Of course I would call him if I need my house sprayed. I know he is a workaholic cuz he said he's had 3 days off in the last 6 months or something like that. He didn't ask me out (he did ask me if I had been going to the gym cuz I look great) so I'm not really sure what to make of it. He was the same way last time, but I don't think I'm ready to go out yet, but he didn't ask me anyway. What does that mean "call me if you need anything?"

I personally think that the pest control guy wants to see if there are ants in you pants. He is looking for trouble and I would bet he ain't loyal. Get a new pest control service.

 

[from scratch]

Well there aren't many men (even ones calling themselves men of God) that are like you in not giving into the lust of the flesh. For that I commend you. Women like me appreciate men like you. I wish there were more like you around.

Well thank you. It does make life tough. One woman thought I had a woman in every destination town all over the country. And she knew me for 15 years as a single and I never ever even hit on her. Wonder why she thought I had a woman in every town. I used to drive a big rig coast to coast. Even had em crawling on my truck before the wheels quit turning.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I personally think that the pest control guy wants to see if there are ants in you pants. He is looking for trouble and I would bet he ain't loyal. Get a new pest control service.

No that's not it. And if I got a new pest control I wouldn't be able to afford it. He doesn't act weird he's very respectful and I only see him about once a year when I get these ant problems. He owns the company so he can charge what he wants. Just trying to figure out what "call me if you need anything" other than of course I would call him for pest control. I had a guy awhile back that came to buy a bed I was selling and he mentioned that he was divorced and yada yada and then he says to me"well if you ever want to go out to dinner or something, you've got my number" I was like OK (scratching my head inside my mind like WTH?) he was NOT my type at all, but I thought that was odd for him to say "well you've got my number" instead of "hey would you be interested in going out to dinner sometime?" either way I wouldn't have, but.....

 

[peacechild4]

Let your heart lead you Michelle.. you are a wise woman.. and you love GOD.. who knows how a person is going to come into our life.. bathe any relationship with prayer and let GOD lead you.. we do have to be cautious but also I believe as we trust GOD.. HE will do the bringing into our lives.. we really can live and move in our lives without fear..

 

[peacechild4]

I was talking to a friend on face book about my life etc.. last night.. and she asked if I had ever heard the word.. narcissim.. and gas lighting.. I hadn't... any way after we finished talking I looked them up.. I was astounded.. they so describe my husband and the things have happened in our lives and marriage.. There is a reason why he has acted the way he has towards me.. and this is actually a mental problem.. everything just seems to fit..
I need to do alot more research and I really do not know what to do with this new information...... it just helps me see I am not crazy.. and that everything that has happened was not all because of me.. and in fact probably a lot less of me then I was led to believe.. GOD is with me.. and leading me to better places...

 

[dayhiker]

PC ... ya, I never did think the problems in your marriage were mostly your fault. You were working way to hard to make thing work for that to be the case.

I'm going to guess that this new information is only going to help your EX in proper perspective. Another step on the way to peace in your heart. Praise God

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I was talking to a friend on face book about my life etc.. last night.. and she asked if I had ever heard the word.. narcissim.. and gas lighting.. I hadn't... any way after we finished talking I looked them up.. I was astounded.. they so describe my husband and the things have happened in our lives and marriage.. There is a reason why he has acted the way he has towards me.. and this is actually a mental problem.. everything just seems to fit..
I need to do alot more research and I really do not know what to do with this new information...... it just helps me see I am not crazy.. and that everything that has happened was not all because of me.. and in fact probably a lot less of me then I was led to believe.. GOD is with me.. and leading me to better places...

I can see thru your posts that you are growing leaps and bounds in the Lord Praise God! And I'm glad you are realizing that some things you really don't have control over especially if they involve the will of another human being. One thing to note about narcissism is that most often they do not change (unless they find the Lord and He can change their heart) but otherwise they will always be about the universe evolving around them and what's important to them. Just keep praying for your ex as you move on and grow in your relationship with God. God Bless you sister!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Peacechild, I know God is in control. I am not looking for a relationship or questioning that. I was just trying to get a simple answer on what a "guy" could possibly mean when he tells a woman "call me if you need anything" For what it's worth I would ONLY call him if/when I have another bug problem. Like I said, not really ready to date and not sure he's my type even, so it's SO not about that. It's just about the comment he made.

 

[peacechild4]

Peacechild, I know God is in control. I am not looking for a relationship or questioning that. I was just trying to get a simple answer on what a "guy" could possibly mean when he tells a woman "call me if you need anything" For what it's worth I would ONLY call him if/when I have another bug problem. Like I said, not really ready to date and not sure he's my type even, so it's SO not about that. It's just about the comment he made.

I often wonder.. how it would happen Michelle.. you know finding someone else.. or even knowing that this was a good or right thing to do..

I guess GOD will have to show lights in the sky or some such magic cause with broken relationships in our past.. one can be very hesitant to even think it..

I cannot help thinking of the story of Ruth.. she was just going about her business of getting food for her and Naomi to eat and surive.. yet she wandered without knowing into the fields of the man who would become her husband.. a kind and good man.. but more then that he was a way GOD used to help her and Naomi not only survive but prosper and be cared for while the future played out..

I just want to see good things in every possible way in every possible meeting and every possible avenue you know.. I think that this man being kind to you is a gift from GOD.. whatever other thoughts he might be having or not having.. thats all..

Every good gift comes down to us from our Father in Heaven.. that is where I am coming from.. I don't want to see evil in anyone or anything even or rather I want to stay positive.. that is where I am coming from..

My fav verse is Genesis 50:20
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives

 

[peacechild4]

I can see thru your posts that you are growing leaps and bounds in the Lord Praise God! And I'm glad you are realizing that some things you really don't have control over especially if they involve the will of another human being. One thing to note about narcissism is that most often they do not change (unless they find the Lord and He can change their heart) but otherwise they will always be about the universe evolving around them and what's important to them. Just keep praying for your ex as you move on and grow in your relationship with God. God Bless you sister!

That to me is a sign that GOD is in control.. thank you Michelle I have an important paper in the car I have been stalling to hand back to legal people.. I needed some encouraged today and prayed for it.. I see in yoru reply an answer thank you thank you.. I will not ever stop praying for him.. till my dying day.. GOD bless you also..

 

[peacechild4]

PC ... ya, I never did think the problems in your marriage were mostly your fault. You were working way to hard to make thing work for that to be the case.

I'm going to guess that this new information is only going to help your EX in proper perspective. Another step on the way to peace in your heart. Praise God

It truly is my friend.. thank you.. Praise GOD indeed..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well just like when I met my husband (at first) God will probably have to practically beat me over the head, tackle me and pin me down, and shake it into me LOL (can you picture it ) when/if another guy comes into my life. Right now I care more about being in God's will for my life, and doing what God wants me to do and trying to get my children grown without any major distractions so....

Peacechild, glad to be encouraging to you but just know I mean every word!
On a side note, my older son informed me this morning that he will be able to go to church on Sunday because he switched shifts with his friend (because his friend asked him to) So YAY!!!! Just the fact that he wants to go to church is a plus and this will be the second time in a month but only the 3rd time since he started his job a year ago. So Thank you Jesus!

 

[dayhiker]

Ya, for his going to church.

I really want yo see when God tackles you. That would be so kewl to see.